i miss HIM (baekhyun).
1. Posture
Stand in front of a mirror and practice good posture. Keep your back straight, shoulders back, and head held high. Good posture exudes confidence.
2. Eye Contact
Practice maintaining comfortable eye contact during conversations. This can be done with friends or in front of a mirror. Aim for a balance between attentive and relaxed.
3. Smile Exercise
Practice a natural, warm smile. A genuine smile can be very inviting and creates a positive impression.
4. Voice Modulation Training
Work on your speaking voice to make it clear and confident. You can practice reading aloud, focusing on articulation, pace, and volume.
5. Listening Skills
Practice active listening, where you focus entirely on the speaker, acknowledge their points, and respond thoughtfully.
6. Wardrobe Audit
Dress in a way that makes you feel confident and comfortable. Your clothing can significantly impact how you are perceived.
7. Fitness Routine
Regular exercise not only improves your physical appearance but also boosts endorphins, enhancing your overall demeanor.
8. Mindfulness and Meditation
These practices can help reduce stress and improve your overall demeanor, making you more relaxed and present in interactions.
9. Body Language Awareness
Be aware of what your body language is communicating. Practice open and inviting gestures instead of closed or defensive ones.
10. Personal Grooming
Regular grooming and hygiene are essential for a pleasant appearance. This includes skin care, hair care, and oral hygiene.
11. Social Interaction Practice
Engage in social settings to practice and improve your conversational skills. The more you interact, the more comfortable you'll become in various social situations.
daily habits that are making me feel much better this 2024
waking up very early
if you are a person who finds it difficult to get up early you can achieve this by getting up an hour earlier than usual, you'll notice the difference.
journaling
it's my favorite habit and i do it every morning and before going to sleep, it also helps me in moments when I'm not feeling well to feel better and see things from a different perspective. on amazon there are many journals with questions already formulated to answer every morning and every night, highly recommended! i've been doing this since october last year and i noticed a big difference.
listen/watch personal growth videos/podcasts every day
it's not necessary to spend all day consuming this content but every day i like to learn something new or just reaffirm something i already know to make it stronger. watching content like this helps to replace old beliefs with new ones that are more beneficial and healthy. plus the people who make this content usually have a really good vibe. i love listening to this while i'm at the gym.
break with the routine once or twice a week
i mean do something different from what you can normally do, for example, I love to go out to a coffee shop have my favorite drink while listening to music, and spend some time on pinterest looking for inspiration, not only pictures but i also find very interesting things that i can apply in my day to day life!
listening to frequencies to raise my vibration
i have realized that this is very powerful and it is very important to have a high vibration, one of the most important reasons for me is that i have realized that besides having more mental calm and fewer worries is that low vibrational thoughts do not enter my mind, so to speak. examples of frequencies: 528hz, 432hz, 111hz. on youtube there are many. crystal bowls are also one of my favorites.
getting out of my comfort zone
the first week of this new year didn't make much difference to me and sometimes we expect things to change suddenly, and this can happen but it doesn't always happen right away. this week i have been much less resistant to making changes in my life and having a new schedule with an improved routine has made me feel much better.
be more present. think/act as my best version would act
this is very powerful. it is typical to act on autopilot and many times i was not fully aware of some habits i had that were harming me to a greater or lesser extent or of the things i was thinking. this doesn't mean that sometimes you have to do something you don't like, it's just another experience at the end of the day, but i mean to stop consuming content or doing things that don't help me to be the version i want to be and also to be more present, enjoying my day no matter what happens tomorrow.
besides all this, exercise, healthy and balanced eating, meditation are also important to me, but these are things that i always mention because they are part of my life and i wanted to contribute something new to serve as inspiration for others.
you don't have to do everything on the list but maybe something of what I have written catches your attention, you implement it in your life and it starts to improve significantly. that has happened to me.
