If you see this

You were visited by the magic kitten of rest. Reblog to have a good night’s sleep.

this collection of images has an energy to rival god

Shout out to all my straight sisters I’m so sorry 😞

Jesus, leave his ass.

We learn fast to be very kind and attentive, tho.

My mom, who got her degree in Marriage and Family Counseling when she was 60, says studies show that women will sometimes sometimes leave a long term relationship to live on their own for a while before seeking a new relationship, but men will almost never leave a long term relationship without having a new relationship either in progress or just beginning.  They don’t want to give up the caretaker they have without another one on deck or in the wings.

This is so sad

This isnt cute or quirky. This means hes a fucking hopeless user

Please date a man who actually acts like an adult.

Ok I lived with my ex for 2 years and he literally wouldn’t be able to get his own food if I wasn’t at home, I’d get home from work and he’d be angry at me for “making him starve”

My current partner has lived on his own for 8 years and the absolute most I have to help him with is maybe sending him $20 so he can make a bill payment on time

It made me realise for 2-4 years I wasn’t a girlfriend I was a fucking mother

Men who have been independent are capable of reverting if given the slightest excuse. When we married, my ex husband was 10 years older than me and had lived on his own for 8ish years. Yet (and I allowed this until I finally got fed up and took us to counseling) I did 80% of the cooking, because I was better at it. Same with the cleaning, shopping, social planning, etc.

After I left, in the first six months I got texts or calls asking me to please tell him:

I shit you not.

Then he had a heart attack (mild) and none of his family or friends were around to take him to the hospital. But instead of calling 911, he called me, who by then lived 45 minutes away. He lived 5 minutes from an EMS dispatch location. He called me, despite the fact that he didn’t believe me 8 months prior when I was feeling suicidal and I had to call a cab to go alone to check myself into the hospital for a 72-hour hold. I told him to call 911, hung up on him when he whined about “making a fuss”, called 911, called his siblings and then texted them “your brother is having a heart attack, I called 911 for him, come home,” and washed my hands of it.

Emotionally vacant men who won’t do household labor or emotional labor are not Nazis, but they aren’t good people, either, and you don’t have to put up with their shit.

Millennial women of Tumblr, please read this post.

And then please: make the decision for yourself to never stay with a man who expects you to be his mother and servant.

Oh, FFS…

i don’t want to achieve equality by sinking to men’s level, i want them to get on ours! why should i have to unlearn the conversational art of waiting my turn, unlearn sexual self-restraint, unlearn trust in others’ good intentions, unlearn the impulse to cater to others’ needs, just to have a chance at success among savages? why can’t the men learn some fucking manners so we can all conduct our affairs in a civilized manner? i shouldn’t have to stop saying sorry, you say sorry!

In the 80s when I was in my freshman year in college, they still had entirely separate mens and women’s dorms. I was in class waiting for a final to start and one of the guys was telling someone about how he had had to go into a women’s dorm to drop something off, and he was startled to see posters on the walls, flowers, curtains, etc. He said his men’s dorm had holes in the walls, things on fire, fights, guys walking around with open wounds and he just didn’t understand why they had to live like this. He said, “I want to live with the women, in civilization.”

Am reading Sisterhood of Spies, about women working for the OSS during WWII. One of the stories mentions that the women in London had a male visitor who would eat in their mess hall once a month. He was married and wasn’t interested in hitting on any of the women; he just wanted to eat in an atmosphere where people said “Please pass the butter,” instead of “PASS THE GODDAMNED GREASE”

I dated a guy who brought me along on group activities (movies, video game night, etc.) with four or five other male friends. Once I mentioned to one of the other guys that I hoped I wasn’t intruding on their “guy time” or some such. He got this sort of rueful look and said, “The truth is, I really like it when you’re here because it gives us a reason to act better. When it’s just guys, we all have to try to outdo each other with how vile we are.”

So the moral of these stories are men don’t even treat each other like human beings.

Me to my 6-year-old son: “You seem to like playing with the girls at school more than the boys. Why do you think that is?”

6-year-old son: “Sometimes I just don’t want to be pushed. It hurts and is mean. And the girls always pretend to be princesses or fun animals and stuff when they have tea parties. The boys just dump the tea all over the place. That’s just stupid and I don’t like wasting all that tea. It takes forever to make.”

Me: “Wow, I can understand why you’d rather play with the girls. The boys seem like they’re kind of rough.”

6-year-old son: “And when I play with the girls they make me the king because none of the other boys want to play tea party.”

Me: “Do you like being the king?”

6-year-old son: “Not really – I’d rather be a wizard, but it makes Georgia and Vivian happy.”

This is important!

Okay, guys. I’m from South Africa and as most of y’all know, Black Panther just came out. There are millions of underprivileged kids that have yet to see a movie theatre in their lives in this country. So, this morning I was on my way to work and I was listening to the radio in the car, one of the biggest radio stations in my country (94.7 Highveld Stereo- which I never listen to mainly because of the music) but they had started with a goal to send about a thousand underprivileged kids to go and watch Black Panther and it started of small. 

But then then they got to R175 000 with additional lunch and snack donations and the Lottery came on and doubled the figure. 

