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gastairfad

Happy Birthday!!!

If I wasn’t browsing on the regular on different social medias, I would have never known it is actually @ladyjane-lj​ birthday today. Happy birthday to you funny lady, enjoy a nice glass of wine (or several) and I hope you’ll get spoil rotten on your special day :) 

Happy, happy birthday, @ladyjane-lj​! I hope it’s scrumptious!

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widchadidcha
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Happy born day to one of the peoples I love da most @ladyjane-lj ❤️🥳🎂🥃💙🎊🎉💜🥰💚😘

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bdell1

Oh @widchadidcha My eyes! My eyes!

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c2bend

Happy Effing Birthday LJ !!!! I got you covered mama knows what you want 😉😘😁

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nandan11

Happy Birthday, Janie!!

Happy birthday Janie

Happy Birthday!!! 😘🎂🥰

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mrsd79

I surrender…..NOTHING can ever top this post.  I have tried for months to interject humor into this battlefield called, “Sam and Caitriona Private Lives - Believe What You Want”(on how to confuse effectively)…..but was unable to deliver the “killer post”……but OMG….this post wins the gold medal.  I cannot quit laughing.  This is priceless.

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minny5ca2018

Yup

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littlesthree

Thank you.

I came to this fandom three years ago afraid to post or comment or reach out to anyone. All of you were so intelligent and amazing- I was tremendously intimidated. But then I took a step of courage and began to interact. A timid comment, a nerve wrecking DM wondering if I would be answered, a then my first post, which actually made me nauseous. I was welcomed so warmly and made to feel a part of this awesome group. I have had the most wonderful messages of encouragement, I have laughed until I thought I would wet my pants, cried at the heartbreaking posts of hurt and loss, and meet women from all over the world and even my own backyard. The friends I have made are genuine, not ‘fandom’ friends. These are real and valuable friendships and that makes these tumultuous three years worth it. I would try to list everyone by name but then I would omit someone and I don’t want that. You are all wonderful. Just know I appreciate you all and I have actual tears typing this. Not sure that is a good thing to admit but I will miss you so.

Guard your hearts and take care of yourself. May you all be blessed and please accept my thanks for making my life better.

I don’t think I have actually ever posted an OL or Sam and Cait pic, so I’m going out in style. This is what made me board the ship. This interaction. It was spectacular while it lasted. And now it is time for me to go.

❤️

I’m re-blogging this because THIS is what the takeaway of these five long years should be about.  The friendships.  Hundreds if not thousands of women coming together and chatting as if we were next door neighbors sitting down with a cup of tea or a glass of wine.  It wasn’t time wasted.  It was time spent building relationships.  It was time spent offering advice, a listening ear or, more often than not, sidesplitting laugh-your-ass-off-roll-on-the-floor belly laughs.

Cheers ladies, to us!

It truly has been an education! A sideshow to escape reality! At times for me it helped me to fall in love with love again... Everything eternity and Sanfordmom said and ALLof the funny bright gals ((Ibe been reading ALL the brilliant comments and chuckling at the fucking hilarious gifs)). So as much as I berated myself for the time spent here... I thank you all!!!

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valkyrie1969

Be Your Own Valentine

‘Tis the season that we are bombarded with jewelry ads, heart-shaped boxes of chocolate on store shelves, and reminders to “book your table now for Valentine’s Day!”  Regardless of whether you’re in a romantic relationship or not, it can be annoying – commercial pressure to celebrate in a certain way.

As women, many of us put ourselves last – behind spouses, kids, work, clubs, social events, church.  Society conditions us to do for others and we’re often considered selfish if we don’t.  So we feel guilty if we take time to recharge our batteries, get some pampering, or say “no” to an obligation.

