Circe Helides

how was this show real

i think it's important to get deeply emotionally unironically involved in a bad piece of media whilst fully aware that it objectively sucks ass. like for your health or whatever

adulthood gets such a bad rep and like yeah, a lot of adult things do suck (thanks, capitalism). but i do worry about what constant complaints about adulthood do to depressed kids and teens who feel trapped and sort of like adulthood is the only way out of their current situation.

so let me tell you, in case you haven't heard this ever, that in my experience, being an adult is 100x better than being a kid or teenager. being able to more or less control my living space and who i spend time with, being able to prioritize my health and wellbeing, being able to be who i truly am and pursue my interests and hobbies... all of that is worth the other dumb stuff, and none of it was possible when i was a minor. honestly, I've just gotten happier and happier the older I've gotten.

being an adult is GOOD. and it can be good for you too.

Ten cool things I get to do as a 30something adult that I did not get to do as a child or teenager:

1) Set a schedule that works for me. I work second shift specifically so I can stay up late and get up late. Can’t do that with school.

2) Collect whatever cool, weird shit I want. Buttons? Sure. Anime merch? You got it. Many many skeins of weirdly-colored yarn I may never use? I have four whole tubs of it.

3) Control my own wardrobe.

4) My periods got shorter and way less sucky in terms of cramps, accidentally turning my bed into a murder zone, etc. I have been the miserable ball of pain with ten days of nausea and heavy bleeding and cramping, and now I’m that asshole you all hate who has the three-day periods that are mostly spotting. A lot of people who menstruate report this kind of shift happening.

5) I still get acne from time to time (especially in a mask), but it’s not nearly as bad as my late teens/early 20s, and I know better now how to minimize it and make it go away faster. (A good facial cleanser. A good facial cleanser. Don’t waste your time with that Clean n Clear crap. Invest in something like Clinique or Oil of Olay and make sure you use moisturizer. I use Arbonne. It will change your life.)

6) I haven’t yet done this because I want to plan it perfectly first, but: go to a hotel with a spa, by myself, get a mani/pedi/facial/massage, chill in the hot tub, go up to my room, and laze around all evening in a very posh bathrobe and I don’t have to tell anyone where I am. “I’m going to be unavailable for the night” is a completely legitimate thing you can do.

7) As you develop life experience, you develop perspective. That is why when I skinned my knee at age six I screamed and cried and was inconsolable for an hour, long after the pain had faded, but this past March I cut my thumb so badly I needed four stitches and my response was to swear (because ow), look at it, and go “huh. That’s not good. I should probably see if my roommate can take me to the ER” and then I went and did that with no tears shed and no screaming. It’s true of physical pain and it’s true of emotional pain, too. You become able to just kind of take a step back and say “how bad is this really?” and realize that quite often, it isn’t actually that bad.

8) I get to pick what’s on TV and I get to pick what flavor of ice cream to buy to eat while watching it.

9) No fucking homework.

10) I was in my mid-20s before I found my tribe. The “weird anime kids” at cons are now all my children and neither I nor they make the rules, that’s just how it is. As you get older, you find other people who love the things you love, and you connect, and those friendships are wonderful.

Stick with it. There are so many reasons, big and small.

11. You can buy yourself a SWORD. Or a crown. Cape and armour?? Whatever the Heck silly thing your parents either couldn't afford or thought it was dumb to spend money on. (Yes, you'll still want them and be very happy to have them).

12. You can start all those hobbies you couldn't afford or weren't allowed to. Your free time is your own.

13. You can do the dishes or make your bed or take out the trash later if you don't want to right now. You will have to. But you only need to explain to yourself that you're tired or want to do something else right now.

14. ADULT FUN is not just like sex and alcohol. You can get in a hot air balloon. You can bungee jump. Go on all roller-coasters you want, no age rules or lack of permission. You can decide to go on a plane tomorrow if you can arrange it.

15. NO. DAMN. HOMEWORK. I didn't fully realise how fucked up the concept of homework was and how stressed it made me until it was over. Adults who call you whiny are dumbasses. Going to work is at least better than school and homework.

16. No one can tell you not to cut or dye your hair! You can get tattoos! Your body is your own, basically.

17. Your space is also your own. Even if you rent, you'll feel freer than in a room people can barge in.

18. You can eat when and what you want.

19. You don't have to see any relatives you don't like anymore. If you go to family functions, you can leave whenever you want.

20. Just. Autonomy. Life is still complicated. You can't afford to do whatever you want whenever you want. There are compromises. But people can't shut you up bc you're a child anymore. You're not 'confused'. You won't 'know better when you're grown'. This is who you are and this is what you do, and the shackles are suddenly so much looser. Your previous figures of authority are almost meaningless. You can breath.

