Does anyone else ever forget that they sent a confession here and then when they see it they have to do a double take and be like "Oh, wait, I'm the person who sent that."
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People tell me I might be ace but I just think sex is so deeply entwined with power and violence and patriarchy and reproductive exploitation that I cannot see a moral reason for it to be a relationship norm. I get that it's some kind of instict that gives release... like violence. There might be sports about hitting each other with sticks but if you said hitting your partner with sticks daily is essential a good relationship people would call bullshit.
I can't imagine why anyone who is not a masochist or incapable of keeping a relationship together outside of sex would want 'passion' in the bedroom. Passion just means less control and less consideration of your comfort. Sex is about extracting pleasure, even if it's at someone else's expense, so how is it not violent?
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LOL. Nonnie, not only do you sound asexual, but much more importantly, you sound like you hang out with too many radfems.
People like sex because sex is fun.
It's not always out of control, but many people do like feeling less in control. Humans are often thrill-seeking. Why else would we have roller coasters?
Wah wah, at someone else's expeeeeeeense = you have no concept of how giving pleasure works. A decent partner is not extracting something: the two of you are doing an activity together. Do you also ask why ballroom dancing is a thing? People like doing things together, including physical things. It's a way to express and build intimacy.
Yes, patriarchy demands very specific kinds of sex. Sex—all kinds of sex, not just the patriarchy-approved type—is a relationship default for most people, however, because they enjoy sex.
I fucking hate Americans and their whiny "baaah! you didn't use the right word! why didn't you use the ideologically pure word?" shit whenever I use the word smut. I get it, you're all so fragile mentally that if I don't say porn, you'll slit your wrists, assuming you can get to it under all the layers of fat you people have. Because if anyone uses the wrong word to describe a thing, they're a loser and this is deeply upsetting to you people for some asinine reason.
I honestly wish the kind of piece of shit who flips out at the word 'smut' would actually, genuinely die. I'm tired of writing 7k of the sexiest work I can and then getting "uhhh why didn't you say porn like a grown up?" Because I was too busy fucking your mom to give her a child she can actually love. Die mad and fat and ugly and poor about it, you piece of shit.
Should I start putting trigger warnings up for this? "Warning: the author tagged this as Smut and Fluff, meaning he's one of those sickos who thinks smut is an okay word. Get your razorblades ready before reading the tags, everybody!"
You people would not survive on the old internet. Forget crying about using the word smut, I used to regularly encounter unmarked, unwarned for gore and murder and rape and torture. And yet I managed not to shit myself about it, let alone go, "Wow, you said gore? What an anti. The correct term is graphic violence lmao"
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Much like using the very silly word 'smut', this ask makes you sound like a child.
https://www.tumblr.com/olderthannetfic/779889755795095552/httpswwwtumblrcomolderthannetfic779634954778?source=share
It's so depressing seeing someone in the comments on this one go, "Wouldn't it be funny if, instead of reacting to something in-universe the way a real person would, the black girl was sooo over it bc she's read about black magical girls?"
No. The MCU and Big Bang Theory and Family Guy may find "I'm so ~*~unaffected~*~ and ~*~over it~*~" funny but it's lazy. It's lazy writing. Writing characters is hard. Writing Snarky Irony Poisoned Aloof Diet Edgy MC #4000 is easy. I get that the familiar is comforting to some audiences - it's why Family Guy never dies and people still rewatch MCU movies instead of watching something new - but it's boring to audience members who want actual stakes. If the characters are constantly going, "I'm over it. I don't care. I'm not impressed. Something has shown up that ten seconds ago I thought was physically impossible and I refuse to treat that as significant", then why the fuck should the audience care?
No, really, that's not sarcastic - why would anyone care about another media property where the characters keep reminding you that no one, not even they, take this seriously? What's engaging about that? Allegedly it's "funny", but I'm not even clear on how that works when this is so fucking common. I grew up on the MCU and at this point characters being totally unaffected by finding out that how they thought the world worked is wrong is just a day ending in y. But even if it wasn't common... it makes the character too stupid to root for, honestly, if they, like an anti, can't tell fiction apart from reality. If they react to a real event the same way they do as a fictional one, that's not funny. That's every person in my dorm, basically.
This is an unpopular opinion with my generation and with Millennials. But the reason you see people blowing up for this show is because it isn't on its' hands and knees pleading with you, "We're detached and cool and aloof! We're not taking this seriously! We promise not to be sincere!" Instead the people making it asked, "How do we tell a good story? What sounds in-character for these characters to say?"
And even on here, you get braindead losers going, "Okay, but imagine if instead of Zira acting like Zira, a character whose race, age, hobbies, personality, attitude and background inform her reaction, she just went 'haha me no care me read manga'? Wouldn't that be funny?" No.
Genuinely, it depresses me that Pretty Pretty Please I Don't Want To Be A Magical Girl has writing that is too sophisticated for the kiddults of the internet. Go rewatch some superhero movies with a Chris in them if you want that shit.
(The extra stupid part is that Zira DOES have several moments of being unaffected and trying to play it cool. She just also shows enthusiasm for one thing and that one, singular moment is too much variety for people who want everything to be as uniform and familiar as possible.)
