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@therockandthecrazyone / therockandthecrazyone.tumblr.com

Formerly lurkinginthecorner. Put it simply, I'm a stupid, worthless, piece of shit asshole. Consider yourself warned.
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It's been so long!

I doubt most of you will remember me, I barely had time for Tumblr in the past couple of years as I was working full time and commuting so I haven't been posting and the fandom isn't what it used to be either. .. and now that I'm trying to catch up a little and get back into things, tumblr is working wonky at best... :(

I just wanted to say that I'm still lurking around in between feedings and play time (yep, got a brand-new baby girl for my birthday!) and I'm contemplating diving back into my WIPs just to give them some sort of closure. I'm not sure I'll have the courage yet, it remains to be seen.

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helthehatter

Good Things that Happened in 2016

helthehatter:
·         We’re closer to having successful vaccines for lung and brain cancer.
·         New chemotherapy breakthroughs have increased the 5-year survival for pancreatic cancer from 16% to 27% (and is getting better)
·         Scientists figured out how to link robotic limbs with the part of the brain that deals with intent to move so people don’t have to think about how they will move the limb, it can just happen.
·         Child mortality is down everywhere and it keeps going down.
·         Thanks to the ice bucket challenge the gene responsible for ALS has been found, meaning we are closer to an effective treatment. Let me rephrase that: we are close to getting a treatment for a very bad disease because a lot of people (including really hot celebrities) got wet.
·         A solar powered plan circumnavigated the world.
·         Michael Jordan donates 2mil to try and help bridge connection between police and the community.
·         Tiger numbers are growing.
·         And manatees.
·         And pandas.
·         Pakistan has made strides toward outlawing honor killings.
·         70,000 Muslim clerics declared a fatwa against ISIS.
·         Pokemon Go players went insane with placing lure modules near hospitals for sick kids.
·         California is now powering over 6 million homes with solar power, a record in the US (and that is the tightest shit)
·         Volunteers in India planted 50 million trees in 24 hours.
·         Apparently world crime as a whole has drastically declined as a whole in the last couple of decades.
·         Coffee consumption has been proved to help curtail cancer and suicide rates.
·         Speaking of coffee Starbucks figured out how to donate perishable food in a food safe way.
·         500 elephants were relocated to a better, safer and bigger home.
·         We made massive strides in Alzheimers’ prevention (my grandmother literally told me that scares her more than getting cancer this is very good news)
·         The ozone layer is repairing itself and all the work we did to get rid of those aerosol chemicals was actually worth it.
·         A new therapy developed in Israel could cure radiation sickness.
·         The Anglican church resolved to solemnize same-sex unions the same as opposite-sex unions which required a super majority of all three orders of the church (lay, clergy, bishop).
·         The Rabbinical Assembly issued a resolution affirming the rights of transgender and non-conforming individuals.
·         Precision treatments for cancer are hitting clinical trials and WORKING (as someone who’s had relatives with cancer this is the best news)
·         Dentists are once again providing free care to veterans who need it.
·         The Orlando Shakespeare Festival showed up with angel wings to block funeral-goers for the Orlando Pulse victims, view from anti-gay protesters
·         We may have cured MS
·         Rise Women’s Legal Centre opened
·         Death by heart disease has decreased by 70% in the United States
·         Two brothers saw color for the first time thanks to specially-designed glasses
