C'est La vie and other pretentiousness

The way you change your immediate reactions to things is that you catch yourself having an uncharitable/bigoted/overly judgmental thought and you catch it and replace it and then you do that a hundred times a day for your whole life and eventually one day like five years later you realize that you think differently now and you’ll always be working on something but that’s how life goes and that’s fine.

Say you have a bad habit of thinking all other people are stupider than you and want to respect other people’s intelligence more.

So you start paying attention to your immediate first reactions to things. You notice that when other people around you are struggling with a math problem and ask you for help you default to seeing them as annoying and stupid.

Instead of chastising yourself for having that thought, interrogate it. Replace it. Think, why do I assume people with different strengths are dumber than I am? I need help sometimes too. I’m glad they’re comfortable enough with me to ask me for help. I’m glad I’ve got a reputation of being the math guy and can help people with that.

And the first time, perhaps the first few dozen times, it’ll feel disingenuous. The cynicism in your brain will fight it. But in time it’ll become as easy as breathing. First thought, replace thought.

And then one day you don’t need to replace that thought. That might be a month from now or twenty years from now. And it’s annoying to get there. But you do get there.

very special to me that every critic has panned lisa frankenstein while every bitch on tumblr is like "this movie was made specifically for ME"

This is ✨IT✨

I love how everyone who saw the Lisa Frankenstein trailer and loved it immediately thought "this movie was made for ME" and you know what? We were right, guys

Library kids are going to save the world. 📚

Lmaooooooooo

wild how like PCOS, endometriosis, vaginismus & hell, even frequent yeast infections are “mysterious” with no well known cause and little to no decent treatment, but we have tons of supposedly well researched body fat removal methods, about 20 different kinds of breast implants, laser hair removal, and 100 different dermatologist recommended anti aging creams. we sure had the money and brainpower to cure those “diseases”

good thing i'm not a film critic as i'm grotesquely inclined to call any film where an off-putting young murderess gets her happily-ever-after with a handsome, worm-ridden corpseman "movie of the year"

it goes against so much of what i stand for to share "palestinians are humans, they have hobbies, they have pets, they laugh and cry" kind of posts because i've spent so much of my life and career completely rejecting the notion that we should humanize ourselves, that we should ever be defensive, that we should entertain this racism at all

but it breaks my heart when i have to share them from people in gaza, who are using their five minutes of internet connection, their 25% of battery charge collected from a macguyvered car battery, emotionally exhausted, thirsty and hungry, sleeping in schools that have turned into refugee shelters and still making the time to say "please, i am human too, i am still alive, please fight for me" in english to appeal to the only people who have the power to help

i shared a tweet from a jjk artist in gaza i follow about a bts photocard being found in the middle of the rubble. even the love of anime and kpop and sports is no longer just a hobby, but an appeal to humanity. what was once a source of joy is now proof of life.

the worst part is that you won't find this content in arabic. palestinians don't post like this in arabic. but when they translate themselves, they recognize that they must humanize themselves first. it's an unspoken understanding of dehumanization, one that has dictated a whole region's understanding of the value of human life. in arabic they speak with dignity, with anger, with sorrow. in english, they appeal for their existence.

i share these posts not just because we have to reach everyone we can, because im being asked to and i will not refuse. but i also share them because they're evidence of how deep the racism has run. at what dehumanization leads to. of war crime after war crime. this too i will not forget.

Learning Lisa Frankenstein did so badly box office and reviews wise I was honestly shook until I remembered men exist

I've seen a lot of people critiquing Lisa and the Creature because their murders are unjustified and petty therefore THEY'RE TERRIBLE CHARACTERS

1) It's a slasher comedy. You're supposed to suspend your disbelief... they're the villains, the story is just told from their perspective

2)"How could the audience ever root for these people?" Lisa is a traumatized girl who had to deal with an axe murderer killing her mother. The real horror of that event isn't even the trauma she experienced. It's how she was treated afterwards that's mind-boggling. Nobody bothered to help her out and she was systemtically punished for not fitting in- which is the reality of many mentally unstable/disabled/traumatized people.

Lisa's struggle is very relatable, she just acts the ultimate fantasy out: she actively kills/is complicit in the murder of those who failed her (and, very symbolically, she often kills them with an axe, the weapon used to kill her mother)

She emotionally relies on the only person who actually cared for her and took time to understand her: the creature.

Are her actions justified? Of course not. None of those people deserved death. It's a revenge fantasy movie. The real victim is Taffy, who inherits Lisa's trauma and grief after her own mother gets murdered. Lisa perpetuates this horrible cycle of abuse, BECAUSE NO ONE CARED TO HELP HER. The world's apathy is the ultimate villain.

I still root and empathize with Lisa because I get it. Bro, I've been abused. When your trauma gets brushed off as an inconvenience by the people who are supposed to cherish you and protect you, you start to understand Lisa's actions.

But as always, the reading comprehension on this site is piss poor. (I DONT PISS ON THE POOR!!!)

Also big W for the diy bottom surgery and death is temporary love is forever. ♡

i can’t believe this is real

not the source for the screen cap but here's a WSJ article (sans paywall)

Per previous tags--

In this model of Tesla, apparently—get this—according to the Tesla manual, you do it on a touchscreen.

Did a human being just die because of swiping the wrong way?

...And then, when you're in the water and the car's power systems (which operate the doors, because of course they do) have all gone down, how do you get out?

You partially disassemble the door and pull out one specific wire. The image via Warren Terra at Bluesky.)

...I don't know about the rest of you, but I am never getting into one of these alleged vehicles. Ever.

...you know, we've been saying that these things are deathtraps, but holy SHIT

I feel compelled to point out that the diagram above is for the back door. I still don't know where to find the wire to open the front doors.

This is why anyone who actually works in tech (being a tech ceo does not count as working) is wary at best about making things "smarter". The failure mode for a computerized mechanism should be functioning as a non-computerized mechanism, but very often the failure mode for a fully-smart device is undefined behaviour that the manufacturer doesn't intend for you to ever see. And that means there's no recourse in situations like this.

More fat characters who are complex heroes, serious love interests, funny without mentioning their weight, brooding anti-heroes, compelling antagonists, random bystanders without comments toward their looks

This sounded too good to be true, so I did a little bit of fact checking.

Mike Ilitch did in fact pay Rosa Parks' rent for years, but it wasn't because she was laid off. She needed a safer place to live after she was assaulted in her own home at the age of 81. He paid her rent from that point onward, for the rest of her life.

The more you know 🌈⭐

When you fact check and it turns out even better than the original story.