21. You're allowed to have opinions on politics and people LISTEN to them and take you seriously (sometimes).

22) I know I made the original top ten list up there but fuck it, I’m an adult and I can add on if I want to. You’ll hear jokes about like “you know you’re an adult when you get excited over buying new towels,” but you know what? FUCK IT! Yes I DID get excited over buying new towels last week! They’re dark blue and they’re fluffy and I like them! Yes I DID have a good time going up and down the aisle deciding on exactly which blue I wanted! It’s towels instead of Barbies and who the fuck cares!! Buying them to make my bathroom look like I want made me happy, throwing them in the washer and dryer for the first time made me happy, wrapping one around me after a bath made me happy. Happy is still happy! Different things might make you happy, but that doesn’t negate that it’s happiness!!!

23) If you’re the anime con type, you can go for all 3-4 days without a parent’s permission now. (Or go for just one if that’s your jam. It’s up to you.) And you don’t have to skip the first half of Friday!

24) Little kid hugs hit differently when you’re an adult. The other day I stopped this very wound-up toddler from falling and she darted into my arms and laid her head on my shoulder and just suddenly relaxed and was calm and I felt like I’d been tapped on the shoulder by an angel. Like, they’re sweet when you’re a teen, sure, but as an adult you become aware of just how much kids that age rely on the older and bigger people around them, and it becomes incredibly special when they decide you are the one they’re going to trust. (Also, you’re suddenly a superhero to the parents around you when they discover you’re willing to play pattycake or peekaboo with their kids so they can have five minutes to just breathe because they’ve been dealing with all that energy since 5am.)

25)  You’re allowed to complain without people telling you how good you have it.

26) You can cut people out of your life.  My life changed dramatically the year I realized that I absolutely could take time off and go to my Grandfather’s house for Christmas... but I didn’t want to, and I didn’t have to.  I had spent the previous three years unable to go because of money and the fact that I had the kind of job that didn’t come with paid leave, and I had expected Christmas to be depressing and lonely and it wasn’t; I had friends and hung with them.  That year, I had just moved, and didn’t have a lot of friends, and I spent that Christmas alone in my apartment eating a tv dinner and not being told I was stupid and lazy.  It was glorious.

Heeeey fuckers, I’m back!

27) If you’re in a hostile school, there’s not much you can do. If you’re in a hostile workplace, you can go job hunting and get the fuck out of there.

28) If you’re in any kind of fundamentalist home, you’re no longer bound by your parents’ religion or politics.

29) Even if your car is a hoopty that was new sometime before you were in middle school, there is A LOT of freedom in being able to play your music and go where you want without having to ask.

30) the little things you found wondrous as a kid, like fireflies and Christmas lights? Those don’t have to become boring and mundane. You choose what you love. I’m 32 and I still go look at Christmas lights. I still get stupid at cute dogs when I’m working in drivethru (“omg whooo’s the bestest baby? Is it you? It’s youuu!”). Getting my favorite chocolate is still a delight. You don’t have to be jaded and depressed in order to be an adult.

 31) It’s kinda alread been said but, I, all of us old timers CANNOT emphasize this enough youngsters: Nobody Gets To Criticize/Question How You Spend Your Free Time. Nobody. 32) Again: No. Bloody. Homework. You get to your work, you work, you done. DONE. Yes you have to do stuff like cleaning/go to the bank/general adulting but, BUT. It takes A FRACTION of your free time. It used to take me all afternoon&early night to go through my absurd amount of homework when I came home. If you organize yourself enough, you can get the WHOLE WEEKEND dedicated only to Yourself Time. Not on a once in a while thing, but as a regular thing even. And let me tell you, It’s GLORIOUSLY DECADENT. 33) “Sorry I can’t, I have to work that day, yeah, sorry, real bummer  but my boss said I can’t take a day off, such a pity” is the one excuse no other adult will ever judge or scrutinize. Yes, even your controlling parents/horrible family. Yes, it can get you out of Family Holidays if you hate them, depending on what you do for a living.

34) Wanna make breakfast to eat as dinner? Yes.

35) You can eat breakfast, IN BED! READING A BOOK! AT 11 AM ON A SUNDAY AND. AND. NOBODY. CAN TELL. YOU. SHIT.

oof

I want a relationship like this

The himbo energy here is impeccable

“Seals In A Kelp Forest” by Kyle Mcburnie

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To have a soulmate in this lifetime is enough  

DAY 6: Favourite CQL Episode - 43

@mdzsnet event: one year with cql 

HAMILTON – “Guns and Ships”

“That’s a lesson that’s been hard-learned by Washington. When I was doing my research on Washington to write his, I realized he wasn’t unlike Hamilton. He was reckless as youth. He basically triggered the French and Indian war in the 1750s. And he learned through experience not to be rash and not to be reckless. He had the same martyrdom fantasies that anyone in war harbors. This isn’t unique to soldiers; it’s unique to anyone who grows up worshipping Brandon Lee or Kurt Cobain or John Belushi, or the 27 club like, “Oh, I’m going to go out and be glorious and die young.” That’s Washington saying: there’s no glory there. There’s glory in living and actually doing the things that you want to do.” — Lin-Manuel Miranda

Chinese dance 丽人行 li-ren-xing

Angel, I’m sorry. I apologise. Whatever I said, I didn’t mean it. 

Angel, I’m sorry. I apologise. Whatever I said, I didn’t mean it.