·         Pope Francis spoke against society’s obsession with physical beauty while dedicating Mass to the disabled community (love that dude)
·         Portugal ran its entire nation solely on renewable energy for four days straight
·         A retiree is launching a project to transport 80 endangered rhinos to an Australian reservation to save the animals from poaching
·         An Afghan teacher has been delivering books via bicycle to villages that lack schools
·         Harriet Tubman is going to replace Andrew Jackson on the $20 bill.
·         200 strangers attended the funeral of a homeless WW2 veteran with no family
·         A teen battling cancer married his sweetheart
·         Bank firm pays for college tuition for the children of employees who died in the 9/11 attacks
·         New medicine has been shown to increase melanoma survival rate to 40%
·         Over 800 Boko Harem Hostages were rescued by Nigerian Army
·         Toys R Us is Offering Quiet Shopping Hour for kids with autism this holiday season
·         Volunteers made special tiny Halloween costumes for NICU babies
·         A 4-year old befriends a lonely man and helped him heal after losing his wife
·         Families grew
·         People survived c ancer
·         People overcame depression
·         Any kind of victory, even if it affects only one person,  is a victory
·         Now for the pop culture good news
·         LEONARDO DICAPRIO WON AN OSCAR! EVERYONE READING THIS LIVED LONG ENOUGH TO SEE LEO FINALLY GET WHAT HE DESERVED
·         There’s a new Harry Potter book
·         And a movie
·         Harry Potter has no plans on vanishing with time
·         This sweet father gave candy to passengers on a flight so his little girl could trick or treat on Halloween
·         LET ME TALK ABOUT ALL THE KICK ASS MOVIES WE GOT THIS YEAR OH MY GOD
·         Kung Fu Panda 3, this franchise is still going strong despite that its about a panda played by Jack Black
·         Jungle Book. The amazing remake none of us saw coming
·         Finding Dory. I haven’t seen it yet but I’ve heard good things
·         Kubo and the Two Strings. Haven’t seen that yet as well but its Laika so I know it’s a masterpiece
·         Deadpool. The beautiful and super accurate R-rated marvel film
·         Captain America: Civil War. Seriously is the best marvel movie yet in my opinion I need more.
·         Zootopia. Oh don’t mind me I’m just a movie that tackled the issue of racism and not only game changed animated films but also made a billion dollars
·         The Hamilton Mixtape is coming out. Which is a bunch of artists singing songs from the musical (Sia, Usher, Regina Spketor, etc.) I’m excited.
·         A personal victory for myself, I joined Tumblr and met angels in blog form so…that’s uplifting.
·         And I met my favorite voice actor at a con which was a bucket list accomplishment.
Good Things that have yet to happen this year
·         Birthdays
·         Doctor Strange
·         Thanksgiving
·         Black Friday
·         Moana
·         Christmas
Good things that have nothing to do with the year but will hopefully make you feel better
·         Puppies
·         Chocolate
·         Rainbows
·         Rain (I like listening to rain it’s one of the most calming sounds)
·         Cartoons
·         Kissing
·         Music
·         Friends
·         FF: If you are a religious person you are an imperfect masterpiece
·         FF: If you are not then you are a splendid coincidence
·         Any year spent with loved ones be they family or friends is a good year. Trust me.
·         ”A laugh can be a very powerful thing. Why, sometimes in life, it’s the only weapon we have” –Roger Rabbit
#NeverForgetTheGood
*Plz feel free to add other good news (even if it’s something small like you ate cheesecake THAT is good news)
This is a gorgeous post, everyone should reblog it to see the balancing side to the whole bad things happening in the world!
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So this is a totally useless rant, but as a skinny girl, I’m getting extra, extra tired of fat-shaming.

