Pinned cause last post went popular
And i really dont want to waste time on re-discussion
Why can’t ppl just ignore antis? They can.
If some ppl are cling so tightly to the canon to ask questions about Peter`s cAnOnICaL age then any pairings with dead characters are necrophilia or any homosexual pairings with canonical heterosexual characters are romantization of reparative therapy and etc. Same logic so why not. Or it`s just hypocrisy and attempts to justify hate to notp and acting like mindreaders. Yeap. People can see and imagine pairings in many non similar ways.
Something you don’t like doesn’t automatically become bad even if it somehow attack your personal feelings. Ppl can represent fictional ships in thousands ways. If you can’t imagine something in unproblematic way then it’s your own problem. Some other ppl perfectly can.
Second:
Facts:
1) In mcu canon Peter is already 18 without snap (from 10.08.2019). Multiverse is totally mcu-canon cause of upcoming Loki-2012 TV-series. And Tony is dead in main timeline but they killed Thanos in Endgame twice. Last from 2014. So there is at least one canonical world without war, snap and timeskip where Peter supposed to be 18 and where his relations with Tony could develop according to any scenario from the point in 2014 where Thanos disappeared from their world.
So it’s not just au or aged-up - it’s canonical based fiction. Any age or father-son questions should be exepted from this point if ppl so love canon and can`t accept AU existence. Although I don`t know why people have problems with thoughts and fantasies about later development of the characters relationships. If someone think that it`s grooming (heard smth like this) then it`s real ignorance meaning of the word
2) Peter and Tony are not blood-related. Their relations aren`t stable. They didn`t call each other father or son and didn`t live at least one day together as a family.. No functional roles as family members so no significant psychological issues that come from specific family influence that is realy hard to change, ignore or outgrow. But here is nothing like this. So, please, don’t act like calling close friends bros and sis automatically go to pseudo-incest if feeles changed. You see Peter and Tony as father and son? Fine. For me it`s just a fanon. One from a lot of others. For example, after FFH I prefer Happy/May + Peter family. In addition, older man who treats well a person younger than him doesn`t have to be his father figure and quite often ppl automaticaly outgrow mentor-teacher influence to become equal friends and partners.
3) Tom Holland was adult in all Marvel movies so using his appearance aren`t sexualisation of a minor and not part of content that real MAPs interested in.
4) Hatred to legal relations with big age difference just discrimination and ageism cause any relations with equal probability could be “bad” if ppl in them don`t respect, don`t value and don`t love each other. And any legal relations could be “good” if ppl in them respect, value and love each other. One simple rule of “how ppl relate to each other”. And only that matters. Gender, race, age or any other external and internal characteristics of ppl don`t matter if it’s legal and harmless.
The main problem of abuse is in abusers. It doesn't depend on age. An older person who has entered into a relationship with someone younger doesn`t automatically become an abuser if hasn`t been an abuser before. This isn`t how it works. Choose right people and you will be safe. End.