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Art by Tom Booth

When your pad’s on crooked but you don’t realize it until after you leave a public bathroom

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Reminds me of my mom getting remarried several years ago, for about a weekend - dude waited until after the wedding to tell her he expected her at waiting at home with dinner waiting when he finished work.

I dunno, like I get that this version of manhood is “normal” but goddamn is it the most brittle, contemptable fuckin thing

This is NOT these women’s fault in any way - these men hide their misogyny until they think you’re hooked. They know what they are doing.

These women are wise and brave. I admire them so much!

Not even touching the fact that he thinks teachers and nurses are lesser…he wants her to be less so that he can be more.

Am i the only one that thinks they could have come back from this? Like please tell me this was just the straw that broke the camels back and not a one off event. He must be an at least somewhat respectable person if she managed to stay with him up til that point. Him feeling lesser is a taught facet of his life pushed upon him by the patriarchy. It obviously damaged the way he viewed his gf, and his relationship, but that doesnt mean it cant be untaught. And of course its not this womans responsibility to be his teacher, but i hope she at least made him aware that this is what happened and why she left…

Literally how can you come back from someone wanting to have more power over you?

He’s not a little kid, he’s a grown ass man and if he hasn’t learned that 1. Teachers and nurses are smart as fuck and 2. That women aren’t and shouldn’t be lesser to him then when the hell is he going to learn from that?

Why does it need to be a final straw? Signs that someone is this fucked up are logs, not straws. And being a “respectable” person is easy when you’re lying about who you are and what you think.

These guys waited until they thought their women couldn’t possibly exist without them and then tried to shut down the things that made them special. Being nurses. Public defenders. Teachers.

These men pointed out what they were so proud of… how hard they worked… and tried suggesting that they stop. Tried making them feel bad about it. This is a common pathway into emotional and psychological abuse.

It was designed to make them feel bad and give it up. The next step would have been “what else can I take away”. Those situations where the woman’s confidence is shattered and it takes her years to get free of the asshole… 9/10 started with comments like this.

Please understand that this wasn’t an off the cuff thing. This was something he’s been thinking for a while, but waited to say til he thought he could make her change to suit him.

This is so important. These are not normal or innocuous comments these are red flags and classic behavior of abusers. People like this are insanely manipulative. They hook you in and pick you apart piece by piece. It starts with this, moves on to isolating you from your support system, and then flashforward a few years and you’re convinced that you’ll never be good enough and you need them to survive. You end up broken and completely subservient. These women did the right thing and are brave for speaking. Abusers aren’t usually the neighbors you hear screaming and shattering dishes like you see in the movies. They’re your “friendly next door neighbors” and they keep quiet. People are too scared to talk. Again, why her speaking up is so important.

THIS STUFF ALL OF THIS.

People wonder how anyone stays with an abuser - this is how. Because manipulative people don’t hit you or insult you on the first date. They wait until you’re invested in them and the relationship, and then they start small, with comments like this.

And they rely on the fact that so many people’s reaction will be “okay, that sucked, but we can come back from this.” They bank on their victim thinking that way. They might even apologize and claim they won’t do it again. But they always do, and they escalate slowly, so you’re a frog in a pot of hot water.

Don’t wait for the tenth red flag, because by then you’ll be starting to think that hey, that’s actually kind of a nice shade of red, so maybe it’s not so bad to have all these red flags around, maybe if I just decorated with them they’d be okay.

Also, women are not rehabilitation centers for poorly behaved men.

Hand embroidery on natural linen.

i think its funny that after you give blood, they keep calling you every once in a while to ask if you want to give more blood 

and i get it, blood is important and in short supply, but it just seems like

hey… we heard you made more blood. can you… can you give us that new blood? that sweet sweet fresh blood? its been a while, jacob. we know you have it. we know you have the blood jacob

You are so full of blood jacob now youre just being selfish

so i was watching the segment John Oliver did on public shaming, and about some of it is good but we just can’t control it, and i made this

we may not be able to put numbers on all this, but i think that reflecting on all these variables would be good whenever we find that someone did something.

Note to self: transcribe the images later for people using text-to-speech.

Image description: Equation to calculate the amount of public shaming a person should get for a committed fault.  The quantity of (How bad the thing they said or did was times how many times they did it times how powerful they are) divided by the quantity of (How much time since the thing times truthfulness of apology times how much better they are now) *note: some things, like assault and sexual aggressions deserve to be publicly shamed forever Example 1: They said a slur multiplied by they did it once multiplied by they’re an artist on the internet divided by it was fifteen years ago they did a good and sincere apology and they never used the slur since equals a low degree of public shaming Example 2: They say racist things multiplied by pretty often multiplied by they’re in a position of power divided by it’s happening this year, “Everyone is so sensitive these days”, and they still do it after being confronted equals severe degree of public shaming Example 3: They assaulted someone - equals put them in prison and salt the earth they’re cancelled forever.  End image description.  Transcriber’s note: these are consistently formatted as mathematical formulas. I have attempted to transcribe them as I would say them, rather than precisely as they are written. I apologize if this introduces a lack of clarity, and will happily edit the post if it does. 

Thank you so much!

This is a useful concept but holy shit i cant not be deeply amused by this… Its a literal equation for quantity of public shame this is hilarious

Yeah, this is a) useful, b) sad, and c) sadly useful.

I'm kinda meh about roof gardens/ grass roofs bc they can accumulate a lot of weight and collapse/ cause leaks

But living walls? Mighty sexy

They provide natural insulation, which not only keeps the heat in during cold days, but keeps the heat out during hot ones. It's better planned and maintained than vines (depending on the plant ofc).

Flooding in urban areas can be reduced since the roots and the growing medium will hold in moisture. Air can be purified, and heat can be reduced because of evaporation.

I just love living walls

Imagine cities that are also forests and prairies because they actually make an effort to integrate nature into all of their surroundings

This solves the problem of loving vines but knowing theyre bad for the infastructure while also being super eco friendly and ALSO really witchy and I love it

📷: Daniel Weissenhorn

Gwendoline Christie attends the premiere of The Personal History of David Copperfield during the 63rd BFI London Film Festival in London on 2 October 2019

i’ve been laughing at this for a full hour

IT´S ALIVE

beautiful example of the art of sequential photography

Fun little thing about medieval medicine.

So there's this old German remedy for getting rid of boils. A mix of eggshells, egg whites, and sulfur rubbed into the boil while reciting the incantation and saying five Paternosters. And according to my prof's friend (a doctor), it's all very sensible. The eggshells abrade the skin so the sulfur can sink in and fry the boil. The egg white forms a flexible protective barrier. The incantation and prayers are important because you need to rub it in for a certain amount of time.

It's easy to take the magic words as superstition, but they're important.

The length of time it takes to say a paternoster was a typical method of reckoning time in the Middle Ages. It's likely that whoever wrote this remedy down was thinking of it both as a prayer and a timespan and that whoever read it would have understood it the same way.

It's sort of like the time version of people today saying 'this dinosaur was two school buses long'.