I work for a corsetier at a Renaissance Faire. We sell corsets. Not flimsy bullshit costume corsets; like real, durable, waist-training corsets. Today a woman came in with her boyfriend, so I helped her pick out a corset and try it on. While her boyfriend—who was decidedly enthused about the whole corset thing—sat watching me lace her in, he told me, grinning, “Of all the good jobs at the Renaissance Faire, I think you have the best.”

I shrugged in agreement. “I touch butts and reach down cleavage all day; I mean…” Because we like to be a bit rakish at the Faire, and, y’know, it’s true. Tying people into corsets pretty much invariably requires getting handsy.

The couple laughed at that, and the boyfriend said, “That’s the job I would want!” But then he chuckled again and said, offhand, “Or maybe not; while we were looking at the racks, there were some pretty big sizes on there!”

Our sizes are all done in inches, and the biggest we make is a 46. And you’d better believe our large sizes sell. For a second I wasn’t sure what to say to the guy’s comment, but I answered him casually. “We get a lot of beautiful big ladies in here.” Because we do. “We make corsets for real women, not Barbie dolls,” I added. Wasn’t trying to be smart, just kind of tossed it out there because that’s the line we like to use when people ask about larger sizes, and because, again, we do.

The boyfriend went quiet at that; I didn’t think anything of it, I just kept on lacing. A moment later, he said, a little awkwardly (but sincerely enough), “Didn’t mean to be offensive.”

I quickly smiled and brushed it off, said he wasn’t, said I was just saying. (Don’t want to make the customers uncomfortable, you know?) And that was the end of it. His comment had rubbed me the wrong way, but it wasn’t a big deal. Now, I wear a 20-inch corset. I’m a few cup sizes short of being one of the Barbie dolls. Like his girlfriend, I’m one of the “hot chicks”; he doesn’t have to worry about offending me by implying that I wouldn’t be fun to poke and pull at.

Honestly though, of all the people I fit sexy technically-undergarments to in a day, fat girls are maybe my favorite people to lace up. Because they are just so damn happy that we have stuff that fits them. They are so damn happy that the corsets we make in their sizes are all the same pretty, shiny colors and cool flower/dragon/skull/etc. prints that the smaller corsets are, not ugly beige and boring “granny” colors. They are so goddamn happy that at least one (of several on the grounds) corset shop carries things that they can wear, that they actually want to wear, and that they look fucking awesome in. This is only my second season working, and we’ve fit 60+ inch waists and double-K busts. The only people we’ve ever had to tell sorry, we don’t have anything that fits them, are twelve-year-old kids.

It’s half-wonderful, half-heartbreaking how excited those women get. Women who say with sad smiles, when we ask if they want to get fitted, “Oh, no, you don’t have anything that fits me,” and then are stunned when we’re 300% confident that yes we do, and we have options. Women who can’t stop smiling and looking at themselves in the mirror after we’ve got them laced in.

I had a lady last week whose waist I measured (cinching the tape tight, as per procedure) at 41 inches—honestly not all that big. So she picked out a 41-inch corset to try on. I could tell halfway through getting her laced that it was going to be a bit big for her, so I mentioned it and said she might do better to try a smaller size. She started crying on the spot. She was so overwhelmed; she couldn’t believe someone had just told her that a 41 was too big. She told me about how hard clothes shopping was for her, how her mother would tell her she needed an XXXL instead of an XXL, how she had recently lost weight but still couldn’t wear certain colors because they didn’t fit or she wasn’t confident enough.

She did end up getting her corset, and after I checked her out she asked if she could give me a hug, so we ended up standing there hugging each other for a minute. While we did, I told her, “Do not ever let anyone tell you any bullshit. You are gorgeous.” She said, “I have a new boyfriend and he keeps telling me that.” I told her he was right, and to just keep telling herself she’s gorgeous; it was okay if she didn’t always believe it, but to keep telling herself anyway. (That’s how I talked myself through shit when I had bad anxiety.)

We all know fat-shaming is bad. The stupidity, fatphobia, and misogyny of it has pissed me off since I first became aware of it. But working with clothing, especially as figure-hugging and precise as corsets, has given me a new perspective on it—how much it affects people and just how shitty it is. Like, what does it say that I had a grown, only average-big woman crying into my shoulder because she was so overjoyed not to be the uppermost extremity of what a manufacturer can clothe?

My job rocks and it’s really rewarding, but sometimes it highlights some of the ugliest shit about society. I’m so glad I work at a shop that’s not bullshit about body types and operates with more people in mind than just scrawny white chicks like me. The fat women I work with are a ton of fun to lace up, and they’re so much more than their size—they’re cool, they’re smart, they’re funny, they’re sweet, they’re great to talk to, and yes, they’re hot. I’m so damn done with them getting short-changed and shamed by petty fucks who refuse to make them nice clothes, who refuse to even try to work for them, who refuse to consider them pretty. This whole rant was useless and won’t get read, but I had to vent because it’s been driving me nuts.

So actually, screw you, random dude. Fat girls are the highlight of my job.

Going to add this bit: I’m overweight. I’m not really big, but I’ve always had issues with my weight and the shit I get from people. I was actually getting fitted for a corset and was told I needed to go down a size. So I understand how that girl felt. I know that it’s “just a number” and it shouldn’t bother me, but that made me feel awesome.

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lacqueluster

I read every word of this and it made me want to cry and buy a corset.

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