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This Biology Teacher Disproved Transphobia With Science 

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Sex redefined

“The idea of two sexes is simplistic. Biologists now think there is a wider spectrum than that.”

More on anti-trans arguments as bad science

As a biologist I am reblogging this so hard.

Biological sex is not and has never been a binary. The complexity of the natural world cannot be contained in neat little societal boxes. Stop using science to justify your bigotry.

What to do when you don’t like a fic: a step by step guide

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Amazing tutorial I recommend to everyone!

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Based on actual events

Once again @everyone: REBLOG stuff you like!

And DONT REPOST stuff that’s already here! WHY do we even have to go through this again huh? DON’T. DO. IT.

And if you share something from a different platform that isn’t on tumblr already you ASK the creator for permission and then give CREDIT!

How to have a good internet experience in 8 easy steps

#1 - Stop having a bad faith interpretation of every thing you read

If you think something someone said might have been something you disagree with, instead of starting an argument, ask them to clarify or ask them specific questions about what they said

You will be so surprised to find that half the people you assume are being shitty or negative just didn’t phrase what they meant very well

#2 - Learn to block people

It’s free, it’s easy, and it will save your life. Tired of someone tagging your stuff with characters from a fandom you don’t like? Don’t try to control them by telling them not to, just fucking block them. Less upsetting to them, less work for you, less inflammatory, more effective.

#3 - Don’t share your entire backstory with strangers on the internet

No one is entitled to your information - not your pronouns, your age, your sexuality, your location, nothing.

Share the things that you’re comfortable with, but remember that the more you share, the more vulnerable you make yourself to attacks. Like, do not share your triggers in your bio. You are giving abusers and harassers a to do list. Keep that shit private for your own safety.

You can get harassed, you can get stalked, you can get doxxed. Internet safety is real and necessary and the less we care about it, the more we set up future generations to get hurt through the internet

#4 - Learn to say, “It’s none of my business.”

Don’t understand someone’s desire to use neo pronouns? None of your business. Can’t understand why someone is a furry? None of your business. Curious about how someone who talks about being poor can have a Starbucks in that last selfie they posted? None of your damn business.

If you don’t like certain things on your dash, unfollow or block people. If you don’t understand how someone can identify a certain way or do a certain thing or like a certain thing or feel a certain way or literally anything, just remember, it’s none of your business.

If you have genuine questions from a place of good faith (i.e. what inspired you to use neopronouns?/what do you pronouns mean to you?) Go for it. But if you’re only asking questions to draw negative attention to someone or make them feel bad or to other them, you’re just being a nosy asshole.

Minding your own business is also good for you because - and I mean this genuinely - feeling entitled and superior is fucking exhausting. I know, because I’ve been 20 before. You will have a way better time online if you just stop caring about shit that doesn’t concern you

#5 - Learn to lurk

Lurking is frequently seen as a bad thing, like someone who’s lurking is somehow being creepy. The truth is, lurking is a great way to learn. More people should do it.

For example, if you’re new to a community, spend some time consuming content and information from that community without saying anything. This goes for fandoms, queer spaces, disabled spaces, cultural spaces, etc.

Nothing is worse than being in a community for years and someone popping in for the first time in their life and airing their opinions loudly and with zero respect for the space. A great example of this is that post someone made about the leather pride flag. You know the one.

(If you don’t, basically, someone said that the leather pride flag is embarrassing and insulting to the queer community and has no place at pride and then got schooled by hundreds of people about how the leather pride flag is one of the oldest flags in the queer community and leather daddies and leather dykes were the people on the front lines protecting other queer people from cops back in the 80s and 90s)

So basically, learn the history of a community, research your opinions before you decide they’re your opinions, and keep your ignorance to yourself until you’re not ignorant anymore. Not only is this better for community spaces, you won’t have 9000 notifications of people telling you to shut the fuck up

Learning to lurk to educate yourself about a space also makes actually speaking in that space a lot easier

#6 - Stop believing everything you read

I’m not talking about stupid funny stories. Believe them - it’s not hurting anything to get a laugh out of something that may or may not have happened.

