“I’ll remember” is the ADHD demon talking. You won’t remember. Write it down.

bold of you to assume i’ll remember where i wrote it, or even that i wrote it

Visual exhaustion is another symptom of ADHD, which means that if we see something enough times (or we see enough instances of something), it fades into background noise and we fail to notice it. This is why a lot of ADHD people can stand living surrounded by mess/clutter, because it’s just visual background noise to us. We don’t even notice it anymore. So if we write something down and see the note stuck up somewhere a lot – or if we write a LOT of somethings down and have a lot of notes hanging around – then we’re even less likely to think of/remember the thing because it’s just part of the scenery now. ADHD is the Catch-22 of brains.

A very good thing to know about ADHD. Don’t fall into the trap.

A lot of folks in the comments are talking about writing on themselves or setting phone/calendar reminders. Your mileage may vary on those. You may also want to consider ways to set a habit of referring back to a planner or similar every day/hour.

To get those brain juices flowing, check out this Buzzfeed article on different ways folks with ADHD stay on top of things.

Readers, let us know if you have specific advice for this situation!

This is why sticky note reminders don’t work??

SKLJDGBKJEDSBBV

VISUAL BACKGROUND NOISE?!

THERE’S A WORD FOR IT?

Always reblog “THAT’S WHAT THAT IS???” posts. Chances are someone hasn’t seen it that needs to.

This white woman’s shocking account of police brutality reveals the importance of the #BlackLivesMatter movement

Molly Suzanna shared a story on Facebook that she had never told before: when she was 19, she ran a red light while crying, then was pulled over and forcefully removed and beaten by a police officer. She explains in the letter that she believes her situation would have been even worse had she been black — and she ends the letter with an important call to action.

The public needs to hear more stories like this as well.

Wow. This is horrifying.

Cops are drunk on power. Add any ism to that, you have a bunch of abusive, gun wielding, trained to kill, non empathetic, killers running around.

This woman got hauled out of a window, beaten, stripped, tortured, and humiliated, and she still is able to understand how white privilege saved her life.

100% TRUE

Pro tip: If you copy and paste a link that said “no free articles” into a private/incognito browser, it will let you read the whole thing.

also if u press the “esc” (escape) key on ur laptop before the page fully loads, it won’t load any pop-ups blocking u from reading. if the article has images, then this method sometimes does not u see them. but! the words will be fine :)

If the site is particularly badly designed, you might just be able to delete the overlay itself. Right click > Inspect element and delete the line of HTML (it’ll be highlighted automatically)

hey kids there is a website called outline.com that will let you read from pretty much any news site with a paywall for free

If you are on a desktop browser , there is a “Bypass Paywalls” on Github by iamadamdev for chrome and fire fox. It will bypass all the well known news magazines.

cursed image

you can only reblog chicken noodle melon today reblog any other day and you fucking die

people are allowed to leave you. people are allowed to break up with you. people are allowed to love you but not want to be with you. people are allowed to not want to talk to you. people are allowed to put their happiness before yours and do what makes them happy even if it does not include you. people are allowed to move on from you. people are allowed to fall in love with someone else. people are allowed to not want you in their life. people are allowed to do whatever they want to better themselves and become the version of themselves they are trying so hard to love. don’t be bitter towards someone who is only trying to be happy.

I feel like this POV does not get enough voice.

HI LET’S SHARE NICOLE’S WORDS ON THE SUBJECT! 

It has been literal years but every time I see Martin’s tweets posted somewhere and his word is shared as truth while her post is not shared it sort of reiterates the fact that we trust men to speak about feminism more than we believe women who experience it. 

Interesting, innit? https://medium.com/@nickyknacks/working-while-female-59a5de3ad266

Reading her account of how their boss treated her blows me away. Men are so emboldened that they will literally admit to illegal discrimination casually and face no consequences.

In all the years of seeing this post I’ve never seen a link to her side. Didn’t even know she’d written one.

Adding screenshots of her post. His whole post is there without needing a link. Hers should be, too.

Also, she posted this is 2017! It’s fucking 2020 and I’ve seen his side of this for years, but it took 3 years for her side to make its way to my dash…

I’ve reblogged his story at least twice; it’s time for Nicole’s.

