Hello! For women is their Lilith placement their biggest fear psychologically or do we look somewhere else in the chart?

Lilith, the 8th house, the 12th house.

Lilith represents what we were shamed for, what we repress because of the punishments, ridicule we received for it. It could show the wild side of a person, how you want to rebel, where in your life you want to rebel. It is the sexuality, dark feminine, shadow self of a person.

The 8th House is generally connected to psychological fears, deep insecurities, what has caused us pain to such a strong level that we seek to transform, it shows trauma. Lilith is also connected to trauma, but one that was influenced by others. With the 8th house it could sometimes be a person's own thoughts, other times traumatic events.

The 12th House is also what you hide, but it is not connected to shame as it is connected connected to loneliness, imprisonment, isolation that is felt on a next level. It could also point to insecurities, bad mental health.

Hey. What aspects are very binding in synastry and composite chart, aspects that make you fight for relationship? Thank you.

Saturn and Pluto 100%

Saturn aspects, especially between Venus and Saturn are an indication that you are very stubborn about the relationship. That's why it is an indicator of a long-term relationship.

Saturn itself is the planet of suffering - something may cause you pain but you still enjoy it and do not want other options. That's how it can manifest in relationships as well. Saturn is persistent and devoted.

The Venus-Saturn conjunction is the most prominent. Stubbornness and willingness to forever fight for the relationship even if it causes you pain. The Saturn person can be a true masochist. The Venus-Saturn trine and sextile is more toned down. Commitment naturally happens, it is not something forced and it doesn't feel like you have to fight for it. Venus-Saturn opposition can bring difficulties, but there is stubornness and it can easily work out if both people make compromise. Venus-Saturn square is something else. Stubbornness, you are willing to fight for each other even if there is absolutely no chance. Commitment can happen slowly, there could be outside circumstances that prevent it but does that matter? No. It can be very complicated though.

I have noticed that difficult aspects, especially square or opposition make the Saturn person even more stubborn to make things work. Saturn is the planet that makes us addicted to pain and suffering, so in a Synastry the Saturn person is always the one wanting to make things work out even if the relationship is bad for them.

Saturn aspects with other planets can be considered as well, but for romance Venus is the most prominent one.

Now Pluto is based on obsession, uncontrollable attraction and connection.

Venus-Pluto conjunction in Synastry can show a very difficult dynamic. It is an aspect for a very strong connection, one that is truly passionate, unbreakable. You can be obsessed with each other to an unhealthy level. In a pair with this aspect fighting for the relatonship is highly likely as you fear what you will do without the presence of the other person. They are bonded to you forever. Venus-Pluto trines and sextiles are once again easier to deal with. It is passionate, but not unhealthy. You still hold onto each other though. Venus-Pluto opposition or square is where the battle for control begins. The Pluto person will do anything to keep the Venus person. They can be possessive, controlling, but the Venus person can be drawn to that - Venus loves attention, even if it's unhealthy. It can create a very toxic dynamic at times with a lot of games, jealousy, bad behavior. I don't think this aspect manifests that badly in most pairs who have it (unless they have multiple strong Pluto aspects and 8th house placements). But it can be a relationship where you want to keep each other and fight for each other, even if the relationship itself is complicated and hard for both of you.

Hi, uhm what placements/aspects/degrees do you think can make someone unlucky in love? I always see posts about those who are lucky in that department but rarely those who aren’t

I wouldn't interpret these placements as unlucky, but I will give explanation to why there could be problems when it comes to love.

Venus in 6th, 8th or 12th house

Venus in 6th can make someone view love as responsibility, as something that has to happen. Partnership is like a requirement rather than a joy. Venus in 6th can have very high standards, a lot of demands for their partners and this can be very difficult for the opposite party in a relationship. Venus in 8th attracts toxic dynamics in love. They like people who are unhealthy for them, people who are exciting, but the relationship is just bad. They could get in secret relationships, forbidden affairs, there is toxicity written all over it. Venus in 12th can be blinded by love. Doesn't matter how many people tell you that person is bad for you, you don't see it. They can be delusional and there is no sense of reality. Can be beautiful if they are with the right person though.

