you know i don’t think we often talk about how difficult it actually is to suddenly realize that a belief you thought was good and moral and correct was actually really fucking toxic. how you have to look at something and go ‘oh shit, oh i fucked up. oh this is going to take probably years at minimum to deprogram from my brain because of all the little ways this shit pervaded the rest of my beliefs’

so. to all the people picking up all the pieces of a recently shattered world-view and trying to figure out what is safe to keep and what has to be thrown away and started over

to all the people having to relearn how to even listen to other people

to all the people putting in the work to do better while struggling with the guilt that comes from finding out you were the asshole

i’m proud of y’all.

it’s hard to admit being wrong and even harder to change in the aftermath. just keep doing the best you can and just know that the effort is appreciated. everyone can change. everyone can do better. keep fighting.

psa to able bodied people: if you see someone with a limp in public, you don’t have to ask them why they’re limping, or “what happened”. you can actually simply just mind your business.

Someone will be like "rejection sensitive dysphoria? that's just being human, nobody likes getting rejected" and you're like "okay but does everyone's sense of self worth get utterly decimated into rubble for seven to ten business days any time they experience the slightest bit of criticism or negative feedback on any aspect of themselves?" And then they'll say you're just overly sensitive.

having just one friend who is also chronically ill makes me feel better, even though we don't have the same illnesses she gets it

Hat tip to @celamity , a classic peabald piecock!

The bird is pretty, but also: This is a beautiful demonstration of everything internet video compression is fucking terrible at, which is why you can physically see the eye feathers click into focus when they stop shuffling.

CASSIE HOWARD — 2.04, You Who Cannot See, Think of Those Who Can

Gorgeous King Alfred portrait by @acidbetta

not arguing w a dude that has a big strong nose. whatever u say beautiful

Rainbow Row, East Bay Street, Charleston, South Carolina.

best of ace 3/∞

I’m not sure who needs to hear this but it’s normal and okay to be DISABLED by your DISABILITY.

Sometimes it is going to stop you from doing things, and that’s okay. Sometimes it’s going to get in your way or make you struggle or cause problems in your life. But that’s okay, that’s why it’s called a disability.

You don’t need to fight yourself or “not let it hold you back” because a lot of times it will, but that’s the point.