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Hello! I haven’t updated my commission info in forever, so I finally decided to!

I will draw:

Doki Doki Literature Club

Musicals (if you want to ask if I’ll draw for one, send me an ask)

Youtubers

I will not draw:

Porn

Abuse

Extreme gore

Ships of real people (unless they are together dating, married, etc)

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I don’t know what to call this so!!! Girlfriend adopts???

1. Open 2. Open 3a. Open 3b. Open 3c. Open

Pay an additional $2 for a full reference sheet!!

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splotchee

dating a trans man while identifying as a lesbian

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topsydead

This is… not correct. I’m a trans man and I’m married to a lesbian. It’s not a big deal guys, some people ID as lesbian without being 100% gynophilic.

When you take into account bi people who prefer to go by gay terms because of a heavy influence towards one side or the other, when you take into account different types of attraction (sexual/romantic/aesthetic etc), and when you take into account that some people fall in love with a trans person before they know they’re trans, but at that point they see no reason to break up because they legitimately care about eachother? That someone can date a trans man before IDing as lesbian, and same situation occurs? It’s complicated. Life is complicated.

If the lesbian is transphobic, then there’s transphobia. But the simple act of dating someone cannot be inherently bigoted. All consensual relationships between adults are valid.

And yes, this includes lesbians who want to date someone based on genital preference, if that means non-op trans men, post-op trans women, or any other type of vagina owner. There is no rule that says people’s attraction is always 100% determined by the experienced gender of their partner, it can be genitals, body type, presentation, personality etc.

If the lesbian and the trans man are in a relationship of mutual respect and trust, there is nothing wrong with that.

If the said lesbian were to desire a relationship with a trans man, that lesbian better fucking change the label to bi if she/they want to date a girl or a guy. It’s transphobic if she/they continue to call herself/themself a lesbian while dating a trans man and knowing he’s a trans man.

It’s as transphobic as a gay man dating a trans woman and still calling himself gay.

Its transphobic. Don’t try to clear it up saying it’s not if the lesbian woman didn’t know he was trans before/while dating him. If she countinues to identify as a lesbian, it’s equating the transman to a woman. It doesn’t matter if being a lesbian is the only sexual identity the woman is comfortable with. If she dates a trans man, she’s dating a man and is not a lesbian.

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