Reblog if you think asexuality is a legitimate sexuality.

I'm trying to prove something.

Reblog if your blog is a safe place for asexuals.

it is so easy to brush aside comments like "you'll end up a sad and lonely old woman" once you realize who also ends up being alone against their will

women choose to be alone because they realize that they will lead happier safer more fulfilling lives single than having to settle for men that don't respect her, treat her as a maid and sex object, demand too much of her without offering enough in return, leave all the child rearing to her and abuse her

but here's the catch. the sex ratio currently is around 50/50. which means that for every woman who chooses to remain single there is more or less a man that's forced to remain single. what if more women choose to remain single? what if for every man who doesn't deserve a wife there's a woman that says "no, i had enough"?

then we'll not only have a huge demographic of women who choose to remain single, we'll also have a similar number of men forced to remain single. and who suffers more from ending up single? men, that's who

men won't have their little servant anymore, men won't have women to manipulate to have sex with them, men won't have the social status of being a husband and a father without putting any work into it, men won't have the emotional support women can offer, men will be left alone with their own mediocre thoughts or with similar mediocre good for nothing men. and we all know how much men trully hate being left with only other men around them, because they cannot use women as a buffer for male mediocrity and violence anymore. when we see articles about the 40 million oh poor men in china forced to remain single instead of articles about trafficked women and the rampant woman hating that lead to anti female sex selective abortions and female infanticides of such proportions then we know who really has it worse when they're single

the sad and lonely old woman isn't just projection, it is specifically designed to scare young women into partnering with men - any man - so that men don't end up sad and old and alone. do not let women fall for this

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Bucky’s face when being thanked though 😭😭😭

Reblog to give the person you reblogged this from a Croissant (🥐).

Emily Brontë - Wuthering Heights

in this new year I want you to be alright. I hope you move out. I hope you have enough money to feel safe. I hope you abandon shame and forgive yourself. I hope you get enough sleep and some good news. I hope you laugh a lot and the heaviness of the world eases a bit. I wish you to be alright.

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Bucky / The Falcon and the Winter Soldier 1x03 - Power Broker

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Ok I want to say something controversial

But you are responsible for your own safe spaces. You can block tags, block words, block people.

“But i thought fandom was supposed to be a safe space” —yeah you have to curate it.

Unfortunately one persons’s safe space may be another persons’ trigger. That’s ok. Simply block them, block the tag, block the word etc. They can do the same for you.

Maybe I’m just out of touch, but I’ve been around since the days of “don’t like, don’t read” and that’s a good philosophy. If it squicks you, scroll past. If it causes you anxiety or upset, block! Plenty of people are responsive if you ask them to tag an upsetting trigger. And if they’re dicks about it, block em.

Since different people have different needs, one person’s safe space will be another’s Trauma Central.

I don’t know who said it first, but “I need to be able to express my anger without shame” and “I need to be away from yelling and loud noises” are both valid needs people can have for a safe space that really aren’t compatible with each other.

So are “I need to process my trauma” and “I need to not meet any trauma.”

Or “I want a safe space to tell/read the stories that speak to me” and “those stories are distressing to me.”

Insisting that your needs are the only needs anyone should have is not a safe space, it’s its own act of violence.

You don’t get to make others homeless to make the universe your personal safe space.

I’m tired of hearing people say “Disney’s Cinderella is sanitized. In the original tale, the stepsisters cut off parts of their feet to make the slipper fit and get their eyes pecked out by birds in the end.”

I understand this mistake. I’m sure a lot of people buy copies of the complete Grimm’s Fairy Tales, see their tale of Aschenputtel translated as “Cinderella”, and assume what they’re reading is the “original” version of the tale. Or else they see Into the Woods and make the same assumption, because Sondheim and Lapine chose to base their Cinderella plot line on the Grimms’ Aschenputtel instead of on the more familiar version. It’s an understandable mistake. But I’m still tired of seeing it.

The Brothers Grimm didn’t originate the story of Cinderella. Their version, where there is no fairy godmother, the heroine gets her elegant clothes from a tree on her mother’s grave, and where yes, the stepsisters do cut off parts of their feet and get their eyes pecked out in the end, is not the “original.” Nor did Disney create the familiar version with the fairy godmother, the pumpkin coach, and the lack of any foot-cutting or eye-pecking.

If you really want the “original” version of the story, you’d have to go back to the 1st century Greco-Egyptian legend of Rhodopis. That tale is just this: “A Greek courtesan is bathing one day, when an eagle snatches up her sandal and carries it to the Pharaoh of Egypt. The Pharaoh searches for the owner of the sandal, finds her and makes her his queen.”

Or, if you want the first version of the entire plot, with a stepdaughter reduced to servitude by her stepmother, a special event that she’s forbidden to attend, fine clothes and shoes given to her by magic so she can attend, and her royal future husband finding her shoe after she loses it while running away, then it’s the Chinese tale of Ye Xian you’re looking for. In that version, she gets her clothes from the bones of a fish that was her only friend until her stepmother caught it and ate it.

But if you want the Cinderella story that Disney’s film was directly based on, then the version you want is the version by the French author Charles Perrault. His Cendrillon is the Cinderella story that became the best known in the Western world. His version features the fairy godmother, the pumpkin turned into a coach, mice into horses, etc, and no blood or grisly punishments for anyone. It was published in 1697. The Brothers Grimm’s Aschenputtel, with the tree on the grave, the foot-cutting, etc. was first published in 1812.

The Grimms’ grisly-edged version might feel older and more primitive while Perrault’s pretty version feels like a sanitized retelling, but such isn’t the case. They’re just two different countries’ variations on the tale, French and German, and Perrault’s is older. Nor is the Disney film sanitized. It’s based on Perrault.

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i’m like “i don’t give a fuck” & then have an anxiety attack