January 09, 2024 Class: Let's Talk Suggestions

Date/Time: January 09, 2024, 6:30pm - 9:30pm (if there’s good discussion or practice ongoing, we don’t mind going over) Location: private residence in Charlotte, NC: vetted RSVPs will be provided the address Cost: $10 + see potluck details in description below Dress code: vanilla to door, collars allowed inside, be comfortable

FetLife Event Page: https://fetlife.com/events/1419614

Description: Fresh off the end-of-year holidays, let's start with a relatively informal class discussion around hypnotic suggestions. We will have class content prepared to demonstrate and talk about different ideas for suggestions, as well as different ways to provide suggestions, but we also wish for this to be an interactive discussion! The floor will be open for Q&A, for discussing your own experiences or preferences thus far with giving or receiving suggestions, and for providing ideas to others attending.

Basic 101 Primer: 6:30 - 7:00 Class: 7:00 - 8:00 Practice/Social: 8:00 - 9:30 (can go over)

Bring a snack or nonalcoholic drink to share, a dinner for yourself, or a suggested donation of $5 to offset food prices, as we'll be providing some food, as well (likely pizza). We can heat any food brought, if needed.

We will have limited attendance capacity, so please do not assume we have space for you, even if you've been to one of our classes in the past, unless you receive confirmation from us of your RSVP. Our main way of tracking RSVPs will be through FetLife Event Page RSVPs, but we will review private/direct messages, as well. For FetLife Event Page RSVPs, Maybe RSVPs are NOT guaranteed a spot in attendance.

This is a Hypnokink in the Carolinas event at a private residence. We require attendees be vetted, so please see our Vetting Policy posted here, it’s probably easier than you think.

If you can’t make it to the event, please check out the Discord server, join us for discussion in the FetLife HKiC Group, or add your kink-friendly email to the Email List for updates that way. We also just love to talk about erotic hypnosis, so feel free to contact us!

How do You RSVP or Contact Us?

Got questions or want to RSVP?  There’s so many different ways to reach out to us or to start discussions:

We are most immediately responsive on FetLife, but we will review each listed above prior to the event.

Is there a social media platform that you wish we were on, feel free to let us know!

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Corrections and Statement in Response to the issues with MindQuake

We, the Beguiled Conference Committee, are writing this public statement as we feel it is important to provide correction to misinformation posted by the MindQuake Conference Committee.

When Beguiled began in 2019 we were able to get assistance in vetting and sorting through previous Midwest and other conference bans and warnings. One person that has been on our radar since the beginning was Mr. Taqtiks. He had made public statements that put him on the list of people we wouldn’t want presenting for us. He had a list of complaints from both other leadership teams and a few individual community members. It was not until this year’s 2021 Beguiled Conline that he had ever attempted to attend or present with us. So no official statements were ever needed. 

The Mindquake staff claimed that Mr. Taqtiks never got his presentation statuses. His presentations were rejected through the PreTalx system, like every other applicant. He at no point reached out to state that he was having an issue with the system or seeing his status and message. 

The MindQuake Team has also responded to public notice that based on his clear further violations of community decency and, more enforceably, Beguiled Conference policies, Mr. Taqtiks is indeed banned from Beguiled.  Their response was that they don’t recognize it because the ban was not delivered via their preferred method of communication.

Let us be perfectly clear, harassment, retaliation and outing are all explicitly stated as against Beguiled’s policies. Even without previous red flag behaviors, these actions are sufficient for a permanent ban. When a person publicly and via direct messages, lashes out against the people he believes has reported him, that is retaliation and harassment. When he then goes a step further and obtains a confidential report and outs the contents of said report in a public call with 40+ witnesses, there is no investigation needed. These acts were all done in public and acknowledged by both Mr Taqtiks and the rest of the MQ Team. 

MindQuake’s ConCom is free to run their event as they see fit and have whomever on leadership. However we, the Beguiled ConCom, want to create a community where people are accountable and feel comfortable. Beguiled ConCom will not willfully ignore the very real harms that have happened and been excused and defended by MindQuake’s Team. Those who have been harmed get priority. We find it to be inappropriate to ignore such clear violations. 

Mr. Taqtiks is banned from Beguiled. 

Other members of their teams have also had issues and official warnings. It is not generally our policy to share these statuses publicly, but MQ has forced our hand.

We hope this is the last statement we need to make in regards to these issues. 

Sincerely, 

Beguiled Conference Committee. 

P.s. Beguiled also completely denounces the most recent racist victim shaming statements made on Fetlife by the MindQuake Team. All involved in that public statement should be ashamed and should do the right thing by apologizing and stepping down. 

Misogynoir and Internalized Anti-blackness and MindQuake

This is MY post this is NOT from Beguiled and I am speaking as my own Black Queer AFAB self and NOT as a representative because I am fucking done as a person. This will not be nice and might be barely coherent.

