now I see more & understand less

Kiki Smith: ‘Constellation’ at Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art (1996)

“In terms of trying to actively promote depth in your life, start putting on your calendar some appointments with yourself to do deep work. Go a couple weeks out and treat those appointments like you would a doctor’s appointment or a meeting with an investor. If someone tries to schedule something during that time, you say, “No, I’m busy from one to three, but here’s when I’m available.” People understand the semantics around the meetings and appointments. They’re willing to work around it. You don’t have to explain why. Start with a moderate amount, say three or four hours a week. Have it on the calendar. Have it protected. And during those prescheduled times, maintain the zero-tolerance distraction policy. During those times, not a glance at the internet, not a glance at the phone. The second thing is, take some step to start gaining back cognitive fitness. Most people are not willing, for example, to just blanket quit social media; but I would suggest a couple things. One, take social media applications off your phone. I’ve had a lot of people who say, “I can give you 19 reasons why I have to use social media, why it’s so important in my life,” and then they do this experiment where they take it off their phone so it becomes 10 percent more difficult to log in to Facebook or Twitter. They stop using it altogether. They realize, “Okay, wait a second. Maybe I was telling all these stories about the key role it plays in my life, and why I always have to be looking at it, but once I added just a slight impediment, I stopped using it altogether.” I think it helps sort of reassess the value, but more importantly, you take the addictive aspects out of the service while still maintaining your access to the information or other value that you get out of it. The third thing I would recommend is starting to schedule the time you do novel, distracting, stimulating things. You could schedule lots of times, but it should be scheduled times. Maybe after work, you say, “From 8 to 10, I’m going to break out the laptop and just go nuts, no holds barred. Social media, whatever. But until 8, none of it.” Or, “Okay, at work, I’m going to check my email, check on all of this at this time, this time, this time, this time.” All the other times in between, even if you feel like you want to do it, you don’t. This is all about just practicing that muscle of “I want stimuli, and I said no.” Even if you’ve scheduled 25 blocks during the day when you’re going to look at stimuli, that still gives you 25 blocks between those times where you’re going to feel like you want to check stimuli and you say no. Every time you do that, that’s helping to break the Pavlovian connection. That’s usually how I get people started. Get it on the calendar, start cleaning up your cognitive fitness.”