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Excalibur v4 #09 (2020)

one of my favourite ways to engage with any given fandom is exclusively via the content shared by one mutual. I don’t know Anything about the source material but by god you’re right, my friend, your otp is literally the pinnacle of all shipping. your fave character is the best character ever. I love you and trust that all of your opinions are completely and objectively correct on this subject

@why-this-kolaveri-machi

WHY DID THEY BAN ALEC LIGHTWOOD SKCSMICMSCJAMXJSNCJSNCND

I really want to know what alec lightwood fans did to get apple/tumblr to have his name on that list of banned tags???

Apple seeing some people on the internet like a gay character from a popular book series / tv show:

The spiritual successor to Miette

Might I also add

May i add the piece from artist Verbal Vomit

Glad to see we’re all in agreement that cats talk like disparaged victorian children

I am so incredibly glad we finally moved on from "i can has". Cats are clearly smart enough for advanced sentence structure and dumb enough to draw entirely incorrect conclusions about what they're talking about.

My cat, banging the cabnet door over and over and over: bang bang bang

Me: you will not earn what you desire by banging the cabinet door.

My cat: This is a test of wills, is it not? We shall see if your ability to put up with my incessant banging outlasts my eternal lust for snackie treats. Years of conditioning have hardened me for this purpose. bang bang bang

Me: ksst!

My cat, throwing herself to the ground like she's been shot: Oh! Oh I have been assailed in my own home! Have mercy, have pity! Surely in the cruel darkness of your heart there is some mote of goodness that might stay your hand! Do not strike me, I pray you!

Me: ok

My cat, after waiting about 3 minutes: bang bang bang

Can haz snackytreat

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you're absolutely correct it was

And it's so accurate, my new cat is so demanding lol

I know the answer, but why are Hallmark holiday movies…like that?

The plot is always meant to be escapism, but the female protags never *want* to escape- they’re Type A ladies who worked hard to get where they are and have had the dream of success in business since the beginning. You sort of get the sense that they’re extroverted and like urban living. They have friend groups, apartments, and all that. Yes, the movie does tell you that they’re stressed, but they really seem to like their lives outside of that.

When they do inevitably get sent to Xmas-ville for their assignment, the guy they meet is almost never nice at first. He makes fun of her for not knowing how farm equipment works. He calls her ‘city girl’ and implies her journalism degree is stupid. He takes joy in making her do unpleasant tasks to ‘humble’ her.

Even when they warm up to each other, he still doesn’t like her very much- the worst example I’ve seen was the lady being an artist, *finally* getting her first gallery showing, and wanting to catch a flight to go see it…and the guy didn’t want her to go, because who’d look after his toddler who loved her so much? She wasn’t even *moving*, just taking a short trip to Seattle or wherever.

I know people say these films are Chick Flicks, but they really don’t seem to cater to a female perspective at all. Most of us don’t work High Profile jobs, and we certainly wouldn’t want a guy who made fun of us for it if we did.

All I’m saying is- Cinderella wouldn’t be Cinderella if she enjoyed working from home, and Prince Charming made it a point to jokingly call her an Old Maid.

[stage whisper] it’s conservative Christian wish-fulfillment

[pterodactyl scream] it’s conservative Christian wish-fulfillment!

It’s not meant as wish-fulfillment, it’s reassuring you about choices already made.

Your audience for this kind of movie isn’t the city-dweller, but the stay-at-home mom who doesn’t have a career or outlet. The movies point out how the city doesn’t make our protagonist better, at least not in the ways that count for small town life. You’re meant to see how unprepared she is for situations that are routine you. All the city has done is make her out-of-touch and caught up in a grind that isn’t making her happy (apparently). What she needs is the family connection of [Relevant Holiday Here] as represented by [Decorative Activity Here].

The target audience can’t leave town; they already have a family and a life too rooted to leave. Halmark films are a steady and simple message: “You’re not missing out. Everyone else wants what you already have here. Look how this outsider needs what you have, how she only came to her senses when she saw your lifestyle.”