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Modern tumblr users like "Isn't it sooooo misogynistic that the main characters in this bl manga are dating each other and not the female characters in this manga 'convenience store cashier #3' and 'the uke's coworker' maybe the fandom should consider those ships instead" (barely an exaggeration atp, seeing people melting down about a male character's current canon male love interest beating girls he hasn't interacted with in years in a poll about his best love interests)
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this is just me being a massive hater but i find it so annoying when someone posts a realistic painting and people add comments that are always HUGE font size and bright red or something being like EVERYBODY SCROLL UP ITS A PAINTING. like its specifically the comments i hate not the art itself or even being impressed by realism
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Besides being good for general fannish work, I also appreciate the Original Work fandom tag for people who don't feel comfortable with posting their fic in a fandom and who file off the serial numbers and post it in Original Work when they have no interest in publishing professionally. Whatever their reason for that is, it's their choice, and it's nice that such fics have a place on AO3 too.
That, and the Original Work fandom has some of the best kink fics out there.
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As long as it's not fucking minecraft that hasn't even had the serial numbers filed.
Do people always have multiple fandoms? I think many bigger fandoms like HP and Startrek and Supernatural will have a big group of active people who won't move to different fandoms ever. HP is a book fandom so personally there is barely anything to move to bc I'm not a film or tv series person. Maybe Discworld if there was a similar romance/chicklit culture around the characters
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There are plenty of active book fandoms these days, usually also of children's lit or YA.
But yes, big fandoms often have at least a few fans who never move to anything else.
https://www.tumblr.com/olderthannetfic/780087941037015041/i-hate-being-in-official-video-game-discord-so People are this way about film and TV writers too. Like they totally forget that these are real human beings, who aren't even paid all that well. Funnily enough, some of these assholes went all "uwu I stand with the writers" during the strike and then went right back to calling writers every name under the sun for "ruining" their blorbo.
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The funniest thing to me is when internet randos are like "This person made $60k in a year! Writers are rich!!!"
I can't stand the amount of people (often but not always in fandom spaces,) who accuse any women they don't like or any women who like things they don't like as being pick-mes. I know fandom in particular attracts all different types of people and many of them are people that for whatever reason feel isolated or feel like outsiders compared to regular/mainstream culture but why do so many people (unfortunately many of whom are women,) feel the need to constantly lash out at and criticize women who enjoy different things than they do? I don't want to assume they're all operating purely on bad faith but it's annoying and frustrating to have my every action and all my creative works examined under a microscope by bitter, joyless assholes who gain self validation through finding reasons to call other people problematic. I have just as much of a right to exist in fandom as anyone else even if close minded, entitled jerks online think I'm too much of a normie to engage with their hobbies and if anyone has a problem with me interacting with fandom in the ways that make me happy, too bad for them, they can cope and seethe about it because I'm not letting them tell me how I should enjoy fiction.
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This behavior is deeply ingrained in our societies. It's part of patriarchy.
Writing for a musical fandom for the first time, and wondering. What's a good way to indicate lines said vs lines sung? "🎶This looks cheesy🎶" but saying they sung after multiple lines also seems like it'd get old, as much as "said" blends into the background and sang probably would as well? Are there conventions/standards for this?
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I have no idea. The musical fic I've seen acts like they are not singing.
Far be it for me, a drarry shipper, to judge people. But I really wish that we, as a society, could please move on from HP. I don't want to hear about whatever bs JKR is up to again. I don't want to hear about new projects that would be mediocre at best. I don't want to see people talk about HP anymore. I would erase all of HP's media presence and only keep a small portion of the fandom if I could
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The fandom will die when the mainstream popularity eventually does.
People in my fandom: "Write for yourself! Wow, you reply to comments? That means you only write to get comments. You said 'thank you' for hitting 1k hits? You only write for hits. Write for yourself! Write for the sole purpose of writing!"
Me, in the author's notes of the final chapter: "I'm not going to be writing fic for a while. I'm working with an editor to get my book published. It's a project I've loved for years and worked on alone off and on for a decade, and I'm happy to see it get to this stage."
Those exact same people, vagueing about me on social media*: "It's awful that people stop writing fanfic. No one appreciates their audience anymore. Writers don't respect their readers."
So... I should have been thankful for hits - no wait that's bad. I should've listened to what people wanted, except no, acknowledging comments is bad, and I should write for myself, right up until it stops being 841k words for free.
I'm enjoying this vacation from these people already.
(* this fandom is 500 fics big so let's not pretend they're talking about someone else, here.)
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Still thinking about how there are people with the mindset of "I want to be proship but I don't want to be gamergate alt right bros lolicons" stuff and the idea that antis are mostly "alt left" but extremist.
These people have never met "NTR antis". Mostly found in right wing bros who think seeing character changing love interest will cause massive divorce and adultery. It's just people who gets really angry over NTR are not in the place where people use the word "proship vs anti".
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There is a wonderful feeling that comes from finally compiling all your meta notes for a project that were previously hundreds of separate things, on multiple formats. (In this particular instance it was everything from index cards, piles of loose typewritten pages, hand-drawn diagrams, screenshots of social media archives, an entire discord server kept as a lore dumping ground, multiple document files, etc. Dating back to early 2019 or so, for this one project.)
Highly recommend not letting this stuff get out of hand in the first place, but finally getting it all in order over the past two days has made my life SO much easier. It's the little victories, at least for me.
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