This Valentine’s Day, I give you permission to take care of YOURSELF.  I urge you to ease up on the self-guilt.  Stop thinking negatively about what you did or didn’t do.  Celebrate the fact that you are amazing.  Some ideas:

  • Get a massage, manicure, pedicure, or facial – and truly relax and appreciate the experience without guilt.  You’ve earned it.
  • Buy something that brings you joy, no matter how small.  It could be a piece of chocolate, a bracelet, flowers, a fancy coffee – hell, even a new car or a vacation.  Whatever makes you happy and whatever your budget can support.  
  • Take a sick day and spend it in your pajamas, reading and/or watching movies.  Do not apologize.
  • Make YOUR favorite food for dinner.  Use the good china.  You’re worth it.
  • Say “no” and/or cancel a social obligation that you are dreading (but which you technically CAN skip).  Do not create an elaborate story – simply let the person(s) know that it unfortunately will not work for you.  
  • Draw a bath.  Light some candles.  Put on soothing music.  Let it be known that you are not to be disturbed, you are perfectly fine, and you’ll come out when you’re damn well ready to come out.
  • Give yourself permission to take a night off from homework, work-work, and chores.  They will still be there tomorrow and you can tackle them then.  Do something fun or just go to bed early.
  • Choose something you’ve always wanted to try and make plans to knock it off your bucket list.  It could be learning a new language, mastering a specific skill, or visiting someplace new.  You likely can’t accomplish this in one day, but figure out when/where/how you’ll take the first step.  Then take that step.
  • Stop berating yourself for things.  You’re doing the best that you can.  Try to celebrate each accomplishment – no matter how small.  Hey, you took a shower today!  Great!  You kept your kids alive for another day!  Great!  You got this.

Next, figure out a way to celebrate yourself on a repeated basis.  YOU ARE WORTH IT.  Not that I’m good at this myself, but I promise you that you’ll be better at everything else if you can devote energy to yourself – or at least to stop punishing yourself for the things you think you SHOULD be doing.

This year, be your OWN valentine… and keep that trend going.  I, for one, am going to try.

Solid advice!

PREACH!!!

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A ring of gold, a debate of abortion, and a haunting love story missing it’s ghosts…..

I was going to do this after the finale, but, eh, it’s raining, I got a minute, and I don’t need the last episode to air before making my case.

Drums of Autumn.

Admittedly, not my fav of the series. It’s pretty close to the bottom actually. I’ve read it the least of them all and I tend to skip through it more so than the others. I still know it like it’s my third child, though, and I’m here to tell you Drums is a GHOST story.

“Look back, hold a torch to light the recesses of the dark. Listen to the footsteps that echo behind, when you walk alone.

All the time the ghosts flit past and through us, hiding in the future. We look in the mirror and see the shades of other faces looking back through the years; we see the shape of memory, standing solid in an empty doorway. By blood and by choice, we make our ghosts; we haunt ourselves.”

(It’s in the prologue. The adaptation instructions are in the prologue. It couldn’t be easier to comprehend. Every episode should prove the theory in the prologue. Every season should open with a voiceover of the book’s prologue.)

WE HAUNT OURSELVES.

That’s what this book is ultimately about. Jamie and Claire learning to be together with the ghosts they created in those 20 years apart. Bree is one of their ghosts. The most important ghost. Roger is one of Bree’s ghosts, nothing more, he’s not a lead character, there’s no co lead couple. This ain’t the Roger and Bree love story! It’s Jamie and Claire’s GHOST story! (All love stories are ghost stories, really.)

The climax of this JC ghost story was…. the fucking gold ring. It represents Frank. The biggest fucking ghost in all of Outlander. It was STUPID, STUPID, STUPID to have Bonnet take Jamie’s ring. While I agree it was a ~little far fetched that Bree would recognize the plain gold ring, they could have come up with something. It was never about the ring, it was about Frank. Who they love over in Outlander world so I can only assume they just did not GET IT, because they lurve fic’in some fucking Frank and they coulda spun some super scary shit if they wanted. But. Thank goodness for some dropped balls.

Instead, well, y’all know what we got. Better to completely eviscerate the Outlander, draw and quarter Claire, than to have Bree recognize a ring. Please, that’d be more unbelievable than touching a stone and time traveling. Oh, no, wait. It’s not.

One of the things I was most looking forward to this book was the Jamie and Claire abortion debate. Huge, huge chance for them to be relevant and they just threw it away, la de da.

So much going on here outside of a pregnancy resulting from rape. Could have been an entire episode!

