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Ace and aro things

@herefortheace / herefortheace.tumblr.com

Aro ace black mixed race woman. She/her. Don't vague me (and please @ me when you talk about me). I talk about ace/aro things on this blog. I'm cis. Main blog is theintoccabile.

So turns out when I wanna reblog something now it defaults to this blog

tumblr why

I caught this pretty quick, but if in the future you see any very unexpected posts here, that's probably why lol

Edit: fixed it I think? Time will tell

The French hijab ban pisses me off so much. The very idea of a hijab ban is irrefutably a violation, undeniably discriminatory and bigoted. And to enforce it upon your athletes, your champions competing for you at like the biggest sporting event, it's so disrespectful and audacious. It's such a clear disregard for your athletes. They're not just your athletes, they're your people, but France has made it clear they don't care about French Muslims.

If you live in the US and you have a phone you need to keep secret for any reason, make sure that it is turned off at this time.

Yes, I'm doing this months in advance, and yes, my blog has very little reach, but I figure better to post about it more than less.

Please reblog and add better tags than mine, I'm bad at tags.

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spinabifidaoccultist-deactivate

OCTOBER 4, 2023

TURN OFF YOUR OTHER PHONE AND DO NOT TURN IT ON AGAIN UNTIL YOU ARE ALONE AND SAFE BECAUSE THE ALARM WILL COME THROUGH AS SOON AS THAT PHONE IS POWERED ON.

AGAIN I REPEAT:

OCTOBER 4, 2023

THE ALARM WILL COME THROUGH AS SOON AS THAT PHONE IS POWERED BACK ON.

SO ONLY POWER IT BACK ON WHEN IT IS SAFE TO DO SO.

OCTOBER 4, 2023

If this doesn't make sense, then good news it's not for or about you but still reblog it because you never know who may need to know this.

Reblog and add more tags.

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gameover03909987-deactivated202

Going to try and spread this around some more because my teeth are getting progressively worse and the worse they get the more I’ll have to pay to get them fixed and replaced. No new donations for 25 days.

Please help if you can if that is by donating or just reblogging

Thank you 🙏🏾

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gameover03909987-deactivated202

I’ve gotten one donation on the GoFundMe so far and since my job illegally only paid me 23.50 for 23 total hours of work at $13 an hour, I need help to make it until the 26th

It’s disability pride month and I have officially been on disability since 2015. As time goes on it’s gets harder and harder to attempt to work and with places like the job I had, it makes it almost impossible.

Anonymous asked:

hello. i just found your blog (and masterpost abt aro/acephobia) and id like to say thanks. im a trans aroace kid, and ur masterpost defending aro/aceness was weirdly validating. i wasnt here on tumblr in the old days or anything but ur acc is very cool

<3 <3 <3 Thank you for your kind message!

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lulanight-deactivated20230410

Hadïh!

Once again requesting mutual aid as alongside a stomach tumor, I also seem to have long covid and can barely work right now with my fatigue and breathing issues.

I am an indigenous disabled, neurodivergent, intersex, non-binary lesbian (really got the short end of the stick).

I spend basically all my free time at appointments or getting treatment, and have almost no time I can work anymore. I do have a job, but my income is minimal and I mainly survive on disability pension. I also have debts from previous health crises where I had to take on loans to make ends meet.

My bank account is empty and in the negatives until my next disability cheque, which is three weeks away. Any amount will help.

My paypal (and etransfer) is ezekielmith@gmail.com

We don't have venmo or cashapp in Canada.

Misiyh friends!

Image ID: savings account with negative sixty-six dollars, dated for may fourth at nine fourty PM.

Please reblog if you can't donate - check notes for updates.

Anonymous asked:

No I think you're entirely correct, a lot of aphobes have either gotten over it or at least shut up. Most of the bullshit in the tag is just from a very vocal and obnoxious minority. I haven't seen nearly as much garbage about it on other sites.

Glad to hear it! That shit went on for long enough

I went into the ace discourse tag for 10 seconds

The anti-ace/aro crowd is still as awful and tiring as ever and it’s the same stuff over and over

But I’ve not seen any crapcourse anymore in forever anywhere else when I was just trying to have a good time so I’m gonna assume it’s just the most annoying and hateful people who have decided to keep at it

Let me live in this belief

Anonymous asked:

hey I know you’re not on here anymore but I followed you way back when and I always thought you were super cool and super kind in a really toxic space so I hope you’re having a better time being on here less 💜💚💜

Awww thank you so much kind anon, this ask makes me happy <3 <3 <3 I still hang around, but mostly I read and yeah have taken a biiig step back from crapcourse if nothing else

(cws for racism/anti-blackness, misogyny, acephobia)

Following asexuality activist Yasmin Benoit on twitter has been one blunt example after another of the aggression and hostility that aces of color have to face, and how often every imaginable bigotry will get piled behind a more “acceptable” acephobic face to attack and tear them down.