I'm so happy to finally be able to say I'm back from my, um, one year long hiatus, I missed writing so much 😭

I have no idea if anyone still remembers me, though, so maybe I'll tag some people to let y'all know? 💜

You can find info about my wip under # the second chance hashtag!! If you'd like to be on my tag list or anything, just tell me 💙

(also, in case someone wants to ask me anything, please do!! My ask box is always open!!)

@amongwriters @mouwwie @wasting-ink-not-youth @atbwrites used to be on my tag list, so please let me know if you're still interested!!

Also, tagging @pens-swords-stuff @oliviacwrites @storyteller-kaelo @crypticsx because you always supported me a year ago and I still do remember and admire you 💜 hello again! 💙

Lana welcome back!!!!!!!!!!! :D 💛💛💛

How's everything?

Hey Elliot!! Yea, it totally has!!

I’m doing fine, although that corona thing has really messed up everything I worked for :( but now I have more time to write, so I’m back. Just posted two first chapters of the new version of The Second Chance on Wattpad, so I guess it’s official :D

I totally remember Pseudonyms! I guess I read like nine chapters of it? If there’s any source I can read it at, please let me know, I really liked that story!  

Also, wow, you’ve done so much during 2019! And I wasn’t even able to write a single word xd. I’m really proud of you, boy!  💛 Stay safe and good luck with your new wip 💛

character creation tag!

Tagged by @atbwrites. Haven’t noticed you tagged me until I went to scroll your blog, so thank you! You slowly become one of my favorite blogs hehe :)

I’m doing this for Sebastian and Allison because they’re my newest major characters :)

1) What was the first element of your character that you remember considering?

Well, The Second Chance flew out of my attempt to write a short story based on ‘Oh, Miss Believer’ by top (yes, you’re right, I’m bad at planning anything when it comes to plot because I love spontaneous ideas, but I’m trying to outline the most important points, I promise!).

Allison: I started writing her as a deeply depressed and girl which Tyler refers to in the song (imo), but when I saw where it was going, I gave her a name because I don’t usually use them in the short stories.

Sebastian: He appeared suddenly, so I guess it was his proffession? He’s a barman Allison met in the bar. I don’t know what else because I have major problems with sticking to characterization because I like to get to know characters chapter by chapter, not immediately.

2) Did you design them with any other characters from their universe in mind?

Allison: not really. I mostly thought of her backstory.

Sebastian: I wanted him to affect Allison during the story in some ways (what is reasonable, duh), so she was the one I thought of, but their personalities in no way affected each other on the stage of creating (after writing the third chapter, I started filling the questionnaire, so that’s what I mean).

3) How did you choose their name?

Me and my future husband love the name Alice and I wanted to use its variation for my protagonist. Speaking of Sebastian, I guess I chose his name because of one character in my favorite game (I swear, if someone ever tries to look for backstory in my characters’ names, I would be so hurt).

4) In developing their backstory, what elements of their world played the most influential part?

I had to choose some tragic events as the reasons of their suicide because that’s how they end up in The Second Chance World, and those events made it vital to create a backstory which shows why they were that hurt. For example, Sebastian grew up as a neglected child before and after his parents divorced, and he stayed with the drug addicted mom because his father’s new woman didn’t want to have Seb around. So, when his deeply loved fiancee died during the last months of pregnancy, his hopes to have a happy, loving family and someone to care of, to give them everything he never had, burned to ashes, and after a few months, he took his own life. 

5/6/7) Is there any significance behind their hair color/eye color/height?

None, at all.

8) What do you relate to within their character/story?

Allison: her habit to eat with bare hands from the open fridge when nobody sees it, her love to the pineapple and sweet corn pizza, and the fact she never tried to ace in school if the subject wasn’t interesting for her, but had good grades for the subjects she liked without much effort

Sebastian: parents’ divorce (which wasn’t as painful to me since my biological father was an abusive alcoholic), scars on the forearm.

9) Are they based of you in any way?

Nope.

10) Did you know what your character’s sexuality would be at the time of their creation?

I consider them both straight, but Seb’s first kiss happened on a party with a guy and he liked it so…I don’t know? Let’s say, he’s bisexual who prefers girls.

11) What have you found is the most difficult art form in creating your character?

Drawing, because I can’t draw/paint.

12) How far past canon events that take place in their world have you extended their story?