Venus conjunct/square Saturn, Saturn in 5th/7th or ruler of the 5th or 7th house conjunct Saturn

e.g. Virgo on the 5th house cusp, Virgo is ruled by Mercury, Mercury is conjunct Saturn.

Strong Venus-Saturn aspects generally show that love doesn't come easily. They can be a late bloomer, meet their love later in life, get married later in life. Note that this can also be interpreted as attraction to people who are older/more mature/someone they view as authority. Venus-Saturn can also show romantic difficulties, good relationships that have outside factors that prevent them from happening. Saturn in 5th or 7th are interpreted similarly. Saturn in 5th can show lack of sexual desire or late sexual awakening, Saturn in 7th can point to marriage later in life.

Venus square Jupiter

This is nothing major, but can point to your ego becoming a problem in your relationship. Higher-than-thou attitude towards partners, selfish behavior. Is it always like this? No, but in some cases it could be the problem. Also no sense of responsibility in relationships.

Venus conjunct South Node, South Node in 5th or 7th (or ruler of 5th or 7th conjunct South Node)

e.g. Virgo on the 5th house cusp, Virgo is ruled by Mercury, Mercury is conjunct the South Node.

You might hold a lot of relationship karma. Attachment to the past, difficulty moving on, living in the past when it comes to love. It can be quite overwhelming and there can be a sense that nothing will be as ever good as something you have already experienced.

Venus conjunct/opposite/square Uranus

This isn't unlucky, but it can show that you could attract a lot of relationships with an on/off dynamic. Peace doesn't work for you. You want thrill and excitement, you are easily bored. Love is chaos.

Venus conjunct/opposite/square Neptune or Venus in Pisces, Neptune in 7th

Similarly to Venus in 12th, strong aspects with Venus and Neptune or Venus in Pisces can show someone who is blinded by love, someone who views love as a sacrifice. You do everything for others, but do they do everything for you? It can show romantic idolization, you are impressed by things other people aren't. You fall in love easily. There is lack of rationality, lack of realistic outlook, sometimes straight up delusion. They can be easily jealous and insecure in relationships, they need reassurance and it can never be enough. HOWEVER, in a good relationship this can be extremely romantic, very loving, love feels like a dream, like something out of a movie.

Venus in Aries, Scorpio or Virgo

Venus is in detriment in Aries and Scorpio and in Fall in Virgo. In detriment there are difficulties, it feels harmed and complex in a way. In fall (Virgo) it just feels unfamiliar, there is lack of strength in Venus. As for actual interpretations, Aries and Scorpio are ruled by Mars (in traditional Astrology Scorpio is ruled by Mars). Mars is the planet of force and action, aggression, violence, so when Venus is in either one of these signs, it can show that love can be uneasy, complex. There is attraction to unhealthy, difficult dynamics in love. Venus in Virgo in my opinion, isn't bad, it can show having very high standards and it can often point to people who are quite aromantic.

what to you is the lesson 8th house synastry tries to teach us?

The 8th house synastry is one of the most complicated ones imo, in both platonic and romantic relationships.

In platonic ones, it is the close friendship that overwhelms us, that we are afraid of - the other person is something who knows even our weakest side, the things we hide from others. It can be good if it's balanced with harmonious aspects of the planets. Negatively, it can be interpreted as envy, jealousy, possessive behaviors - you don't want the other person to be friends with anyone else, you fear them getting close with anyone else. It can be emotionally overwhelming. It can be a friend-enemies situation. You love each other but you also bring out very negative feelings from each other.