In the name of questioning her identity as asexual, the author of the review she shared is practically playing anti-blackness bingo.  We’re constantly hearing “teenagers can’t say they’re asexual!  they’re too young!  that inherently sexualizes other teenagers!”  And then here, they say that because a black 14 year old went to Pride, she obviously was “interested in sexual activity” as a way to frame (and undermine) a later “swap” to asexuality.  

It’s no surprise, but it’s wild these people can call themselves feminists when they see “beautiful black woman” and start sexualizing and objectifying her like the most stereotypical perverted men.  “This 14 year old went to pride, so she’s interested in sex!!” sounds stolen straight from predatory rape culture, not to mention homophobia.  “She’s dressing too revealing, this makes her interested in sex” is ALSO straight from predatory rape culture.  The description of what she was wearing sounds straight from some misogynistic novel that we’d drag to hell and back for describing women by the state of their breasts.  And yet it all becomes fair game to try to set up some kind of contradiction between a black woman’s stated identity and her existence.  

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lulanight-deactivated20230410

Actually fuck Canada day. Instead of spending money on festivities, maybe support indigenous people today? I'm a third generation survivor of residential schools, and proudly Wetʼsuwetʼen.

We're short for food because we've been focusing on paying down our debts so bills aren't overwhelming every month.

P*yp*l & etr*nsfer: ezekielmith@gmail.com

If you're indigenous drop your payment info!

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lulanight-deactivated20230410

Help a native (Wetʼsuwetʼen) intersex lesbian survive their debts from escaping a transphobic situation? My job is only giving me 6 hours a week and I can't do physical labor due to my disability. Pm me for more information.

Paypal and etransfer is ezekielmith@gmail.com

380/1600 CAD

oh look the “ace discourse” tag is still a thing and the same shitty people from way back are among those spewing anti-ace/aro crap in it

incredible can you imagine. exhausted just glancing at it let alone have the same conversations from x years ago for the 5000th time. but guess when you really hate a minority orientation that provides some energy

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lulanight-deactivated20230410

Posted May 27 2021

Okay my last post got 0 traction or donations, so here we go again.

I’m a 2-spirit indigenous lesbian and survival sex worker, who is severely physically disabled, immunocompromised, and neurodivergent. I had a “ministroke” only twoish weeks ago, likely from stress, and just found out I have genetic heart disease.

My phones touch screen is broken, my drawing tablet doesn’t connect anymore, I owe 125 in phone bills, and am over 2k in debt due to needing to escape a transphobic roommate (debt is from the first months rent, getting basic furniture and food staples, and paying a damage deposit plus covering my roommates pet deposit (they have been paying me back, but have limited income too.)

Without my phone or drawing tablet I have no additional income sources outside of a meager disability pension (that barely covers my rent and food bills), so those are my priorities right now. If I pay my phone bill off I can upgrade to a new model (I need a decent camera for camming), and hopefully I can start making income again for my other bills.

Hoping to raise 400 for the phone bill, upgrade fees, and new tablet. Extra donations will go towards my active debt.

Donations via paypal and etransfers can go to my email - ezekielmith@gmail.com

Total Raised: 11/400

Please rb if you can’t donate!

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lulanight-deactivated20230410

Help two non-binary lesbians escape dangerous housing!

Hadïh (Hello)!

I just poured every dime I had (including my savings, my money for covid, etc) into the damage deposit and pet deposit and first half months rent for a new safe housing situation. This was only possible due to donations already recieved.

I am native, severely physically disabled, neurodivergent, trans (tme), and a lesbian. My friend is the same, aside from them being white. Neither of us have access to loans or family help (as we are extremely low income, and either our family is low income or not safe to contact).

We still need basic furniture, food, cleaning supplies, and moving boxes so we can be fully stable.

Ideally we would get additional funds towards next months rent as every month will be tight until we can both find longterm employment.

Paypal or etransfer (only method because I'm in Canada) is ezekielmith@gmail.com

Misiyh (thank you!)

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