The advice I kinda wish Dan hadn’t given tbh...

So, amongst all the saltiness about Dan that appears to be going round the phandom atm which I think is uncalled for, there was a bit of this video which didn’t sit well with me in response to this ask;

This is how Dan responded;

‘What the ever loving fuck is wrong with you, Eric? The pain isn’t stopping you? Just… get gloves surgically attached to your hands or something and please… don’t email me again.’

This wasn’t a good response, and I know it’s not meant to be taken seriously, but I kind of didn’t need Dan jokingly shaming someone who has a self control issue which causes them to self-mutilate tbh.

I know Eric started off the email with a jovial tone, but what he is asking for advice on isn’t actually that funny. Even if Eric’s problem isn’t “that bad” (however one may term that), 1. it could actually be a serious issue which is legitimately causing him a lot of physical pain and social embarrassment, and 2. self control issues which revolve around harmful nail biting, hair pulling, or skin picking ARE SERIOUS MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES CALLED IMPULSE CONTROL DISORDERS. 

And do you know what possibly the WORST thing to say to someone who struggles with severe nail biting, skin picking, or hair pulling is? It’s telling them that they’re weird and that there’s something wrong with them. So Dan starting his “advice” by saying ‘what the ever loving fuck is wrong with you’ is possibly the shittest thing you could start that advice off with. 

And no Dan, why are you so shocked that the pain isn’t enough for him to stop? People self-harm and you don’t say to them “What that must be painful, why don’t you just stop?!” because that would be incredulously ignorant and insensitive to say to someone. 

So Eric has already stated that 1. he can’t stop. 2. it disturbs his friends. 3. he hurts himself and his fingers bleed. 

So i’m just shocked at quite how insensitive the response was, and how everything included in the “advice” was just a 101 on what not to say to someone who opens up about a problem such as this one. 

And ending the “advice” by saying ‘don’t email me again’….. I mean, REALLY? Impulse control disorders place incredibly amounts of guilt and shame on people who suffer from them. Many people don’t get diagnosed because they think people will think they’re weird. They are ostracised by society and they ostracise themselves. This belief that they’ll be perceived as ‘weird’ leads people with such disorders to not talk about them, never see doctors, never get help, continue to suffer, and develop further mental health problems such as depression and anxiety. People who suffer from self-control/impulse control disorders which involve self-mutilation ARE FAR MORE LIKELY TO COMMIT OR ATTEMPT SUICIDE because they never seek help due to the shame that comes with such disorders. 

I know Dan was joking, I just needed to write this out because if any of you have impulse control disorder or bite your skin or nails to the point where it hurts but you can’t stop, i want to give you this advice;

No, you are not weird. There is nothing “wrong” with you. Many people suffer from the same or similar conditions. Please don’t feel ashamed by it. Tell a friend, or family, or a Doctor. Try and get counselling, or therapy, or best Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Don’t suffer in silence and don’t be ashamed. Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t stop. Don’t feel guilty or embarrassed. Don’t listen to people who tell you it’s weird, find people who will help you. 

On this page on my blog there is an entire section of articles, information, and advice on obsessive compulsive disorder, and impulse control disorder. I hope this actual advice and help is useful to any of you. I love you all xxxxx

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WHY IS THIS SO HARD TO UNDERSTAND

So for all you feminists out their who think that all men should die, remember, you are not a feminist.

reblogging for the last comment

Yes

Legit question, I’m not trying to hate on feminists or anything. Why is it called feminist if they’re for equality?

castiel-knight-of-hell:

That’s a very good question and thank you for asking so politely. 

The word feminism was coined by Charles Fourier in 1837, a French philosopher who advocated for the emancipation of women because he believed society treated women as slaves. We weren’t allowed to vote, own anything, or work a real job. Women were ruled by their fathers/household patriarch until they married at which time they’d be under the rule of their husband. If a woman did not belong to male household she was shunned by society and had very little means to make money, most of them unsavory. You know the idiom “rule of thumb”? That comes from a running joke that started in the 1600s, and was still around in Fourier’s time, that said it was okay for a man to beat a woman with a stick as long as it wasn’t any thicker than his thumb. 

The point of the word feminist, and the feminist movement, has never been to say that women are better than men. The point is that women and things associated with women have been given a lesser place in society and we want to bring those things up to a place of equality. The focus is on the feminine because that’s what’s being pushed down. However, focusing on the feminine does not mean we’re focusing only women. Men are belittled and called “less of a man” anytime they portray a trait that is associated with femininity. If women and the feminine were equal to men and masculinity then that wouldn’t happen. Feminism is about raising up things associated with females to have an equal place in society as the things associated with males. It’s called feminism, not equalism, because the focus is on raising up not tearing down. Equalism would suggest that male things need to come down to a lower level so that female things can meet it in the middle. That’s not the point. The point is to raise up the feminine so that it’s on the same playing field that the masculine is already on. We don’t want men to lower themselves, we just want them to make room for us.