I don’t know why, but it struck a chord with me, as I’m sure with many other South Africans this morning. These kids, never having been to a movie theatre before, are going to see a BLACK superhero on-screen WITH South African actors. Say what you want about that movie, but it’s changing fucking lives and allowing children, CHILDREN OF COLOUR to dream again. And I say this with confidence because things didn’t magically bounce back after apartheid had ended. 

It didn’t end there, though. The movie theatre that they had planned on taking the kids to promised to TRIPLE the amount of tickets they had bought.

Thank you, Marvel. POC kids are dreaming again in South Africa, kids with the same traditions as seen in the movie. It’s a small gesture and probably minuscule on a worldly scale but I’m proud, because I have never been, to be South African. Or African, for that matter.

They’re currently sending over 8500 underprivileged kids to cinemas.

deep blue sea

Why do you like sharks?

he walk

He cronch

He roll

She give high fin. @lilragekitten

He gets tummy rubs

He get nose rub

He beauty

He dance

She do a triple Lutz

He slorp

This post is blessed

Men quite literally have 0 respect for women as human beings. This is an article about a type of rape, and Shaun thinks it’s a good idea to spread tips on how have unprotected sex without your partner’s permission, in a way that you’re even less likely to face any consequences (you’re already incredibly unlikely to face consequences for rape, esp rape by deceit). Men get mad that women don’t trust them, but it’s proven time and time again we have no reason to.

I hate men so much more every single day.

if you’re a man who is offended by the generalizations about your gender… you’re a part of the problem

Who raised these ppl?

If you do this unfollow me, me delete your account, and don’t even look at woman again.

lol

Reblog in 30 seconds for good luck

some good consent phrases

“May I hug you?”

“When I ask you if you want to do something, you know it’s always okay to say no, right?”

“Let me know if you get uncomfortable, okay?”

“How do you feel about (x activity)?”

(When someone’s insecure about having said no and asks if it’s okay/if you’re mad or upset they said no) “I’m disappointed, of course, but I’m really glad you were willing to tell me (no/that you were uncomfortable/etc.). That’s really important to me. Thank you.”

“I’d ALWAYS rather be told no than make you feel pressured or do anything to hurt you or make you uncomfortable.”

“I care about you, so when something I do hurts you or makes you uncomfortable, I want to know, because I don’t like making you feel bad.”

“Wanna do (x)? It’s okay if not, but I think it would be (fun/worthwhile/prudent).”

(When starting a social phone call): “Hey, are you busy right now?”

(When confirming plans made earlier): “Hey, are you still up for doing (x) at (time) on (day)?”

“Can I vent a little about (x)?”

“Can I tell you something (gross/depressing)?”

“Are you comfortable talking about it?”

“Do you think you could talk me through this problem I’ve been having? If you have the time and emotional energy of course.”

“It’s okay if that doesn’t work for you.”

“I’m interested in spending more time with you. Would you be interested in doing (x) together on (y day)?”

“No? Well let me know if you ever want to do something else.” (leave it open! don’t nag! let it go!)

Consent culture - it’s about way more than just sex!

Give people as much freedom as possible to make their own choices without pressure or control.

Even children deserve as much autonomy as allows them to remain safe and get their needs met - remember, you can’t train a child to make good/safe/healthy choices without ever giving them choices. A child who is taught to respect consent is a child who doesn’t assault people! A child who knows they have a right to say no is a child who knows that someone who infringes on their autonomy isn’t supposed to do that.

A consent-conscious relationship is a healthier and safer relationship, and a person who is aware of and deliberate about asking for, giving, receiving, refusing, and being refused consent is a healthier and safer person.

this need to be on everyone’s blog

this makes me think..

God bless whoever wrote this.

im crying

I never usually reblog things like this.. but if it saves just one persons life… please take thime to read this even if you think there is no point in living. Please.

please please PLEASE reblog this

Reblog yet again for the people that need this

Oh fuck..

not all heroes wear capes

Okay y’all, see this?

This is my purple tutu.

If y’all manage to get this post over 5,000 notes?

You’ll get a video of me wearing this tutu and dancing to a song. Probably of your own choosing.

Good luck.

!!!!!!!! Friends let’s do this @just-a-random-word look!!

OKAY CAN IT BE TO BARBIE GIRL

So far its like Welcome to The Black Parade, Shake it Off, Cotton Eye Joe, and now Barbie Girl. 

I might do a poll if it gets anywhere near 5,000

…will you sing too?

how the hell do you have the confidence to do this show me the light how to self esteem

Oh, oh no friend. This is me making an embarrassment of myself for the sake of my friends’ amusement. 

Also @mira-jadeamethyst my lungs would give out.

reblog this pls i’m begging y’all

I’m joining the cause.

How dare.

@perxlta hey Bells didn’t want you to know about this so look at this!!

fejwnfdkem hahah listen ive seen our girl wear this irl yall deserve to see it too

yoU FUCKER

GET THIS MORE NOTES.

come on y’all!

reblog this bitches! (<– I mean that in the nicest possible way fyi)

I’m Gay

I’m A Lesbian

I’m bisexual

i’m trans

Im Asexual.

I’m not sure yet

it’s ok!

a wholesome post

This thread omg