To the childhood? 

13) If you had to narrow it down to 2 things you MUST keep in mind while working with this OC, what would they be?

Allison is determined to get what she wants/likes at any cost and she doesn’t like it when something goes wrong but doesn’t show it if it can affect her attempts to reach her goals. Also, Allison is very moody so she has breakdowns which make her feel even worse afterward.

Sebastian is decisive and overprotective, so sometimes he doesn’t involve others in making choices that may affect them. Also, he is trying to get rid of his trust issues and reminds himself to let everyone have a chance, and it makes him be extra kind even if he doesn’t know the person.

14) What is something about your OC that makes you laugh?

Um, nothing yet, I guess.

15) What is something about your OC that makes you cry?

When they express their intimate feelings.

16) Is there some element you regret adding to your OC or their story?

No, I love them both.

17) What is the most recent thing that you’ve discovered about your OC?

Allison: she never washes her mug until she needs to use it again.

Sebastian: he is a clutter hoarder, and he hides everything in the drawer under his bed.

18) Favorite OC fact?

Allison: she is still a child inside despite all the bad things she was through.

Sebastian: he is loving despite growing up hated, and he got a shoulder tattoo of a cactus at the age of 17 because it reminded him of his sharp-tongued childhood best friend who moved to another continent. I guess it’s nice of him.

Wow so I reread this a year later and i really miss these guys even though I'm writing this story again!! I guess I will never be able to let them go 💜

It was the fifth time that I cut myself.

I took the blades out of a razor. It almost made me sure I could get deeper scars and they’d hurt longer.

No self care routines and journals will keep you from damaging yourself if you need to feel pain. Or if you want to replace the mental pain with the physical one.

I did it to stop thinking of my fight with my closest person ever. He always tried to make me feel better, and I… Just didn’t think I deserved it. No matter how much I tried to make myself more productive and less depressed, it never helped. I’ve been bleeding for a long while, and it’s not about my scarred arm. I was just dying inside. Lots of diseases, depression, anxiety, made me hopeless and I just can’t change it. I think, hope isn’t all in our minds, it’s in our blood too. And when we bleed, we lose it even faster than we thought because we see we don’t get better.

I was laying in my bed and still felt the blood coming out of my wounds. A half of my towel was covered in red from my attempts to stop the bleeding, and I was glad I didn’t change into my pajama before getting in bed. Black hoodies hide the blood way better than thin pinkish sweatshirt.

I called him to ask if we were over, and when he heard me crying, his first question was, ‘What part of your body did you cut again?’. He knows me so well. But I lied and said I didn’t do anything because I knew he would do the same thing to himself.

I hid the blades inside of my shower sponge and I hope no one but me ever finds them.

I was afraid to go outside. I was afraid I’d commit suicide in some isolated park. That’s what I wanted to do, to kill myself outside the house. But it might get even harder. What, if reincarnation was real and the next life would be even harder? Would I get stuck in a suicide circle looking for a better place, a better situation? Or would it wake me up from a dream and give me a better life?

I wasn’t sure I was ready enough to check. You can call me too weak to die, or strong enough to live, I don’t care.

I just want everything to get back to normal.

Is it too much to ask if you know it’s impossible to get?

10 Steps To Care For Your Hamster (long post!)

1. Do not keep them in pairs. Hamsters are loners - keeping them together often results in stress, fighting, injuries and death. They are very happy alone. 

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2. Minimum cage size

NOT like this: 

Better:

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3. Your hamster (always!) needs a hamster wheel - and it must be a lot bigger than you might think! 

NOT like this: 

Results of those wheels are: spine problems, backache, stress, injuries! 

Better: 

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4. Do not buy them plastic tubes (at all): 

Those tubes are not suitable at all: Hamsters get stuck or suffocate in them easily. 

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5. Your hamster needs enough bedding to dig and build tunnels.

NOT like this:  

Better: 

Your hamster will be extremely happy and dig around and build tunnels all day (night). 

A study also found out that (golden) hamsters need up to 12-36 inches of bedding, so just do your best do give them the highest amount of bedding possible. :)

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6. The less plastic the better! 

NOT like this:

Better: 

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7. Hamsters ALWAYS need a sand bath.

Hamsters love rolling around in the sand, for them it’s like showering. How would you feel without a shower? 