This needs to be spread far and wide to everyone on tumblr. 

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“tumblr is so embarrassing-”

I was on deviantart and fanfiction.net for the entire first decade of this century

embarrassing content is a normal part of being a teen on the internet

listen, this ain’t new, my buddy, my pal, everyone is embarrassing always

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this is why its depressing to work in a pharmacy.

I was definitely a profit killer when I worked in a pharmacy (which honestly was my favorite job in the entire world, but it was short-lived and nowadays you can’t work at a pharmacy like that, it’s all tied in with corporate retail and no one should ever trust me with a cash register ever). It was not, however, actually a profit killer for the pharmacy, just for the drug companies, so no one cared. These days I do medical billing, which means I actually bill OUT from hospitals so I’m mostly spending my professional time taking money away from insurance companies. 

I will now impart all of my profit killing resources onto you, in case you don’t know them. I think most of you know them, now. But just in case you don’t.

THIS IS US-CENTRIC. I’M SORRY. 

1. GoodRx - this thing has an app now, so you can look up the best places to get your expensive medicines at the lowest possible prices without insurance on the go, and you no longer have to print coupons because you can just hand over your phone or tablet. Times have changed for the better with GoodRx. Definitely use it before trying to fill your scrip, because it will tell you the best place to go. (You can do that on the website, too.)

2. NeedyMeds - Needymeds is basically the clearinghouse of drug payment assistance. They have their own discount cards, but also connections to many patient assistance programs run by drug companies themselves. They are good assistance programs, too.

3. Ask your county - This is not a link. This is a pro tip. Most county social services will have pharmacy discount programs for people with no and/or shitty pharmaceutical coverage. You can often just find them hanging around at social services offices; you can just pick one up and walk off with it. 

4. Ordering online - There are a few safe online pharmacies. I keep a little database in a text file on my computer. Most of them are courtesy of CFS forums, my mother or voidbat, so a lot of that is a hat tip to other people, but if you’re in need of a place to get a drug without a prescription … first I’ll make sure you 100% know what you’re doing for safety reasons and then I’m happy to turn over a link. 

5. Healthfinder - A government resource that helps find patient assistance programs in your area. This might also point out the convenient county card thing. RxHope is something a lot of people get pointed to via Healthfinder that’s a good program.

6. Mental Health America - Keeps a list of their best PAPs for psychiatric medications, which can be some of the most expensive and a lot of pharmacy plans don’t cover them at all. 

This is so important ppl.

Signal boost the shit out of it!

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Good Rx Saved my family a hundred dollars a month while I was getting signed up for CHIP seriously it’s a life savor especially for ridiculously expensive drugs like abilify

Useful info, friends! ;)

Since many of our followers are on medications, I feel like this would be an important resource. -Luna

Also! Some drug companies have patient assistance programs where they send you the drug for FREE if you are uninsured, or if your insurance doesn’t cover that drug.

Do a Google search for “patient assistant programs” + (your med), or search the manufacturers website. Sometimes the info is online; other times you have to call.

Even some of the big name pharma companies have this. It’s certainly not all companies, or all meds, but it is worth a shot.

Before Obamacare, I lost insurance and couldn’t pay for my mood stabilizers (kiiiiinda important to have those when you’re bipolar.) I was on generic Lamictal, but I went to the official Lamictal website, filled out a form with a valid prescription, and they mailed my meds to me every month for free.

If you know anything about bipolar disease, you know that that was a literal life saver. Patient assistance programs ftw!

This is so important given the recent vote to repeal Obamacare. And the cartoon above is so on point They’re literally voting to kill people. Literally.

Some of my meds are no longer going to be partially covered by my ridiculously expensive private insurance. I just used the GoodRX website to look it up, and I can either spend $40 at Target to pay for one of them out of pocket–per month–, or I can get it at Sams Club for $4. No that is not a typo. The drug I need to take every single day to keep my allergies from spiraling out of control (yay auto-immune bullshit) is literally ten times cheaper at Sams Club. Holy shit.

Signal boost for my US buds

Signal boost from a Brit consistently horrified by US Healthcare.

GUYS???????

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THEY REALLY SAID DIAL 911 IF ITS AN EMERGENCY WHAT/?

I just looked up her username to see if she was ok, and her snapchat story was updated an hour ago to say “kennedi will be fine with me, she will come home next month or during the summertime” wtf.

i just saw and im so scared??? what the fuck is happening??

guys please make this post more widely known!!!! i dont live in the US, i dont think there’s much i can do but im begging you to all reblog this!!

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I ALSO WOULD LIKE TO SAY I TEXTED HER SNAPCHAT AND THERE WAS NO REPLY, BUT IT SAYS IT WAS OPENED

Her name is Kennedi Simone High, she’s been missing since March 8th from Baltimore, MD.