The Ultimate It-Girl Guide
to start every new year
grab your fluffy pen and notebook besties. this is our year! claim it! this year and beyond itβs a must that we gain confidence, have goals, ideas, self love and the will to bring our vision boards to life. i put together this guide to help keep myself on the right path and for you all to get inspiration to do the same ΰ°
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1 ) Attitude
pretty girl with a pretty attitude to match
making sure we have a positive attitude will always help us succeed in whatever we do. i know things can go wrong and can be discouraging but trying to look on the bright side and being optimistic will make life so much better. if something does go wrong, we have to try not to completely shut down, we should take a moment to process what happened, see if thereβs a possible way to fix it, then do so.. and if thereβs not we must feel whatever it is we are feeling (whether thatβs sad, angry, frustrated etc), then eventually let go of that negative feeling, accept the outcome, then move on gracefully
this also applies to just everyday life situations. we donβt want to be known for having a nasty attitude in general. letβs try to check ourselves in the exact moment we realize that weβre being rude or bitchy. now iβm not saying be fake nice or anything like that because itβs normal to get an attitude at times, i know i do. i just mean we should be more mindful when speaking to others and try to consider their feelings as well
2 & 3 ) Affirmations and Manifestations
Affirming
itβs important to recite positive affirmations to yourself daily, truly believe what youβre saying and watch how beautiful life blooms for you.
some New Year affirmations to get us started
- this year will be my best year yet
- this year will be very luxurious for me
- i am healing from my past
- i have the power to create the life i desire
- nothing can stop me from living the life of my dreams
- this is my glow up year
- i choose to love and accept myself unconditionally
- i will be gentle and patient with myself this year
- i will put in the work to make my vision board come to life
- i will do things from here on out that will make my younger self proud and things that my future self will thank me for
Manifesting
bringing my desires to life
- make a vision board with everything you desire (itβs not too late) ... it can be tangible : getting supplies you need at the store so you can hang it up in your room, it can be on Pinterest, it can even be in your notes.. however you want to do it, itβs up to you ΰ· itβs the intent behind it that matters π
- manifest daily or weekly (have a journal and a pen for manifesting only)
- Put In The Work : manifesting is all about strongly believing and knowing that you already have what you want but that doesnβt mean you should sit there and do nothing, you also have to have the will to make your visions come to life, work towards your goals and dreams.
4 ) Pretty On The Inside And Out
look good feel good. itβs time to get ourselves together girls, inside and out. no more putting things off, no more being lazy & no more being careless with how we come across and make others feel β‘
- this year we are making our health a priority by eating better. letβs consume more fruit, more salads, more water etc .
- letβs workout more often - go to the gym, try pilates, try yoga, try zumba etc
you can even romanticize working out so it can be a better experience for you. buy cute workout clothes , pieces that will motivate you to want to workout. buy cute workout necessities .. for example : pink yoga mats , pink water bottle , pink towel , pink dumbbells , pink bag to carry everything , bring your headphones to listen to your favorite music while working out
- meditate !! life can be so stressful and it can take a toll on us mentally, physically and have us take our frustration out on others, so my suggestion would be to meditate regularly. meditation is a big part of my daily life. it helps me calm myself and makes me really relaxed. you can do it in silence or with some calming meditation music/sounds (i use meditation music mostly because it helps me concentrate
- letβs work on our personalities - being a mean girl is so lame. letβs be more considerate, more generous, more thoughtful, more mindful, more caring, more compassionate. give compliments and give advice with good intentions.
- keep our nails and toes done (and when i say done you donβt have to get acrylic & tips if youβre not into that, i mean keep your nails and toes clean & filed)
- make healthy hair a priority
- make clear skin a priority
- dive into your personal style (see #8)
5 ) Journal Prompts
journaling is free therapy !!!
- itβs important to start a new day, new week, new month and new year with journal prompts
- journal prompts help us sort out how we feel
- doing these help guide us on what we need to work on within ourselves and help us remain appreciative by writing down what we are grateful for regularly
- each day or each journal entry write down one or three things youβre grateful for
- each week write down 3 goals you want to accomplish
- you can look up journal prompts on pinterest, make up your own or buy a journal with them already in there (i suggest having one of these because itβs so helpful and easy to get started if you donβt really know how)
- journaling is a free form of therapy. i suggest journaling a lot because other than the fact that itβs very healing, some people donβt have others to talk to or they may not feel comfortable being so vulnerable with people, so journaling is a great alternative. itβs like your own personal therapy session π
- when youβre sad, depressed, anxious, happy, overwhelmed, grateful etc ! writing down how you feel can help so much. even when you donβt know exactly how youβre feeling, just jot down any words that come to mind
hereβs some of my Journal Prompts for the new year β
6 ) Beauty and BRAINS
learning never gets old. thereβs always something new to learn and itβs always good to keep your mind sharp!