Romantically, it is usually the number one sign of a toxic relationship (overused term, but here it can be both lighly and heavily). There is passion, sexual chemistry, you view the other person as someone who has entered your life to change it. You are very, very close and intimacy is beyond physical. The relationship can bring out a very dark side of the 8th house person where they can experience emotions that don't even feel like them. Even if you are not a jealous and possessive person, the person whose planet is in your 8th house will bring that side of you. I like to joke with my friends who are familiar with astrology how I always know when a person or a couple has/have strong 8th house. There is always some kind of darkness to the relationship, strong chemistry, they keep things hidden, under wraps.

I don't think it's something you should run away from but definitely try to rationalize your emotions before expressing them, try to stay calm, don't let the negativity and outbursts prevent you from enjoying an otherwise wonderful relationship.

The 8th house synastry can teach us a lot about the complex part of us, what we hide, our insecurities and fears. This side of the house person is released when the planet person enters their life. It can be a life-changing, deep, transformative relationship and it can be positive if you learn to deal with it in a healthy way (this requires both people).

hope all is well.

I’m curious to know what’s the best house placement for Venus?

In the natal chart honestly each one has a lot of great qualities. In Synastry I am picky and I have preferences.

For the natal chart:

Venus in 1st brings charisma, good personal presentation and style, you can be well-liked by others, leave a good impression.

Venus in 2nd is confidence, high self-esteem, high self-worth, a love for beatiful things - you want to have all of the beautiful possessions possible. Brings luck with money as well. luck in close/intimate relationships.

Venus in 3rd are wonderful communicators, sweet talkers, flirtatious, charming, good writers, very patient with other people. there is love for learning. good at skills.

Venus in 4th shows healthy emotional environment, luck with family (the one you are born with or the one you create), luck with living situation, also wisdom from family

Venus in 5th are lucky in love, very romantic and love-obsessed people, also very creative. can be a sign for talent in the chart. large social presence, love for entertainment.

Venus in 6th are blessed with good health, the ability to be patient and make things work even when it is difficult. good with routine, schedule, planning. good work environment.

Venus in 7th is the second most "natural" placement for Venus (after the 2nd House). Good relationships, both personal and professional. luck in business (anything involving another party), including marriage.

Venus in 8th is the one who manages to overcome their darkness, their insecurities and troubles or use them to their advantage. luck at gaining power. financial luck as well.

Venus in 9th indicates travel opportunities, good education, passion for learning regardless of whether it's in an academic setting or not. very focused on their growth, personal imporvement.

Venus in 10th shows professional success, good reputation, good image, people who are known for their charisma, appearance, presentation. can also indicate luck in marriage.

Venus in 11th are blessed with a large social circle, good friendships, a lot of opportunities, the ability to go after their dreams and passions. great at networking, making connections. many celebrities have this.

Venus in 12th are the people who benefit from spending time alone. isolating yourself isn't bad, it can lead to your next glow up. you are in tune with your spiituality, with your higher self. trust your intuition always.

For Synastry:

My favourites are Venus in the other person's 1st. Physical attraction, natural chemistry, you enjoy being around each other. It can be very sweet, you bring out each other's confidence. The House person is the planet person's dream person. Venus in the other person's 2nd shows passion, physical chemistry, love between the two is very physical. If this was a love language it would be physical touch and gift giving. You are very appreciative of each other. Similar romantic needs and values. Venus in 4th can be very wholesome, very caring and sweet kind of relationship. Very domestic, you may seem married from the start. Possibly the best placement if you want to live with someone or want to start a family with them. Venus in 5th is my favourite. Is it a sign of a serious relaitonship? No, but it can be one that you won't forget. It's the placement for a summer affair, a fling overseas, something truly romantic, out of a novel. You inspire each other, you bring out the romantic out of the other person. Also, strong sexual chemistry. Venus in 7th is the one that is great for a committed relationship. Your love for each other is selfless, you put the other person first, everything you do, you do together. This is a marriage placement in synastry or at least one for a long-term relationship. Venus in 8th is my secret favorite, find out why in my 8th house answer post