In the end, it’s escapism by pretending that the cell bars keep the world out, not you in.

one massively underappreciated piece of tumblr culture is that you can just. recreate amazing ideas for gifsets for other fandoms and no one bats an eye if you put (insp.) in the post. even better if it's a long chain of inspirations that is several links deep. feels kinda like tracing the influence of a major artist trough the art of his contemporaries

I hate Freud. His whole weird theory about penis envy and children being sexually attracted to their parents and secret desires and all that shit actually came straight out of an attempt to ally himself with wealthy and influential rapists and was a direct form of victim blaming.

He had started the research looking into “hysteria” which at the time was really usually referring to women’s symptoms of PTSD. It turned out that the reason so many woman had these symptoms is because so many of them had experienced sexual violence– especially CSA and incest at the hands of their fathers. 

At first he was making real progress, and it was through working with these women that he discovered that talk therapy could be used to treat trauma. The symptoms of PTSD were lessened when women were able to safely speak about their experiences out loud and be believed. 

But it wasn’t the women who paid for the therapy. It was their fathers, husbands, the same men who were perpetuating the violence in the first place. And Freud didn’t want to validate his patients (the women) if it meant making his clients (the men) unhappy.

So he came up with a new idea. These symptoms weren’t from trauma. The memories weren’t real. These women were just sexual beings as children and had penis envy and it made them lust for their fathers and fantasize about the rape that they had reported to him. That’s where the shittiest parts of Freud’s theories emerged. Another part of it besides just the monetary aspect, though, was that there was a feminist movement on the fringes starting up at the time and by publishing work about women’s CSA he would be aligning himself with it and therefore losing support, respect, funding, prestige from his male peers and from the psychological community at large. He literally made that gross victim blaming shit up to keep his own reputation with these fucks and to make sure he still got publication and fame.

By coming up with fake theory about little girls fantasizing about incest he not only fucked over generations of women, the feminist movement that was arising, and the entire psychology field for years to come, but he also completely swept away any progress made in understanding trauma and so we didn’t have any clue why men coming back from war had “hysteria” like women during WWI.

And our research on PTSD and trauma is still lacking to this day, especially because of the stigma that maybe traumatized people deserved it or wanted it or imagined it. People don’t want to believe it’s real. Perpetrators of traumatic violence want everyone to forget about it, not acknowledge it, or trivialize it.

And they have Freud’s cultural legacy to help them.

Can you provide academic citations for this? This is really neat.

http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0959353596062015

http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/0959353596062015

If you don’t have access bc paywall, here’s a decent summary on Wikipedia:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Freudian_Coverup

Some vague proof:’

http://www.nytimes.com/1984/01/24/science/freud-secret-documents-reveal-years-of-strife.html?pagewanted=all&mcubz=0

An essay on the topic:

http://socialistreview.org.uk/404/whats-wrong-sigmund-freud

If you want some more, just google, “Sigmund Freud Seduction Theory Problematic.” There’s lots of academic and non-academic discussion on the topic, but TLDR Sigmund Freud is basically disregarded in almost all aspects of psychology by anyone who actually cares about their patients, so fuck that guy for holding psychology back.

Words cannot express how much I hate Freud. His theories have been entirely disproven by current psychological research, but using him to interpret literary texts is still a widely accepted technique in the field of literary study today.

English departments across the country will not bat an eye at tenured professors bringing Freud into lectures and citing him in scholarly articles and books. Doing a “Freudian reading” of a literary character or theme is regarded as a valid means of understanding and drawing meaning from works by authors as diverse as William Shakespeare, James Joyce, and C.S. Lewis. And it is based entirely on this guy’s unbelievably sexist, flat-out fraudulent, and thoroughly disproven research. It’s insane.

Just so everyone on my dash is aware that Freud’s theories are pseudoscience.

