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Not diagnosing a child doesn't mean they won't notice they're different. It just means that instead of thinking "I'm struggling because I have autism/adhd/anxiety/depression/schizophrenia", they will just conclude that they are struggling because they are stupid, weak, annoying, unlovable, etc.

I can't stand parents who don't want to "label" their child.

I have all of the ADHDs, and I didn't have it confirmed and diagnosed until I was over 50.

I have trauma: it is not "big" trauma, it's smaller daily traumas where I always felt "wrong", layered over and over and over very finely, so now it's as hard and unbreakable as a Japanese sword.

I want to scream "LABEL THEM. ALL THE LABELS. I WILL BRING MY LABEL-MAKER AND ADD SOME MORE."

Sure, Diagnosis = Label. But also = beginning to understand = access to help and accommodations = now you can't be a dick to your child about their DIAGNOSED DISABILITY unless you are fully committed to being a dick anyway = child can now start doing their own learning about themselves (I learned so much from ADHD twitter) = being able to make choices about how to be in a world set up to maximise neurotypical success.

Or is the problem here that you don't want your own label as "parent of a neurodivergent child?

I feel this so hard. I was diagnosed at 33. I said to my mom “turns out I have adhd.” She says “oh I could have told you that.”

And I’m like “why the fuck didn’t you then???”

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