actually all the disney princesses who don’t have a romantic interest are aromantic. yeah yep all of them. elsa, merida, mirabel, so forth, all of them are aromantic. you cannot escape the aro beam

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Aspec men deserve much more respect and recognition in the aspec community than they receive. They often face a different form of aphobia specific to them ("men are naturally sexual they can't be ace" "all men are unromantic that's not unique") this rhetoric is spouted by many, even members of our own community and I hope for a day where that is no longer the case. As an ace and demiro woman (demigirl but that's beside the point) I want to encourage folks to take the time to give the aspec men in their lives support and to the aspec men reading, you are who you say you are no matter what people say and you deserve the world. I'm sorry for the ways in which toxic masculinity has harmed you. You are a valued member of the aspec community and the queer community as a whole. No ace or aro person is broken and neither are you. I'm sorry if anyone has ever told you otherwise.

Good morning to aromantic kinksters, polyamorous aromantics, aromantic doms, aromantic subs, aromantics in long term sexual partnerships, aromantics who enjoy casual hookups, hypersexual aromantics, and all aromantics who have been stereotyped as manipulative or heartless for having sexual relationships

hey so i aro-ed your boyfriend. yeah he's rejected the concept of love and amatonormativity. no, no he's still your boyfriend, he's just aro now

idk if this is just a me thing, but whenever someone addresses the "allos" i can never tell wether that's supposed to include me or not. like are you addressing the allosexuals, the alloromantics, or people who are both? cuz one of those applies to me, and the other two don't. and i still very much consider myself allo as in allosexual. so it's kind of confusing sometimes.

reminder that ‘aroace’ is not synonymous with ‘aro and/or ace’

With great power (aromanticism) comes great responsibility (destroying romance with my bare hands)

people can be aromantic and not asexual. People can be asexual and not aromatic. Holy shit I wish people didn’t use those terms interchangeably.

this applies to real life, of course, but I see people in fandom do this all the time. A character can be aromantic coded and not asexual coded and vis versa. not every aspec coded character is aroace and I wish more people recognized that some characters are better read as aroallo

a very fucking special shout-out to aros who have been the token "weird queer" friend amongst a queer friend group, only to have the novelty lost and find yourself left when they all decide their romantic relationships matter more than you, or your aromantic worldview becomes off-putting because they don't (and don't try to) understand what amatonormativity means.

i have many qualms. this happens to a lot of aros, and it just speaks to the infantilization of aro folks (and ace too!) when all we're seen as is the weird one who doesn't feel love, there for the amusement of "normal queers" and then cast out when they find something more interesting.

if your friend group did/does this, it may mean they weren't truly seeing you, or doing their best to be actual allies to aro and aspec people.

it's the gay best friend trope all over again. everybody loves the gay best friend because it's trendy to have one and not treat them like a person outside the stereotype.

and it fucking sucks. ive been there.

it's not your fault you're not "palatable". let them choke.

i hate you "pair the spares"/"everyone must be paired" tropes, i hate you forced last minute romances, i hate you implication that a happy ending means a romantic partner, i hate you amatonormativity

RESPECT FOR AROMANTICS NOW! NO MORE ASKING NICELY

everything can be an aromantic allegory if you try hard enough

Ace and aro spectrum identities exist across many spectrums. Different people often relate to the same labels in different ways. It doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong or that you've made a mistake. If the label is working for you, that's what matters.

its "queer subtext" this "queer subtext" that until its aromantic subtext then its fucking CRICKETS from everyone. embarrassing