Hi everyone!
This is really uncomfortable for me to talk about, but it’s gotten to the point where I feel like I need to say something. I’ve tried to be polite and keep my distance from this, and I’m now exhausted.
If Lottie (gracethornwood, ariestals, untoeden, netrvnning, cvltbrat, however many more accounts she has tbqh) attempts to have you contact me for her, please do not do so.
I really can’t stress this enough.
I’ve had this person blocked on multiple platforms for months. I shouldn’t have to justify my reasons for curating my online experience, but it seems that this isn’t enough when it actually comes down to it. I have attempted to be vague in regard to this persons’ history when others enquire so as to save them the trouble, but they are now insisting on bringing it to me.
I really fucking shouldn’t have to air out someone’s dirty laundry like this, but I’m really quite tired of hearing about this person’s pursuit of me despite my boundaries.
Because I apparently need to list my reasons for avoiding this person, to name a few:
- I have witnessed first-hand their penchant for fandom drama. I have seen the multiple fights they’ve gotten into over petty differences and OC bullshit. I was warned in my early days in the fandom by others about this behaviour on her end.
- I (with others) have had to moderate breakdowns on her part, because other people have blocked her and she’s done the exact same thing she’s currently doing with me: Feign ignorance, ignore advice to just stay away, and to keep attempting contact. She doesn’t listen when she’s told that she’s harassing someone.
- I’ve had to moderate her attempting to dox roleplay/writing blogs, because she personally hasn’t appreciated that they write triggering material on request and finds it necessary to out and ridicule them rather than simply click the Back button and move on with her day.
- She has a cycle of behaviours that are deeply triggering to me because I’ve had stalkers in the past and that I find personally overwhelming.
- Rather than deal with this kind of person, I’m quite happy just to block them and move on with my merry little day.
Please, for the love of god, do not enable this person to keep attempting to circumvent the hard boundaries that I have set.
It should be an acceptable practice not to hound someone for contact when they’ve blocked you. I shouldn’t feel as if I’ve done something wrong by staying away from something I know does me harm, and I’m honestly quite disappointed that there’s been an expectation that I should have to re-establish contact for Lottie’s own comfort rather than maintain my boundaries.
Please do not engage in this conversation if they bring it up to you.
It’s a major breach of my privacy, and I should not have to justify to a stranger on the internet as to why I blocked them. This should be a no-brainer, and yet?
I have no issue with anyone in my circle interacting with this person. You’re not getting caught in the middle of some “drama”, because aside from Lottie’s end, there is none.
I’m on these platforms to share creative content and appreciate the creative content of others. I’m chilling. I’m not interested in engaging in someone who has singled me out to get their dose of drama.
Keeping my personal distance and not raising this issue with others was done out of respect for Lottie and to ensure that she wouldn’t feel alienated. However, Lottie using your friendship with them to attempt to contact or ask after me is absolutely NOT okay.
Bottom line, this shit is harassment.
Please respect my wishes and do not bring the issue of Lottie to me. I blocked this person in the first place so that I wouldn’t have to deal with them.
Thanks, all.