Sorting Out Priorities.

"the jedi don't have therapists-"

jedi philosophy, and in particular the practices and teachings that jedi were expected to implement in their everyday lives, was therapy. dialectical behavior therapy (dbt), to be exact. anyone who's familiar with dbt knows where i'm already going with this, but like genuinely look up the basic tenets of dbt and it's identical with what the jedi were doing.

dbt, to put it simply, is a specific therapy technique that was designed for ptsd and past trauma. it's pretty different from traditional talk therapy. it combines a few different environments (individual, group, etc.), recognizing that no single format of treatment can stand alone.

the key focuses of dbt include:

i'm sure it's already clear from that list alone how much the jedi teachings correspond with the goals of dbt. the jedi value, teach, and practice the following:

idk man seems almost as if jedi mental health practices and dbt are two sides of a completely identical coin. (fun fact: both star wars and dbt are products of the 70s.)

and guess what? dbt was specifically designed as a treatment for borderline personality disorder. remember that one? or, if you don't, maybe you remember a specific character, the one who was literally used as an example by my professor in my undergrad psych class when she was teaching us about bpd?

tldr: simply existing within the jedi community, practicing jedi teachings, surrounded by a support network of other jedi of all life stages, was the therapy for anakin. even when viewed through a modern lens. it was even, more specifically, the precise type of therapy that has developed in modern times to treat the exact types of mental issues he was struggling with.

listen. i know it's not 2014 anymore and i know it's just a throwaway line and that the russo brothers didnt intend for marvel action blockbuster captain america the winter soldier to become the tragic gay love story that never was but man. having steve say "it's kind of hard to find someone with shared life experience" in a conversation about romantic relationships right before the bucky reveal is so cruel. it's not just about steve and bucky obviously having the shared experience of being "out of time," it's the fact that they've both been stripped of their humanity in opposite directions. steve is a legend, he is an american hero and a national icon before he is a human being the same way that bucky is a weapon and a killing machine before he is a human being. steve knows that anyone who falls in love with him in the 21st century fell in love with captain america first, and that's just not him. but then the one person who knew him first and knew him best and loved him (not captain america, that little guy from brooklyn) so much he died for it is alive, impossibly. and it's a miracle because he's back and it's horrific because he's back under the worst possible circumstances. but to steve, the winter soldier is worth tearing the world apart for because he's always been bucky first. they find each other and suddenly they're human again. and maybe, despite it all, being "out of time" becomes a blessing, because in this century they'd finally be allowed to love each other the way they've always wanted to. like real people do.

like. no. the captain america trilogy isn't about two queer men traumatized and alienated by war and modern life rediscovering and reclaiming their humanity through their love for each other. but. i mean. it couldve been

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@onelonelystory "they were on that shit so gay it makes bitches media literate" is pure poetry

— John Steinbeck

THE MANDALORIAN ‘Chapter 20: The Foundling’ + reddit text posts

there is something so darkly comical about tumblr potentially outliving twitter

tumblr, which is held together with duct tape and madness, run by three raccoons in blood stained Yahoo! hats and a handful of crabs, its only discernible source of income the sale of shoelaces from an inside joke so inside no one knows the original source anymore and fake blue checkmarks... that website still lives on

truly the cockroach of social media and I love it for that

For clarification ^-^

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Heir of Fire by Sarah J Maas

This part pretty much broke me.

Rian Johnson, writer and director of Star Wars: the Last Jedi (derogatory)

Rian Johnson, writer and director of Knives Out and Glass Onion: A Knives Out Mystery (affectionate)

I actually think eldest daughters should be allowed at least one instance in their entire lives to just completely lose their shit

i don't want to look "hot" i want to look alluring, haunting, bewitching. i want to look like the kind of person hozier would write a song about.

DOCTOR WHO (2005– ) S06E00: A Christmas Carol

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The mental shift between realising this is animated.

there are so many things great about this aside from how hardcore this mosh pit is

- the shield that gets launched into the stratosphere as soon as the armies collide - the guy on the left side who somehow manages to do a complete 180 in all of the mayhem and dives out of frame -the guy on the right side who decides not to get involved and runs right past the camera - the final dude who trips in the least natural way possible

Finally CGI has advanced far enough that we have the ending to Monty Python and the Holy Grail that we deserve

I fucking hate the “explaining = invalidating” when it comes to apologies. Yes, sometimes a person means to invalidate you by saying this, but sometimes we genuinely just want to fucking explain our side so we can properly communicate.

I do not know what the fuck is wrong until I’m told what I’ve done wrong and feel the need to explain in order for us to see both of our sides

I like getting explanations with apologies because for me it helps lessen the damage that was done or can help clear the negative emotions.

I’ve had multiple people say it’s a sign that I’m a bad person that I don’t apologize right away, or that I’m giving explanations instead of owning up and apologizing (which is fucking hard for me to know if I’m actually in the wrong or not and people doing this shit does NOT fucking help). Apologies aren’t always just a “Sorry” one and done deal thing.

Also when you’re a trauma survivor and/or are neurodivergent, it makes it really fucking hard to differentiate whether you legitimately need to apologize or if you’re being manipulated or unfairly treated. Don’t be an asshole if a trauma survivor has difficulty differentiating your intentions and let us try to communicate. Don’t automatically shut them down as making excuses, most of the time they’re literally just trying to make sense of the situation.

(again this isn’t including the people legitimately trying to gaslight or invalidate you when you want an apology)

never going to be getting over this. i want to see the entire script now for ep 6. actually it’s not a want… it’s a need.