- read more
- listen to podcasts
- search and look up things youβre interested in
- be thirsty for knowledge even if youβre done with school
- teach yourself something new! like a new hobby, sewing to make your own clothes, crocheting, painting, learn to do your own nails, learn to do your own hair .. the possibilities are endless
7 ) Cull Cull Cull
out with the old, in with the new
- go through your following lists on all social media and unfollow accounts thatβs not good for your mental health, accounts that donβt serve you in any way!
- go through your emails and delete junk mail
- go through your contact list and delete numbers you never call, block people who are toxic and even change your number if you feel like it will benefit you in the long run
- unsubscribe from things that no longer serves purpose
- go through your closet and get rid of everything youβre not wearing, everything thatβs taking up space .. donate it all!
- clean out your vanity/ makeup case! throw out all old makeup, clean your makeup brushes, clean your hair brushes (better yet buy new ones), wash your scrunchies and hair ties
8 ) Style
find your style this year! start buying pieces that you love!
- what kind of clothing makes you feel good about yourself?
- what are you comfortable wearing?
- what makes you feel pretty?
play around with some things until you find whatβs right for you <3
- buy timeliness pieces
- do you like to wear color? neutrals? black and white?
- be mindful when shopping
- make sure everything you buy is something you love and something you want a part of your dream wardrobe
keep in mind, you do not have to break the bank to get cute outfits! you can thrift, you can go to places like Target, F21, find pieces on depop etc .. so donβt ever feel like you canβt be cute on a budget <3
itβs time to stop living through others and live life ourselves! β‘
you can create a beautiful wardrobe just like your favorite influencer! you can do anything you want to do, start anywhere! even if youβre starting from scratch, one piece will eventually turn into lots of pieces and in no time you will have the closet of your dreams !
extra tips: my post on how to find your aesthetic β
9 ) Romanticizing life
itβs up to us to make our lives magical and worth living! romanticizing life is such a good way to do that.
ways to romanticize your life
- use your best things! donβt wait for a βspecialβ time to wear your favorite clothes or perfume, make everyday special
- buy yourself flowers
- take yourself on a date
- play dress up with all of your pretty clothes
- have tea using fancy teacups / tea kettle
- use candles or fairy lights for cozy vibes instead of regular lights around the house
- watch the sunrise / sunset
- when you wake up comb your hair and put on something cute and comfy even if you are staying home
- take yourself shopping and out to lunch regularly
- get dolled up just to take pictures
- find a spot under a tree and read
- make your room your favorite place to be, your sanctuary <3
- write love letters
- explore a library or museum
- take bubble baths regularly with candles, rose petals, crystals and soft music playing
- do face masks and mani/pedis on yourself for an at home spa day
- go to a coffee shop to journal
- one by one replace all of your things until everything you own is pretty and aesthetic .. even little things
example : hair brush, combs, hand mirror, vitamin/pill case, water bottle, cookware, bath towels etc
10 ) Girl Power
thereβs so many of us online who have similar tastes in things and seem cool and iβm sure you know someone in real life like this too and i know we can be shy or scared to approach people but we should make it a goal this year to be friendlier to one another
- we should step out of our comfort zone and make friends with girls who seem cool to us
- we should uplift eachother
- we should give credit when credits due
- be less messy
- leave the drama behind
- no more mean girl persona
you never know, you could meet your new best friend sometime this year <3
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PSA: this is a timeless ItGirl Guide! even if you come across this mid 2024 and beyond, it still applies! yes itβs curated for a new year but itβs never too late to learn tips & tricks, itβs never too late to better yourself! this will be an active guide for years to come because i feel like iβm never going to be fully done with this, iβm always thinking of ways to improve, or tips i want to share, so i may add to this later or make this a series ΰ·
i hope you all love this ItGirl Guide and can get some inspiration from it β‘ til later dolls, sending love always
xoxo,β³
Vanessa Mendez photographed by MΓ©lanie Lehmann for Serpenti
faces @ dominnico fw23
halle bailey by rob rusling for v magazine
RenΓ© Lalique's 1936 perfume bottle design for TrΓ©sor de la Mer
your girl calls me kate cause im in her bush
people with siblings have you ever in your life called ur sibling bro or sis bc i have not and i just imagined myself doing it and gagged. it would feel so weird
shaking screaming crying
i miss HIM (baekhyun).
heβs back.
Cottage garden by Β Georgianna Lane