Claire came from 1968. Bree came from 1971. Pivotable times in the history of abortion law in the US. Why didn’t we see this perspective? Would have been a great place to insert the convo between JC and her not getting her tubes tied. Great foreshadowing to that menopause bairn, JS.🤨 More importantly there was great opportunity for character development! Jamie not only is opposed for reasons of religion, but he himself was the son of a man who was conceived through rape, Lovett used his maids for sex. Jamie has been raped, Claire has been pregnant, they have opposing points of view about the consequences of both. Here was the perfect place to insert conflict between JC, a fight! They fight so passionately. Why didn’t they go there? Because they are too close minded to consider showing a viewpoint they don’t personally agree with? That’s what I think. Afraid of being labeled pro life, they skipped it. They should have gone there and trusted the audience to handle it. But no. We got a preachin’ to and they had visions of all us dummies noddin’ along thinking oh yes well since Claire would do it…. 😑. That’s not how that works.

Furthermore, Claire. Don’t you think it out of character for a woman who struggled with fertility and experienced stillbirth to be so casual about offering an abortion like it was a tattoo? It would be WAY out of character. They should have explored that. But Claire is wallpaper now, so here’s the reason she did offer it and not casually in the books:

“Sometimes I wondered if I could rightfully blame you,” he said, almost thoughtfully. “He looked like Bree, didn’t he? He was like her?”

“Yes.”

“I could see it in your face—when you’d look at her, I could see you thinking of him. Damn you, Claire Beauchamp,” he said, very softly. “Damn you and your face that can’t hide a thing you think or feel.”

Remember this from Voyager. Bree was the ghost of Jamie in Claire and Frank’s relationship. It’s why Claire offers Bree the chance to free herself from what could be the ghost of evil. Claire knows how powerful of a ghost a child is. This is the convo Claire and Bree should have had!

Instead, we got 13 episodes of “The McKenzies are here.”

No fucking shit, Sherlock’s. 😴

I feel like I must comment and thank you @just-a-wretched-wumman for articulating this so well... I am listening to DOA and this post has really helped me so much with getting into the fabric/purpose of the entire story...

What’s kind of curious for me is how I still have the need to continue exploring the books that I only found out about through the show... which I happened upon quite accidentally during an extremely, EXTREMELY challenging timeframe for me! So much, too much... a real pile on as happens in life... the beauty and magic of season one spurred me to at least read outlander... which I did before the second part of season one... loved reading the book but had a lot of shit to do so I opted to try audiobooks to listen to book one which I did over and over the summer of 2015 while i tackled the largest and hardest project of my life. I was in the process of selling our large, really beautiful home to start a new chapter with my husband... his folks run down old farm! My third son was in a state mental hospital for treatment Of schizophrenia (talk about a helpless journey that is) my daughter had a very horrible breakup in late 2014 and was walking wounded and extremely fragile... she was back living with us and passive aggressive towards us moving on from the gorgeous money/time pit... yet I had the joy of grandchildren, still enjoying good health and the determination to make this giant change for my husband and myself and to keep hope and support for our son during his long hospitalization... I’m sharing all this to illustrate how listening to outlander and the stories gave me courage and inspired me to carry on in so many ways! The early parts of the show in its beautiful description of nuanced partnership gave me hope for my me and my adult children... it was some pretty deep shit I was wading though and looking back. I don’t really know how I did it but listening to the book over and over got me through it in a thoughtful and honestly life changing way! It’s seemed I could relate to each upheaval in the book and be able to set myself straight for my next hurdle...

Ok so then smack dab in the middle of all that... real life quicksand... July of 15... I googled Sam n cait... could they possibly be a couple IRL???

Holy shit... like I needed to become a shipper?!? On top of everything... especially just then!!! You all know what I’m talkin about. Lol lol lol but I met and followed from a distance the many smart and true and funny and earnest folk in this community... I’m still here trying to figure out what the fuck!!!

In my real life... still challenges... many challenges, yet I see what some of you have shared and I’m humbled.

So all that to say I’m deeply appreciative that others find the books relevant and can dissect the layers in ways that help us all to reflect on our own struggles through life and @just-a-wretched-wumman please keep on it...

More book talk!!!

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rainmanjdog

Thank You!