I’m talking about news and current events. If you hear that some celebrity did something and there are no receipts, go and find the receipts or discard it. People spread misinformation on here all the damn time. It’s like a game of telephone and, unfortunately, a lot of small creators end up getting slandered and canceled because of it.

#7 - Quit wasting energy on hating random shit

Being annoyed by a certain fandom is one thing, but actively hating things that other people do just because you’re not into it is such a waste of your energy. Not only are you actively putting more negativity into the world, you’re wasting your own time on things that upset you.

Focus your time and energy on the things you do like and quit scrolling through Tumblr user AnimeIReallyHate7648’s discourse blog. You might think it’s fun, but there comes a point where hating something goes from kind of fun to actually obsessive and unhealthy for you as a person.

#8 - Unlearn purity culture

This is a big one guys. What is purity culture? It’s referenced a lot, but I think a lot of you don’t know what it is.

In short, purity culture is when people take many nuanced situations and try to divide them into black and white categories. There’s the Good category and the Bad category. The problem is, life is not in black and white. You can’t put a neat line down the middle between good and bad. This kind of thinking is extremely regressive. Ask any therapist alive and they will tell you that black and white thinking is unhealthy and often a Symptom of Something.

So, what happens is, someone sees something on the good side and spots something they think is morally objectionable in it and says, “this can’t be here, it needs to go to the Bad side.” (Cancel culture). The problem is, people are always on the lookout for anything wrong in the Good - constantly looking for impurities so that they can completely sanitize things and therefore be free of sin. So they will look harder and harder and harder and keep moving things to the Bad side of the line until there’s basically nothing left on the Good side.

This ends up meaning that perfectly good media is canceled because every character in it didn’t make the perfect, right choice every time. It damages media in that it demands characters be completely flawless - something no human is. When a character does something that’s actually problematic, even if the media doesn’t condone the behavior, instead of engaging with it and using it as an opportunity to learn and teach other people why that wasn’t okay, people who subscribe to purity culture throw the baby out with the bathwater, saying the entire piece of media should be canceled because its creators support the problematic action of that character (even if they don’t).

This entire line of thinking is extremely unhealthy, heavily informed by Christianity, infantilizes adults, assumes no one can distinguish fiction from reality, and promotes censorship, which has a long and sordid history.

I could go on about this at length, so if anyone wants a full post, just let me know. But the point is, purity culture is bad for community, it’s bad for media, it’s bad for healthy emotional and intellectual development, it’s bad for interpersonal understanding and empathy, and it’s bad for you.

Unlearn purity culture and you will be a happier person. If all else fails, remember step #4.

Look I clown veganism often enough but really, truly, don’t ever fucking feed somebody something without their knowledge or consent. It’s hugely fucked up and not OK.

also if someone hasn’t eaten meat in a while… or ever… they will get incredibly sick if they just start eating meat again.

|| Please don’t do this. Not just with vegans/ vegetarians, but with ANYONE you don’t know very well. You never know what they may or may not be allergic to, their abilities o(or lack thereof) to digest certain things, dietary needs and restrictions, religious beliefs requiring them to abstain from the consumption of certain foods and about a thousand other things.

Some people are legitimately allergic to thd proteins in certain meats and can’t even eat anything cooked in the same pan as X meat product/s.

I’m vegan but couldn’t care less if others aren’t, not an overwhelming number of (not all, just alot, unfortunately) non vegans find things like this funny.

Quick reminder: Sometimes people say “I’m vegan” or “I’m vegetarian” because its easier/faster/begets fewer annoying questions than the longer explanation.

As an epidemiologist I can list a few of the more annoying longer explanations that no one wants to have to explain to every person who ever offers them food:

- You drank water contaminated with giardia, which gave you 3 weeks of diarrhea followed by 3 years of lactose intolerance

- You were bitten by a Lone Star Tick and developed an allergy to beef and pork because the Lone Star Tick is a bastard

- You are Jewish and the meat isn’t kosher, but you don’t want to say that because antisemitism is A Thing and you don’t want to get bombarded with questions about the Middle East while you’re hungry

- You are Muslim and the meat isn’t halal, but you don’t want to say that because Islamophobia is A Thing and you don’t want to get bombarded with questions about the Middle East while you’re hungry

- You are on a restricted diet for medical reasons and don’t want to get bombarded with questions about your medical history while you’re hungry

- You are on a restricted diet for reasons that *are nobody’s business* and don’t want to get pulled into Potentially Triggering Diet Talk while you’re hungry.