Better:

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8. Hamsters need a house with at least 2 or more chambers to store food, sleep etc. Also make sure that your hamster does have enough hiding places like coconuts, small houses, toilet rolls! 

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9. Do use unperfumed toilet paper for nesting material, don’t use “hamster wool” -> it can tangle around a limb and seriously hurt and even kill your hamster! 

NOT like this: 

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10. Never ever ever put your hamster or any animal in a hamster ball. 

They can’t get out, might suffocate or panic, might run against furniture and seriously injure themselves. The ventilation is terrible, your hamster can’t see/smell/hear enough or use any of their senses properly.

In some countries they even discuss about banning those by law! 

Even if you think that “your hamster has fun in it” - please don’t use them! 

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Please reblog and spread this information.

Pet stores often are very misinformed and sell terrible cages and have little to no idea how to keep a happy hamster - please be careful when trusting them. In the end they often just want to make money - and the hamsters suffer. 

Please adopt, not buy hamsters - there are too many hamsters in this world that we need any more breeding. 

MASTERPOST: Cheap Cages And Supplies For Hamsters - IKEA

~ more to come ~

(Sorry for the spelling errors - I made this post in a rush.)

i literally had no idea, so i feel like this really needs to be stressed

Much like with bettas, there’s a lot of companies out there making a huge profit on habitats that are completely unsuitable for your pets, and counting on consumer ignorance.

;

Protect them.

Kindness to animals includes knowing exactly what your companion critters need, and what can hurt them or make them uncomfortable.

If you’re going to have a pet, care for it correctly.

Get to Know The Bitch

So, I thought I’d be a part of this. 

Tagging some mutuals: @unholyhaz @devin-marie @marvel-lock @spideywideysenses @spiderkat1248 @cautiouscalum @asmilinghopelessromantic

And like whoever else. I just looked through my recent notifications of who’s been spamming me so yeah!

I feel like this is riGGED because I was one away from bingo in 3 different places 😢

aye hello

someone: i’ve know (deadname) for so long that i can’t think of them as any other name.... it’s too much effort

me:

So true!!! I'm cis-gender but I changed my name legally like more than a year ago. My mom asked my younger brother (6yo) to call me my new name and he couldn't fully understand it but since mom explained him that I just didn't like my dead name and I'm Lana now, he has never called me otherwise but Lana and sometimes he corrects others :) my mom and sister, who've known me for 19 and 17 years respectively also try their best to call me so. Although, my stepfather, who's known me for 10 years, says he won't even try to get used to my new name. So, it's really about the effort.

thursday needs a meme, here’s my attempt to contribute. it’s thursday and i’m here to help. thanks

it’s thursday today but it’s cold outside, so here’s an update on my attempt at a thursday meme. it’s thursday and it’s cold but i’m still here to help. thanks 

it’s 2015 now and thursday still needs a meme, here’s another attempt to contribute. it’s thursday and it’s a new year and as always i’m here to help. thanks

spring has sprung but thursday still needs a meme, so here’s another attempt to contribute. it’s springtime this thursday, and even as the seasons change i’m here to help. thanks 

it’s a summer thursday and thursday still needs a meme, so here’s one more attempt to contribute. it’s thursday and this summer i’m here to help. thanks 

Her dedication must not go unrecognized

i can’t believe i found this again on a thursday lady your mission has been accomplished

Rule: you can only reblog this on Thursday.

Ooo its thursday

Thursday!!!

I am Arran, god of the most important thing

I am Jess, God of my aesthetic

I am Dani, God of my fanfiction.

I mean?? It’s not wrong??

I am Felicity, god of my chemical romance

oh ok

I am Izzi, god of God.

I am Angela, god of you.

I’m so sorry

I am Elizabeth, god of my death

That was dark…

I am Lana, god of hope

Woah that’s deep

@stuffy-lana We are opposites…

Ikr I kinda love it

I am Arran, god of the most important thing

I am Jess, God of my aesthetic

I am Dani, God of my fanfiction.

I mean?? It’s not wrong??

I am Felicity, god of my chemical romance

oh ok

I am Izzi, god of God.

I am Angela, god of you.

I’m so sorry

I am Elizabeth, god of my death

That was dark…

I am Lana, god of hope

Woah that's deep