Others can help you a lot. They can give you the things you need, the support you need, an environment that is better for you to grow in. But they can’t fix you or solve you or “make” you better. Because YOU have to accept their help, YOU have to decide to improve, YOU have to try, nobody can do that part for you and nobody can fix you without you working WITH them. So. That means. YOU can take pride where you have improved, and you can take pride in the fact that despite ALL the crap and suffering that has fallen over your life YOU still made it to where you are and YOU have been strong enough to keep striving and reaching and trying and it has paid off BECAUSE of YOU. You aren’t JUST lucky you have good friends, you aren’t ONLY where you are because of the things they did for you. They helped you but you RESPONDED in kind. So be grateful but be proud of yourself too, and when you feel like everything is awful sometimes and you need a pick-me-up maybe it’ll help to remember that you have gotten as far as you are by your own power and by your own will. You were the one who was strong enough.