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@xduskydollx

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To all my manifesting girlies feeling less than average, feeling second class to the life of your dreams. Go grab those prayer beads and DECLARE how grateful you are for your dream life. Declare how fucking amazing it feels to wake up and not have to worry about your bank balance, how liberating it feels to have the perfect wardrobe (instead of pulling everything out mentally screaming I HAVE NOTHING TO FUCKING WEAR). Declare how HONOURED you are to be a wife, a mother, an amazing friend. Declare how grateful you are to wake up every morning with a healthy body full of energy. Go SPEAK LIFE INTO YOUR DREAMS. They need you. They need your energy. Go feed them. Let the sad story of lack starve. You’re not entertaining her. No money for the rest of month? Not entertaining that story. REMEMBER it feels liberating to have money flowing into your account every single day. It feels, it feels, it feels. Remember to tap into the feelings. You’re shifting this year. No more struggle. No more judging self. No more shaming. No more heavy heart. Start pouring life into you, the life of your dreams, the life you pray about. Go, go, go!!!

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Anonymous asked:

I know exactly what I want my life to look like and what I have to do in order for certain things to change.. but why is it so hard for me to just do it? I´m procrastinating, looking for excuses and I´m just being lazy.

Commit to the task. Focus on doing, not avoiding. Write down the tasks that you need to complete, and specify a time for doing them.

Overwhelming ourselves by setting ridiculously high goals for what we want to achieve on any given day is like taking the high road to procrastination. Split up big projects in bite-sized pieces and set achievable daily goals.

People procrastinate on a task because they feel, at some level or another, intimidated by that task. It really all boils down to your emotional perception of a particular task. Accordingly, if you want to stop procrastinating, you have to change how you feel about a task.

Don't be a perfectionist (yet). Second-guessing our work, doing the same things over and over again and spending way too much time on research and preparation can severely damage the effectiveness of our work. But even worse: it can keep us from getting started in the first place because we know exactly what our perfectionism will make us do — and we already dread it.

Stop yourself from spending 80% of your time on the last 20% of the project to get the details right by reminding yourself over and over again that “done is better than perfect”. Furthermore, make it a rule to get started on something as long as you have 70% of the information, 70% of resources and are 70% sure that you will succeed — because you can never by 100% prepared for anything.

Sometimes we are simply not that interested in doing the thing we need to do. You have two options:

1) Don’t do it and focus on the things that are actually more important in your life or

2) Find a strong enough reason WHY you want to do it

Other times our procrastination is actually a defense mechanism to keep us “safe” and in your comfort zone. Whether we are afraid of failure, success, other people’s judgement or the unknown — our fear is subconsciously holding us back from doing what we need to do.

There is different strategies for different fears, but what usually works very well are the following fear-busting strategies:

  • Get clear about what exactly you are afraid of: Imagine the worst case scenario, realise that it is not that bad and make a contingency plan for what to do when it actually happens.
  • Practice mindfulness through meditation, yoga and journaling to calm down pointless worrying and overthinking.
  • Make it a habit to go out of your comfort zone: The more steps you take towards the things you are afraid of, the more your fear will turn into confidence and catapult you forward.
  • Develop a deep trust in god/the universe. Trust that you are on the right path, that you are being guided every step of the way and that everything that is happening is for your ultimate good.

To your success!

~ Bleuet 💸💖

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From hating yourself to loving yourself in five simple steps....

1] You are going to set the fucking INTENTION to love yourself. You are claiming this. You are declaring this. Scream it out loud. In whatever words make sense to you. There is so much power in intention, its like the universe starts scrambling like crazy to make the intention possible. Books will fall off shelves, YouTube videos will drop into your homepage. A friend will start talking about an article she read on self-love. The universe will follow your energy. 

2] You are going to get fucking INSPIRED. You are going to use your resources to support you on your new found self-love journey. You are going to edit your feed, delete anyone who does not give the energy of loving yourself or inspiring you, hell even delete social media if you can! You are going to read books, listen to podcasts, listen to self-love music, subliminals on self-love and devotion, you are going to drown yourself in the energy of self-love and self-care. Book days off work, call in sick. Journal and meditate. Do a hot girl walk in nature. Create the space to allow the message of self-love to seam deep into your soul.

3] You are going to start speaking to yourself like a fucking QUEEN. No more slagging yourself off as you wash your hands and catch your reflection. No more of that putting yourself down BS. You are going to make the effort to point out something you love about yourself each time you look in the mirror. The shape of your ears, your eyes, your lips, whatever it is that you accept and like currently. Make an effort to tell yourself that at every given moment. Those compliments will start compounding day by day, and speaking kindly to yourself will become more easy.

4] Start seeing all the fucking beauty AROUND you. The flowers blooming, the shape of the trees as you walk, the woman you just smiled at, the sunset, just stop and look and observe the beauty everywhere. The more you start to focus on the beauty and loving what you see externally, it will start to make waves internally. 