Listen. Food can be very very complicated for people, and a very very very sensitive subject. Respect people’s food restrictions. None of it is your business.

I was one of the people who ordered something decaf at Starbucks only for them to have made it caffeinated and seem to have put in at least a couple shots of espresso and spent the day having panic attacks. Don’t do this shit to people

Also, even if it won’t harm them at all, if you respect people’s bodily autonomy then you can’t compel them to eat something without their consent (and knowledge is necessary for consent)

also this goes for artificial sweetners too. Stop it. People need to be able to have their own restrictions, even if you don’t understand it. Let the “crazy people” be crazy because there could be a lot more going on that some stupid belief you don’t agree with.

Unpopular opinion but literally not one person in the world should have their human rights violated

If one person's rights can be waved away, so can yours

yes, even those people.

But I have a question.

At what point a human being can be called "person"?

Where's THE line? There's gotta be a line, after all, no?? So where is it? How many horrible things can someone do, and still be called a "person"?

Why does there have to be a line? That's the assumption you need to look at.

I'm not talking about whether someone can be trusted, or redeemed, or any of that. It doesn't matter. Human rights are for human beings. There's no point at which we can sacrifice or destroy our personhood because it's not separate from existing as a human.

Any framework that divides humans into "people" and "not-people" leads directly to humans doing horrible things to each other, and creating a new class of "not-people" is not going to fix the issue.

“There’s gotta be a line” is the most horrifying assumption I’ve heard in a while

The mere act of having a line at all has led to absolutely horrific atrocities committed against innocent humans because something about them was deemed unworthy of personhood. (Not that horrific atrocities against the guilty are good, either, mind you.)

History is rife with examples of this.

The second you draw the line is the second you give hateful people a vested interest in conflating entire groups of people with whatever line you've drawn.

That is not a hypothetical--that is provable history that has happened, is still happening, and will continue to happen as long as people consider there to be a line one can cross to justify stripping them of personhood.

Also, by deciding that if a person does something bad enough they're not really a person that blinds people to the fact that each and every one of us has the potential to behave in a monstrous way. Each of us is capable of committing atrocities--there isn't some inherent wiring in somebody's brain that makes them think doing unspeakable things is alright. By pretending only not-people do such things, we defend and justify ourselves and those around us.

Every time you see a celeb or other famous person accused of something and their friends rush to their defense because "no, they're a good person, they're not a monster"? That's the fallacy of "only monsters do horrible things, not people" at work.

Every human has the potential to commut unspeakable acts, what pushes people to actually do them is variable. But when you insist that only a monster could do something, you blind yourself to the potential you and yours have to also do the unspeakable which makes it harder to recognize warning signs and call people out before they do something terrible.

It hurts everyone when we conflate certain behaviors with a lack of personhood, and it's extremely dangerous to do so from several angles.

Not to go all “Christian Fundamentalism” on this, but I think the assumption that there has to be a line does indeed stem from Christian Fundamentalist values bleeding into supposedly secular lines of thinking.

The backbone of Christian Fundamentalist faith is literally that if you’re a bad enough person, you deserve to go to Hell and be tortured for the rest of eternity.

You really can’t reconcile that with modern UN-style “every human deserves to, like, not be tortured” without some kind of loophole, and that loophole is “ah but what if they no longer count as human?” So in that sense it’s briskly logical.

I think the implicit readiness to justify eternal suffering for certain people, instilled from a young age, is a part of what makes this kind of faith so dangerous.

"Nobody deserves to have their human rights violated."

"But there have to be SOME people whose human rights we can violate, right?"

Did OP fucking stutter?

@futureevilscientist​ I think I * finally * understand why Christian fundies think the UN is an instrument of the antichrist. Because the UN is founded on the principle of “yes, all humans”.

We all know that the UN honours that in breach a whole lot, but that’s a different conversation for a different thread.

