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Kaidan I Citadel DLC

Because I'm now doubting myself:

I wanna see the Tempest after ten years. Yes I love that MEA gives us a beautiful shiny ship but I wanna see what she looks like after 10 years bouncing around Heleus and beyond. Dents in the doorframes from so many "oops! that doesn't fit!"'s, chrome scuffed up from wear, rubber ingrained into the glass walkway to Ryder's cabin from unnumerable times Ryder's pivoted on that one spot to slide down the ladder. I want to see how the use of rooms changes - maybe they get a better rec room set up, maybe the two rooms downstairs become bedrooms so everyone has somewhere to sleep aside from the bunk room - and how they personalise the inside of the Tempest further. Stickers slapped over the tops of doorways, graffiti on the cupboards of the kitchen, sticky notes on the comm reminding everyone to hang up on Tann if the opportunity arises to pass it off as a signal drop, plants both self-propagated and deliberately brought in on the walls. I want the deck ladder on one side to be a little bit loose so it squeals when someone slides down it and I want the door to the bathroom to have a tendency to stick. I want the ship to be loved and to be lived in after ten years use.

saw a poll about dry/humid heat and like OBVIOUSLY everyone preferred dry heat but. would love to know what everyone considers to be “too hot”

me personally it’s a hard cutoff at 75°F. don’t need anything more than that thank you 🫶🫶🫶

For the purposes of this poll please just stick to birth names! I'd like to do another poll for names people chose themselves later in life.

being someone’s loser boyfriend would legit be so gender affirming for me. i was meant to be a guy who sucks

Trying to get yourself killed with the Doemenels

You wanna talk “coping” in fandom? Okay. Let’s talk about the mental health of fans of color. Let’s talk about how racism causes persistent emotional stress that negatively affects mental health. Let’s talk about how people of color who try to deny the existence and effect of racism can suffer lower self-esteem and internalized self-hatred as a result. Let’s talk about how even everyday microaggressions can pile up and cause depression, anxiety, and physical symptoms including pain and fatigue. Let’s talk about how a study of Black Americans found that distress from racial discrimination may contribute to age-related diseases like heart disease and diabetes.

Every single issue fans of color have discussed–the racist stereotypes, the fucking slavery and Holocaust AUs, the fetishization, the whitewashing, the erasure, the demonization–has been about their mental health. Every single step they have taken, from elaborate search filters to massive block lists, has been about getting some breathing space in a fandom that is relentlessly hostile to them.

So if you’re so concerned about the mental health of fans and the means they use to cope, why are you disregarding entire groups of fans who are trying to cope?

This is why it’s so disingenuous to answer discussions of fandom racism with “But what about coping?” Even leaving aside the fact that not all coping mechanisms are useful or healthy and that coping through racism is a pretty wtf proposition in itself, this response makes assumptions about mental health that are easily countered by research–that mental illness is necessarily an individual issue, and that discrimination like racism is not a significant, society-wide threat to the mental health of people affected by it. As though mental illness has a certain look that doesn’t include fans of color. As though fans who are outspoken about racism in fandom are posturing for moral high ground about an issue that harms no one. The “coping” response erases the mental health issues of fans of color, something they face all too often in real life.