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i love the way women talk… every woman has their own fun expressions and mannerisms we have FUN with it men all talk the same

in actual honesty there’s tons of research on how women are linguistic innovators (one example: a study conducted about language changes in english from 1417 to 1681 found that 11 out of the 14 changes they studied were led by young girls, and the 3 remaining linguistic changes were linked to men’s greater access to education) and you can still see that all the time because women talk so distinctively and so fun like you can see young women leading linguistic change all around you

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headed to nara, japan in june, I CANT WAIT TO MEET ALL MY DEER FRIENDS 

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If you’re considering dating a White person and you’re a person of color, you better bring up racism. Don’t have them show their true colors when you’re in too deep.

When you two are in the talking stage. BRING UP RACISM. If you’re afraid of losing them because you asked them if people who look like you deserve basic human rights? They were not that great to begin with.

You don’t want to be a year plus into your relationship (after you’ve fallen in love etc) to hear them spew some racist rhetoric. You as a person of color deserve better; you deserve respect.

I would say even between poc bring that shit up. internalized racism, colonial attitudes, and antiblackness are a fuckery of a situation even with poc, interracial relationship or no.

This was me. I figured it out after like four years and learned to love myself enough to realize. It took two more to leave.

seriously though.

Don’t just bring it up in a way that they can say what you want to hear because they want to sleep with you.

Bring it up in things like casual situations that are part of your routine. Watch for how they react to things, who their friends are, how they talk about their overtly racist family members if they have one. For those casual situations where they won’t automatically know they’re being vetted and have their gaurd down, I’ll pick tv shows, comic book movies, music and black female pop stars.

Those topics are things people are passionate about and forget to say what they think you want to hear and end up revealings things about themselves.

I’ll even use celebrities to gauge what kind of double standards they have.

self care is putting yourself to bed on a regular schedule because it’s the base treatment for mood disorders

there’s no twist or anything it’s just really really good for u to sleep at consistent times