5] FINALLY stop comparing yourself to others. Remember you are a MAIN CHARACTER in your movie. Every single person in your life right now, even me, is a supporting character in your movie. Know that is the power you possess. So go out there today, and remember who you are. Remember there is so much more to you than how you look, remember that loving yourself and accepting yourself sets the tone for every relationship in your life, and despite all the shit from your past you are now in control of how you speak to yourself, how you choose to think of yourself. The choice is yours. 

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“How beautiful to find a heart that loves you, without asking you for anything, but to be okay.”

— Khalil Gibran

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"... “I’m taking action because I feel desperate,” said U.S. climate scientist Peter Kalmus, who along with several others locked himself to the front door of a JPMorgan Chase building in Los Angeles. A recent report found that the financial giant is the biggest private funder of oil and gas initiatives in the world.

“It’s the 11th hour in terms of Earth breakdown, and I feel terrified for my kids, and terrified for humanity,” Kalmus continued. “World leaders are still expanding the fossil fuel industry as fast as they can, but this is insane. The science clearly indicates that everything we hold dear is at risk, including even civilization itself and the wonderful, beautiful, cosmically precious life on this planet. I actually don’t get how any scientist who understands this could possibly stay on the sidelines at this point.” ..."

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Stop being afraid to out-dress those around you. It’s not your fault they can’t walk in heels. It’s not your fault they feel stupid in a dress. It’s not your fault they don’t know how to blend their makeup. It’s not your fault they don’t do anything to their hair besides a ratty ass bun. Be hot anyway. Be hotter than hell. Be unapologetically gorgeous each and every day. Show ‘em how it’s done. Give them something to stare at. Stop wasting your beauty just bc others are wasting theirs.

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60s Sex Kitten: A Guide

The term "sex kitten" is something that hasn't been used in Hollywood in decades. Usually in reference to stars like Brigitte Bardot and Eartha Kitt, it is often vaguely defined as "a young woman with conspicuous sex appeal who asserts or exploits her sexual attractiveness". It's important to note that physical attractiveness is not the key factor here but sexual appeal is.

What's referred to as a "sex kitten" is probably what we call a coquette or minx today. She embraces her sexuality with a coyish grace. She's erotic and sensual, but not overtly so, and often times uses her sexual appeal to get what she wants. Looking at the women who fell under this category, they all had a doll-like look about them. They were perfectly put together, flirty, sexy, but still retained an innocent almost childlike air about them.

Bigger Hair is Better Hair!

Voluminous hair was all the rage in the 60s, and the iconic "beehive" was notably seen on celebrities like Diahann Carroll, Eartha Kitt, and Priscilla Presley. Perfectly teased voluminous hair gives a glamorous aura to your look. Fluffy hair can make you look like a living doll, almost unreal, like a fantasy!

♡ Be a tease, please!

Mini, mini, mini! Fill your closet with mini skirts and dresses. Buy some that leave a little wiggle room so that the loose fit + short length combo plays off one another. You're showing just enough skin and curves to spark someone's curiosity and imagination. Do not shy away from color! Get them in pink, green, blue, orange, yellow, and every color of the rainbow that you can find! You're sexy but fun. Other items include turtlenecks, stockings/socks, and boots (preferably knee high or go-go).

♡ Living Doll!

The makeup is all about pink, blue, dramatic liner, and big doll-esque lashes. The eyes were the focus, and the socket crease was always outlined with dark shadow or a pencil. Adding or drawing in bottom lashes was very common. Be very liberal with the mascara and be sure to keep the lips a pale pink or nudey color to keep the attention on the eyes.

♡ Pretty Hands!

Nails are almost always going to be almond or oval shaped. During this era, variations of pink and red and nude were most common. They were shaped in a way that appeared natural but well groomed. They were usually kept at a tasteful length. Here's a 60s nail ad!

Embrace your sexuality and appeal! This could honestly have nothing to do with your sex life at all but merely how you carry yourself. Seduce entire rooms with your eyes and have people hanging onto your every word. Be flirty, but coy. Be alluring, but keep an air of mystery! In your sex life, be fun and playful and make it so that your partner(s) struggles to keep up with your energy!

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Anonymous asked:

pet peeve ?

Black women not realizing their own worth. Especially in 2021, they need to open their eyes. I’m glad I joined the hypergamy/femininity community in my teens not because I wasn’t hypergamous but because I found a community full of amazing black women. Women who look like me. People I could relate to. Black Girl Magic.

It’s sad to still see things like « Is it possible to…as a black woman ? ». Girl, you are a whole piece of art. Let’s start by your physical apparence : your skin is just gorgeous and unique, you are fifty shades of brown. Your stretch marks look like gold on your beautiful body. Your privates look like a rare flower with many shades, the pink insides are the cherry on the top. Your hair is like the embodiment of clouds in the sky. That hair can be in whatever shape you want, no matter how hard you try to hide it. You are trophy wife material, your partner will always be proud honored to walk by your side.