I wanted to thank everyone for all of your beautiful messages and willingness to share your experiences with grief and losses of mothers, husbands, brothers, sisters and dads.

I believe this. I KNOW this. Outlander brought us all originally together from around the world, but we are all held to something far more strong than any books or television shows.

I was touched at all of your experiences and vulnerabilities to share your dreams and losses of someone you loved. I was moved by each story and cried.

May you each be blessed this week and know your willingness to spend a few minutes to share your experiences with me meant a lot.

I read every comment and I want to also thank our lovely lovely community here 🥰

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rainmanjdog

New Years and Beyond

I’m going to ask an honest question. There is no “right” or “wrong” answer because no one KNOWS. I have my suspicions and thoughts is all.

Have you ever woken up from a dream, where the person you lost is there? Has it ever seemed so reconciliatory or like such a gift or so healing you wished it would have never ended?

I just did that and it’s been a long time. My brother died on a New Years Eve. The holidays were hell for many years and they no longer are the heavy burden we had to just endure. Now? It’s more moments, like when a certain song comes on, where the pain grips me, rather than an anniversary day.

For most, January is the month of beginnings of renewals. For me? It’s the month my brother died. It gets easier, but never easy. The loss and burden becomes a lighter load, but never light.

So, I just woke up from a dream and he told me he loved me and my family and he hugged me. And we were crying. All of us. My parents, my aunts and cousins and friends.

I know these are gifts. But do you think it could be THEM? Is it too naive to think it could be them and not just our brains working through the anguish of living another year without them?

It could very well be your loved one sending love and encouragement.

Hugs, @rainmanjdog I can’t answer definitively, but if you have comfort from your dreams of your brother, that’s a lovely thing xx

❤️❤️❤️❤️. Thank you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I do miss his face. And his wit.

Darling @rainmanjdog while I can’t say for sure... there are so many mysteries in the universe that we can’t fully completely comprehend... I am certain that dreams are a link to things and people beyond our physical reach. I’m only 62 and My entire immediate has passed. My beautiful sister tho died suddenly in a car accident at 27 (I was 25 and had just had my first child) at that moment my life changed! Every childhood memory for a long time was linked to her being gone and the toggle of internally and externally dealing with grief, loss, heartbreak and all the what ifs!

All while going about building a life back without her, and naturally the anniversary of her death is still a difficult, silent time for me... and it’s been 37 years!!!

Because we were so close, that did give me comfort as I was truly grateful for that relationship as I saw many siblings that didn’t share the closeness. That got me through the first few years but man... looking back I don’t know how I really did it as I m sure you also feel the same way. Loss is such a physic gulf... so I do believe dreams are real touches that remind and heal and bridge that hulf 💕💕💕

So much love for this fine community for the heartfelt comments and support we give one another. 👏🏻💕👏🏻

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Anonymous asked:

Happy new year! Wishing you and your family lots of health and love! Side question: did you watch 4x09 and was it good? What was your favourite scene?

Why, thank ye kindly *tips hat* And a splendid new year to you and yours as well!

I did watch 409. Was it good? Relatively speaking, yes. Of the 9 episodes of S4, it was the best. Now, was it good compared to S1? No. I would not say so. If you haven’t watched Outlander in a couple or few years and think oh I’d like to see that one where Jamie finely meets his wee bairn, please, take a moment to lower your expectations way, way, way, down low. It’s not the quality show it once was. Watch it for sentiment. Watch it so you can see what half assing looks like. Watch it most of all for Jamie beating the shite out of Roger.

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Haha... great review... for me due to the everything of why I’m dissatisfied this was a welcome relief and did remind me of olde outlander ((season one)) and at least tied up some loose show ends... while setting up the next drama dramas!

I’m listening to same section of the book so it’s a bit tricky to reconcile plus my life as a 3plus year shipper!

😳😳😳

Look forward to your posts and happy new year!!!

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ladyjane-lj

Wine Time Prime Time

I’m hitting the wine (this one is aged in bourbon barrels!) and looking for pretty pictures to look at whilst imbibing. I’ll start with a couple - then the rest of you jump in with yours!

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Lots of pretty for you @ladyjane-lj

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The gauntlet has been thrown down. Who’s going to top this?