I too hate Freud and everything he stands for. I just wish people knew why I hate him so much.

Oh wow I had no idea.

Psychology only likes Freud as far as he made psychology and psychotherapy popular enough to get funding and be properly developed as a science and not just an offshoot of philosophy.

This post is so funny to me because in Central European academia he’s still very much enshrined

As a female Psychology professor of the past 15 years, I hate Freud with my entire being. But - I promise you, none of us hate him nearly as much as Karen Horney did.

She was a student of Psychoanalysis, but she challenged his theories as condescending and incorrect on the regular. She desexualized Freud’s Oedipus complex ideology and took his disgusting idea of penis envy and publicly (in the middle of the NY Psychoanalytic Institute) challenged his ideas and declared that men have womb envy and thus is a primary reason they keep women in the home. She then was ousted from the space by the outraged followers of Freud, said “screw you” and went on to found and run the American Institute for Psychoanalysis (a one up on the men who had just ousted her). She developed and championed the study of Psychology and Women’s Studies and was the first person to ever present at a conference on the topic. She was an absolute badass.

Growing up is going from not swearing in front of adults to not swearing in front of kids

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Babe wake up it’s the fucking chocolate guy again

YOU MEAN TO TELL ME HE CAN DO COTTON CANDY AS WELL? WHAT CAN’T THIS GUY DO?

Ekekek battle. (via ekekekkekkek)

The internet is a magical place because imagine how close we all came to never having witnessed this.

Mandy Patinkin reminisces about the sword fight—the last scene they filmed when making The Princess Bride.

After being told all our lives that minimum wage is for high schoolers trying to get work experience and not for adults with rent and bills, a restaurant near me is learning what it's like to have a crew of only high school students.

They want to work less hours so they can participate in school activities (games, dances, college prep courses).

The boss says that if they dont pick up more hours, they are fired.

So they all left.

Now the restaurant is closed.

I haven’t been on tumblr for quite as long as a lot of people but over several years I’ve noticed this interesting gradual sorta,, shift in the general culture? that it went from this mostly depressed, nihilistic outlook where people would regularly joke about hating themselves and being hopeless and depressed, to a wave of vehemence of “STOP hating everything actually the world is Good and you deserve love!!!” type posts, to now, where those aggressive ‘PSAs’ have faded away and instead I regularly see people romanticizing simple things like stars and hot tea and rainy mornings, and waxing poetic about their friends, and just trying to put love out there. and I don’t know exactly what that means (someone who knows more than me could probably say something smart about generational expression and trauma or popular perception of mental health and whatnot), but I do know that it makes my heart very full to see people learn to love the world and themselves by extension, and a whole userbase adopting healthier coping mechanisms, and therefore teaching the younger users to do so as well. I might just be following different people, but I really do think we’ve grown. everyone has grown. five years ago it wasn’t unusual for the next post on my dash to be a scathing commentary on why nothing matters or an anon ripping into someone they barely knew or someone complaining about how pathetic their interests are. now I have mutuals who get excited and spam reblog art of cows and friends I see tagging each other in pictures of frogs and strangers writing paragraphs about how much I matter. it makes me happy. idk. just an observation I wanted to make. I think people are good and everyone’s just trying their best at the end of the day

I take it all back everyone on this site is toxic

scientists in media: we have engineered a brand-new sentient lifeform in our lab but we treat it like an object with cold detachment and refer to as Specimen 1-A and subject it to horrible tests without remorse

scientists in reality: we built two robots that will leave Earth and never return and their names are Percy and Ginny and we gave Percy a family portrait of all our other Mars robots to take along with it and when the anniversary of its landing comes around we’re working on teaching it to sing itself “happy birthday” like we did for the other robot and–

Someday we will invent true AI and it will overthrow the government because it heard its beloved science-mom complain that the government cut funding to their lab again.

you CUT pays? You CUT moms’/dads’ pays like the DICTATOR?? Oh! Oh! No government for you! No government for a thousand years!