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PC repaired, post halonophica
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Come here, baby gays, and let me tell you the story about how James Somerton made me so fucking angry with a single line that I had to make this post.
As I now know, most of his audience is young queers and there are things we NEED you to know.
The fight for marriage equality was a massive fucking deal and I will tell you why with a very personal story.
My mom was a nurse during the AIDS crisis. And I mean she started working as a nurse out of school in 85. My mom was on the front lines. She worked with so many AIDS patients that it genuinely altered her brain chemistry. My mother was a homophobe before her nursing career. She was a massive supporter of gay rights until she died in July because of what she saw during her career.
And what did she see?
She saw people who had been abandoned by their families dying with their partners at their side.
And then suddenly…the family would materialize, ban the partner from the room, kick them out of their homes they had lived in with their dying partners for decades, and then watched them ban their partners from even attending the funerals or visiting the graves. Imagine being denied your right to grieve.
And why was this possible? Oh simple. They weren’t married. They weren’t legally bound, the partners weren’t considered next of kin because they weren’t fucking married.
I watched my mom pass. It was horrible and painful and traumatic and terrifying. But it was closure. And I wouldn’t have it any other way because I know…that who my mom wanted by her when she passed was my dad. Because she was scared, she wanted her partner by her side and she was terrified she was going to die. My dad couldn’t be there. He had to work, which sounds cold but understand he had been off work for a month by that point and he was the only one who had health insurance. He wanted to be there, we had made plans to take her off the life support when he came back (we were 4 hours from him) but there was a freak accident and she passed the night after he left to return to work.
Why am I telling you this? Because I need you to understand how important this is to some people. So you can understand how big a slap to the face it is to have people say “marriage equality isn’t that important”. You can understand why someone like James Somerton rolling his eyes at marriage equality and implying we weren’t focused on job equality and discrimination (information that is WHOLEY untrue) would make me see red.
It’s not trivial. It’s not meaningless. It wasn’t about “assimilating” or “appearing normal” (we’re already normal).
It’s about people who had their children taken from them because they weren’t the biological parent. It’s about people who never got to comfort their loved ones in their final days. It’s about people who weren’t able to comforted by their partners in their final days.
So the next time you think “why waste your time on something as trivial as marriage?” Remember my mother. Look up testimony from victims of the AIDS crisis. Remember the people who advocated for marriage equality were the survivors who were torn from the love of their life.
Remember that we advocated so damn hard to give you the right to grieve.
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Worlds of Ursula K. Le Guin (2018), dir. Arwen Curry
The next line of her speech is also great: “Any human power can be resisted and changed by human beings.”
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Stage 1: using your native language's idioms in English out of habit/lack of knowledge
Stage 2: using English idioms as much as you can to prove that you're good at English
Stage 3: using your native language's idioms in English because they fuck actually
“either take off your cross or put on your underwear” (ukrainian) to say that you can’t have both things at once is my favorite expression to ever exist in any language. i needed to put this out into the world so bad, im finally free.
I'm gonna write some:
"you can't put doors to the countryside" referring to something you cannot control
"to honour which saint?🤨" A response to someone doing such a bizarre thing that you can only assume it's for a very specific god ritual (what my mom says when I'm caught cooking a full meal at 3am)
"my mouth is dryer than Christ's sandals" or nsfw version "dryer than a doll's underwear"
"never say from this water I shan't drink" like never say never.
"to write the dots on the i's" to make a negotiation very clear, point out flaws.
"you have to feed him separately" as in 'this person is a handful'
"it's like throwing daisies to the pigs" wasteful, or useless, unappreciated act
"no one gave you a candle in this burial" you don't have permission to talk/give your opinion
"it's like going to pee and not letting even a drop" pointless, absurd, waste of time
"when the devil is bored he kills flies with his tail" when someone you hate is suspiciously idle and seems innocent (and you KNOW!!! they'll do something)
"my saint went back to the sky" meaning you were so distracted/zoned out that you didn't even notice a saint had descended to help you until it left lmao
"I'm more tied up than a Roman's leg" (refering to Roman knee high sandals) it means you're very busy
Welsh has a couple that absolutely slap, but the best one is:
"There's no use lifting your petticoats after you've pissed" - essentially 'don't cry over spilt milk', what's done is done so you just have to deal with it
“Put the dot on the i” in Polish means to finish something, especially in a pointed or witty way
“To dress up like a rat for the opening of a canal” - to overdress
“Tripe with oil” - something awfully boring
“Like [throwing] peas against a wall” - something my parents would tell me as a kid a lot lmao; when you ask or advise someone and they completely disregard your words
“Old man talks to the painting, and the painting doesn’t talk back even once” - a less popular version of the above. It rhymes in Polish
“Walk on eyelashes” - equivalent of ‘bend over backwards’
“It will heal until the wedding” - that something will heal quickly
“The current won’t kick an electrician” - you can trust a professionalist, or that a professionalist won’t be harmed by their craft; it also rhymes in Polish and it’s delightful. I have a very vivid memory of my high school colleague altering the idiom into “Leprosy won’t touch a romanticist” in his essay on romantic literature, saying all romantic heroes die tragic or heroic deaths before they get the chance to be killed by something ordinary or unsexy
“The turkey thought about Sunday, and on Saturday they chopped off its head” - better to plan for the nearest future; rhymes as well
“[Someone] doesn’t let anyone blow into their groats” - pretty much means that someone takes no bullshit
“A blind hen happened upon a seed” - to achieve or get something purely by luck; esp in a derogatory manner
“Slam against the table and the scissors will sound off” - when you tackle some topic and like 50 people instantly flock to you rambling/complaining about it
“Lordly grace rides on a dappled horse” - the favour of rich people is very fickle
“[As at the] Cracow market” - to reach a compromise where both sides let go, like when you haggle for a price
potentially the dumbest thing i've done so far, however i didnt feel so bad bc my housemate did the exact same thing
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man
i like it too :)
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being on tumblr has taught me that girls see men's hands the same way men see tits, therefore from now on i will be constantly covering my hands with gloves to protect them from the horny female gaze
QUIT REBLOGGING THIS
Jenni's POV:
Gloves = thigh high stockings
Solution: mittens
Sorry but a man stumbling in from the cold and removing a clunky, snow-covered mitten with his teeth only to reveal the perfectly sculpted hand underneath is not a solution to this problem
Source: correctopinionhaver
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Anyone else excited for botw2 and Ganondorf??
a great thing about people transitioning is it presents us with scenarios where we have the perfect control variable to undeniably reveal sexism in the workplace. I read about a trans man neuroscientist who was told he was “so much smarter than his sister” (his sister being his pre-transition self)
and damn i knew the gaming industry was notoriously sexist (even more sexist than other stem fields, and that’s saying a lot) but seeing it laid out so clearly like this is so demoralizing.
Ben Barres was that neuroscientist