YES EVEN THOSE PEOPLE DID I FUCKING STUTTER?

i love it when people are obsessed with their wives. it’s like yeah that’s literally what you’re supposed to do

so women are supposed to grin and bear the books, the comics, the movies, the plays, the tv shows, the stories, the sci-fi, the translated ancient poems, the fucking millennia of men writing about their self inserts torturing women and it being declared as High Art by other men, we’re supposed to read it in our free time, study it in classrooms, include their styles in our own writing, accept their cultural influence as natural, watch it in the cinema, write about it, talk about it, accept it, aspire it, but men can’t tolerate three seconds of female wish fulfilment of a woman snapping the wrist of a creep without feeling personally kicked in the balls.

This reminds me of something I observed in college while I was doing my honors thesis on women in modern horror films. I watched a LOT of horror during that time as part of my research, and sometimes that was done with my family around.

And my dad and brothers? Were deeply disturbed by the movie Jennifer’s Body. I was flabbergasted. It’s not scary! It’s not even that gory. But they were horrified by it. These men who grew up on 70s slashers were legitimately shook by 90 minutes of Megan Fox eating a few teenage boys, mostly off-screen.

Similarly, my all-male reading panel for my thesis? Were so disturbed by my synopsis of the film Teeth that they couldn’t even talk about it. One of them said he couldn’t look at his wife for a week after reading it.

Again, grown-ass men who study and teach media for a living. Who definitely watch and enjoy horror movies. One of whom was a huge Tarantino buff. We watched and read worse in his intro to mass media class! But one movie about a girl whose vag could bite was enough to haunt him.

Then of course you have things like the Gone Girl backlash–men yelling that Amy Dunne is evil and women clamoring to assure everyone that they know she is not someone to emulate–the backlash against Carol Danvers, and, more recently, the griping from MRAs against the upcoming film Hustlers, which is about strippers scamming their Wall Street clients.

My conclusion? Most men–at least most straight, cisgender men, who are both my sample population and most of the ones whining that Carol is a “villain”–are perfectly fine with, and desensitized to, media where men do violence to women (horror movies), or men do violence to men (horror and action movies). They’re even sort of fine when women do violence to women (“ooooo cat fight!”).

But they get intensely uncomfortable when women are depicted doing any kind of violence to men, especially in films that tilt the balance of power to the other side of the m/f gender binary beyond a single moment or scene.

So woman as flesh-eating monster with men as her preferred cuisine? Woman who responds to unwanted sexual contact by biting it off? Woman who frames her cheating husband for murder? Woman whose response to harassment–behavior that many of the loudest whiners know is both creepy and reflective of their own thoughts/actions–is to break something?

Too scary. Unacceptable. Disturbing. These men hate being presented with the idea, even in fiction, that their position of power is socially constructed, that it could easily be flipped the other way. It terrifies them.

In feeling that terror, they experience a tiny modicum of what living, existing, moving, being perceived as a woman in the world is like.

And they flinch every time.

Here have a newspaper comic from 1993

Please Reblog is Your Blog is Safe for Non-Binary People.

If my mutuals can’t rb this then we can’t be mutuals

How to spot signs and symptoms of Breast Cancer 

rare vent art from a few months ago

Good morning! I’m salty.

I think we, as a general community, need to start taking this little moment more seriously.

This, right here? This is asking for consent. It’s a legal necessity, yes, but it is also you, the reader, actively consenting to see adult content; and in doing so, saying that you are of an age to see it, and that you’re emotionally capable of handling it.

You find the content you find behind this warning disgusting, horrifying, upsetting, triggering? You consented. You said you could handle it, and you were able to back out at any time. You take responsibility for yourself when you click through this, and so long as the creator used warnings and tags correctly, you bear full responsibility for its impact on you.

“Children are going to lie about their age” is probably true, but that’s the problem of them and the people who are responsible for them, not the people that they lie to.

If you’re not prepared to see adult content, created by and for adults, don’t fucking click through this. And if you do, for all that’s holy, don’t blame anyone else for it.

a few reminders because i’m tired and angry

feel free to add more

never assume your partner feels loved, show them.

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