You have a double culture, the one in your house and the one outside. Your African/Islands background can literally drive men crazy because of the stereotypes. I noticed how many second wives are black women in Europe. The times when you had to hide your love for black women are over.

Whether you are curvy or skinny, you always stand out, people always notice you because you do not look like the mainstream woman, the common girl you get to see everywhere, the well said preference. You are special. You are top tier.

I truly believe that if black women became the victims of constant bullying and gaslighting is because somebody saw our potential a long time ago and got SCARED and INSECURE. If people spent so much time to make us feel bad about ourselves it’s because they were terrified to see us at our best. The most ridicule way those people make sure to feel good about themselves is through those humanitarian trips to poor parts of African countries, it just boosts their self confidence because for a moment they have the upper hand on weak black people, since they know we no longer take their shit. They need to convince themselves that we are inferior to them. (Not all people tho)

Those very people won’t educate themselves because they love this image of us.

We are like a secret treasure and everyone knows the location but they are too impressed to make a move because they are intimidated by our aura. Maybe they get burn when they try to touch us. All they can do is talk, imitate or punch the air because they are frustrated. Their hypocrisy translates into the way they want us to have the spotlight only as a 'strong black woman'. They keep us at distance because they can’t handle our grandeur and our feminine energy face to face. Our vibes and flow are immaculate.

We are the blueprint and the fall of the BBL culture just prove it. Once again, somebody saw the rising of educated and gorgeous black women who rejected the whole rapper baby mama culture (a popularized culture) and they got scared. I saw comments about how competition will be tougher but hey, we are not in a competition, we are focused on ourselves. They see us as a competition, let it be one-sided so don’t worry and do YOU. Be even smarter and use the fact that you are a black woman to level up because in terms of image, an educated and gorgeous black woman is always good news.

And yes, everything is possible as a black woman as long as you play your cards right.

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sophiaforevs

My favorite thing about this is that the “traditional” woman isn’t always on the left. By switching it up the artist is really committing to the idea that the right way for a woman to be is however she wants.

Just wish some of the women were plus size..

I really love how much Lainey’s art and positivity is bringing people joy and I really hope you’re checking out her insta, it’s full of so many more

It got better

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Elijah McClain was a kind and gentle 23 year old who worked as a massage therapist in Aurora, CO. On his lunch breaks from work, Elijah would go to the animal shelters and play violin for the animals because he thought that they were lonely in their cages and thought that the music would calm them. 

In August 2019, Elijah went to the gas station to buy some iced tea for himself and his cousins. Because he suffered from anemia he would often wear a ski/ runner mask over his face to stay warm. On his way home, the Aurora Police department were called to reports of a “suspicious man.” 

(Warning: for violent description) Elijah was apprehended by a group of three cops, despite committing NO crime and being unarmed. A struggle occurred, and he was held in a very dangerous carotid hold around his neck while he cried for help, cried out that he couldn’t breathe, cried out that he was nonviolent and couldn’t even kill a fly, and was repeatedly throwing up. Elijah weighed a mere 140 pounds. You can hear on the audio footage, an officer instructing another to move their body camera out of view.

While 3 Aurora Police Dept officers violently restrained him they called Aurora Fire Dept, who injected him with ketamine (a powerful drug used to tranquilize horses or in surgeries by a trained anesthesiologist and illegal to be administered by anyone else) even though he was already cuffed and calm.

He went into cardiac arrest , slipped into a coma, and his family was advised to take him off life support 6 days later.

The cops were transferred to another department but never received charges. 

HERE’S HOW YOU CAN HELP:

Especially call these numbers:

  • Call CO Governor Jared Polis (303) 866 2471
  • Call Aurora Mayor Mike Coffman (303) 739 7015
  • Call District Attorney Dave Young (303) 659 7720

#WAKEUP

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Reblog and you might save someone’s life, especially with all our Black Girls going missing #ProtectBlackGirls #SaveLife

For those who don’t know what’s happening in the video, she untied her shoelaces, pulled one through the inside of the zip tie binding her hands, then tied the shoelaces together. Then, by pulling downward and back and forth on the shoelaces with her feet, she created enough friction to wear away part of the ziptie, making it weak enough to snap right off her hands.

SIGNAL BOOST

SIGNAL BOOST

SIGNAL BOOST

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Protect all the ladies and the dudes

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fenway03

For those who don’t have shoelaces and for those who do but don’t want to trip over their own feet in case something goes wrong, here’s another way:

It’s all about quick, determined movement of your arms. To see it in action, watch the video at https://youtu.be/0Gr6HX_IKpw?t=9m – the zip ties part starts around the 8:00 min mark. The video also shows how to escape handcuffs and duct tape. And if you’re wondering what to do when you’ve got your hands behind your back, go to approx. the 0:20 min mark of the following video: “Moving cuffs from behind back to front position” (taken from thrillwriting.blogspot.de/2013/05/credit-wikipedia-disclaimer-this-is-non.html, where you’ll also find additional information on how to escape handcuffs). 

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8thwonderful

For teach this to your kids….boys too. We don’t need to lose noone

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