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i eat chocochip waffles 4 breakfast every day of my life

@sunny-sundaes / sunny-sundaes.tumblr.com

im sunny sundaes - she/her - i do art sometimes - i love my wife jenny
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Sometimes self-care is, actually, NOT getting onto the computer and little treats and watching youtube videos. Sometimes those things are self-care, but sometimes they're also avoidant behaviors.

Sometimes self care is waking up and just. Fucking getting in the car. And driving to the bank. And the store. And buying the cat litter. And changing the cat boxes you've been avoiding because your brains been stuck in a hole. And picking up the trash you've been piling up. And getting a load into the wash. And mowing the lawn before the village council sends you a formal complaint and potential-fines warning.

Like its hard and annoying to do because it sucks. It sucks so much. But if I don't start working on this pile of bullshit I've let build up because it stinks and i was stuck in deer-in-headlights mode, I risk letting it turn into fuckery. I do not have the patience for fuckery that I once - foolishly! - thought I had.

This mentality helped me so much. Framing my "chores" and mundane tasks as self care and something I can do for myself, really helped me. On a good day I feel like I can genuinely enjoy basic to-dos because I get something nice for myself afterwards, even if that nice thing is just a better living environment. And sometimes it's still too hard, and that's okay too.

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helloelicia

I love that folks are being more accepting of autism, but I don't love that autism is being sanitized into a quirk.

There's a cute and acceptable form of autism on social media, and I don't see any indication that folks are remotely ready for discussing the rest of it, which contains all the uncomfortable things that impede a person's everyday life, require support, and make acceptance almost impossible—where the hygiene struggles, inappropriate social behaviors, involuntary movements and outbursts, meltdowns, and emotional dependence issues live. And the cuter and more sanitized the "good" autism gets, the more unacceptable the "bad" autism becomes.

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pigeon-cave

It's tricky when people say they're supportive of people on the spectrum but don't like it when you:

  • don't like shaving or wearing makeup
  • have food restrictions
  • stim a lot of the time
  • need sensory protection
  • have "childish" interests
  • need to know schedules ahead of time
  • need a lot of alone time
  • can't handle certain textures
  • have trouble regulating emotions
  • don't carry conversations well
  • correct their mistakes
  • show any other common autistic behavior
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magiashley

i love the sonic adventure 2 battle intro cause of that stupid animation knuckles has in it

i can’t find a gif of it can somebody please post it

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kud-lucas

wait hold on. does it just say kukle.

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xbuster

It actually says “KUCKLE”

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stephocrates

corporate ppl are always like “i hate email comms they cause so many delays” but those people are fools. i crave communication delays. i hit send on an email and then immediately shoot a prayer up to the heavens that the response may take 2-3 days. let’s slow everything down just a bit thank you.

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ATTN: The Director's Cuts

The Chairman ushers in the 1.7 update by giving the old Boardbots the axe, and he's found replacements that are just as mean as the old ones!

The big man himself has released a company-wide memo... Maybe we'll learn a thing or two from it?

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mumblesplash

(teaching my art class)

me: and what’s the number one rule when designing characters with wings? …well?

a handful of students, sighing reluctantly: no good fa-

me (interrupting them): NO good-faith attempts at realism, EVER. you want all the bird dweebs and physicists jumping ship as EARLY AS POSSIBLE so they’re not around to cinemasins your ass when you get to the cool parts of your story, and…ugh, what now, gerald

gerald (my least favorite student): why not just do some minimal research instead of-

me: listen you little shit i can and will singlehandedly tank your 4.0 gpa

getting comments from the pro- AND anti- wing realism crowds both assuming this post agrees with their personal stance on the matter

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d4l-archive

trying hard not to be controversial here .. trying not to step on any toes but ……… i like some things 😳 and i………. dislike some things 😳 and. sometimes i even . don’t care about stuff 😳 Please dont hate me im sorry

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I think the invention of the term "traumadump" has done discussion of mental health a lot of harm. I keep seeing discourse vs whether or not it's okay to talk about heavy topics with your friends, and like... I feel like there is a very big and important difference between my definition of traumadumping (ie. Frequently and habitually diverting your conversations with others towards your own misery, often with the goal of focusing attention and sympathy towards yourself at the expense of those around you, and without recognizable effort to reciprocate your empathy towards those you are speaking to or to ensure their comfort) VS the mere act of having heavier conversations with those around you. I've seen a lot of backlash to the idea of traumadumping as a concept lately (they paywalled human connection etc etc) but I think it's worth recognizing there is absolutely a kind of behavior that can create a negative feedback loop with this stuff. Especially if you navigate a lot of spaces in social media, it's not uncommon to find people dropping really heavy stuff on complete strangers unprompted. Idk, I think there's a degree of nuance to be had that's maybe getting a bit lost due to everyone having different definitions of what it means to "trauma dump."

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