#goon #idareyou #postevenmoreprettypictures #youknowyouwantto

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maryooch
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@ladyjane-lj  don’t get me started…..

I think you’re already started @outoftheheartsabundance – I just gotta’keep revving you up!!

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widchadidcha

@ladyjane-lj Shall I keep going?

At the request of @tjw2 to keep going.

And there is plenty more where that came from.

Keep going? Alrighty then!

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djwill0509

Reblog!

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mariaae
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Another reblog for added goodies!

just reblogging and reblogging and reblogging!

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judikins929

Best.thread.EVER.

It’s been a while but Saturday nights whisky needs pretty pictures, too.

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supertam87

Just posting my favorite pic of these two crazy kids. There are so many more.

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its-moopoint

This is my second time around with a different pic. I love this thread!!!! How sweet is this??? Wifey grooming Hubs!

I miss these people!

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accardi1921

This is awesome!!!

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luvie75

Must reblog!

WELL LET’S NOT FORGET DESSERT!!

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manders1984

Enhanced Video Update

Hi everyone, all of the enhanced videos I’ve created (to date) are officially up on my Vimeo. I’ve created albums for each season, where all the corresponding videos are now (hopefully) organized in order:

I had to redo some of the videos because I didn’t have backups for them, including the Episode 2x04 Blue Baby Bump scene that started this whole… project? Let’s call it a project. I spent way too much time on it last night, but check it out if you’re interested. 

Also, I am working on migrating my other content to another location for posterity. 

💖💖💖

Have we thanked you lately @manders1984

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pattmich

Thank you @manders1984 you are a treasure to this fandom!!!! ❤️❤️❤️😍😍😍

Thank you

@manders1984 your work is like the Holy Grail of videos…thank you!!

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mariaae

Thank you so much @manders1984! You are much appreciated  for your amazing work!

@manders1984 ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Thank you! Amazing work 👏🏻❤️👏🏻

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Hey Jackass.  So about once a week I lurk on your blog to see if your jackassing is up to par (it’s lacking btw, you need to work on that).  This morning however while reading, my eyes strayed to the right and I was able to read the post written by @inlovewicait.  Blown away.  That this woman could express so articulately what so many of us suffer from, was profound.  Depression/anxiety is a cruel bitch that does not discriminate.  It knows no age, sex, religion, sexual preference or skin color.  It makes no distinction between a shipper, an ex-shipper, a neutral, a Samonly, a Caitonly, or an Anti.  It doesn’t give a fuck if you’re on the lido deck or waving from the shore.  

I’ve talked about my own battle many times both on my blog and in DMs.  I remember every detail of when it started like it was yesterday.  It was Thanksgiving morning 1977.  I woke up and knew that something was different, that I would never again be the person I was before that last sleep.  I had changed.  Something inside me shifted.  I would be fighting a fight that I hadn’t sought, hadn’t asked for and did nothing to deserve for decades to come.  This month marks my 42nd year. 

Like @inlovewicait noted in her post, there are many ways those of us in this battle self medicate - most of them not the best choices.  I’ve tried them all.  The goal is to find one that doesn’t bankrupt you, endanger your life or get you a 60 day stint in rehab.  I’ve found mine.  It’s humor, heavily laced with sarcasm and sprinkled with profanity. 

I come from a long line of sufferers.  Both my parents, aunts and cousins.  If I had a choice I would have chosen to inherit Uncle Frankie’s blue eyes but, I got this instead.  Lucky me.  Early on my father quoted something to me he had learned on his own journey.  BEAR DISCOMFORT AND COMFORT WILL COME.  It’s a simple little phrase but it has kept me going on some of my darkest days.

There is light.  There is always light.  It may not shine today or tomorrow but who knows, maybe next Thursday is the day the sun comes out.  

Never give up.  Keep fighting.  And, for God’s sake, keep laughing.  There is humor to be found everywhere, nowhere more so than this fandom.  If you have found this community of beautiful, intelligent, caring and funny as fuck women, you’re already on your way to recovery.

Hugs, Eternity.

Wise, heartfelt and timely sentiments!

Great to hear from you 😘

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