This was posted by the MindQuake board and comments disallowed. MQ is 

THIS Bullshit and racist as all fuck. When a Black Queer Trans person is harassed and threatened by a Black Cisman the person who was harassed has NO obligation to subject themselves to that in order to be “more acceptable”. Tha is some respectability politics victim blaming shit. Black, Indigenous, and Other People of Color are not monoliths. I have no doubt that people without context and even some with context disagreed with the way that a Black Queer Trans person protected themself. You will also find plenty of Black and other People of Color who know that NOT ALL SKINFOLK ARE KINFOLK.

I don’t have to include a person who has done harm at my event just because I am them share a skin color. That assertion on it’s own is some SUPER racist shit.

HOWEVER that does NOT make it ok for a PW event to use the very complex issues of intragroup internalized oppression, colorism and such as a smoke screen for their organization’s desire to keep documented problematic people on their leadership.

This is some morally bankrupt bullshit. This is Victim Shaming. This is Anti-Black, Transphobic, Misogynoir Fuckery.

I am furious. MindQuake is racist as fuck and using other BIPOC as a smoke screen to abide the OTHER toxicity at that event.

Oh and also Using POC when you mean Black is fucking erasure. Black people can be shitty too. I’m Black and I don’t support Bill Cosby’s Rapist ass.

What is REALLY a lack of Awareness is using racism to try and shame/blame a Black Trans person because you don’t like that they spoke out against a person who crossed boundaries with them and happens to be a Black CisMan.

Everyone involved with MindQuake and this statement can go get fucked with a rusty fork. Just the total worst.

An open letter to Nimja

Hi

So, I’ve seen what you’ve posted on your website, and I’ve seen how you’ve been editing it. Frankly, I find it a bit embarrassing that you dare to call it proof. You are embarrassing yourself.

I’ve spoken to Fay and she has given me permission to share this screenshot of my conversation with her.

Nimja, your account of Story 1 is a gross misrepresentation of the truth. I have Fay’s full consent to share that account of you hypnotising her against her wishes. You have not reconciled with her about this in any meaningful way, and it’s a slap in the face to pretend that you have.

As for Story 2, I’ve said it before: it sounds an awful lot like the woman you’ve had communication with is not the woman who approached me and asked me to write about how you violated her consent. The story I shared in 2019 was written in cooperation with the victim, and she has not asked me to take it down. In order to protect her identity and privacy, I’m not going to say any more about that at this time.

The woman whose emails you are showing has not contacted me, and I am very confused that she says she has spoken to me and that she thought I was her friend. I wonder whether I’ve ever met or spoken to this woman at all.

Finally, I don’t think quoting Mindquake’s organisor is going to help your case. A lot of stuff has been said about her in the past weeks, and she has responded with a lot of comments on Fetlife. You might want to read some of that.

I’m not sure what else to say. A few years ago, I believed there was hope for you if you changed your ways and learned more about how consent works in hypnokink.

You have dashed out that hope.

Ummm … yeah.  Nimja has been trying to worm his way into the US convention scene again.  Some cons are more vigilant about this than others, which is unfortunate.  Be careful, everyone – especially if you are young, present as female, and aren’t very experienced yet.

(crossposted with our FetLife group, to our e-mail distribution list, and in our Discord server)

Hello everyone!  We took a bit of a break for recovery from the 2019 end of year holidays, and decided for our first class/practice session of 2020 to be in early-to-mid February.

We’ve been holding classes on Sunday afternoons for several months, but we’ve found that people often have multiple issues with this time slot.  So we want to hear from you!

We’ve written up a quick survey, if you’re interested in attending classes for erotic hypnosis / hypnokink in Charlotte, then please fill it out so that we can better plan around those who want to be here!  Also included is a spot for additional feedback or requests.

If you do not enter your scene name, your response will be completely anonymous.

Survey link: https://forms.gle/amYMBEUyCoLGE4D37

To be completely clear: Please only fill this out if you have interest and intent to attend our events, classes, discussions, and/or practice labs.  Thank you for your interest!

Signal boost!

If you follow this account (@carolinashypno) but don’t follow the one being reblogged (@carolinashypnousa), then start!  Tumblr never uncensored this one, so the USA one was made so I’d have a blog everyone can access!  Look for the colorful, gradient, concentric circle type “spiral” in the avatar!

(crossposted with our FetLife group, to our e-mail distribution list, and in our Discord server)

Hello everyone!  We took a bit of a break for recovery from the 2019 end of year holidays, and decided for our first class/practice session of 2020 to be in early-to-mid February.

We’ve been holding classes on Sunday afternoons for several months, but we’ve found that people often have multiple issues with this time slot.  So we want to hear from you!

We’ve written up a quick survey, if you’re interested in attending classes for erotic hypnosis / hypnokink in Charlotte, then please fill it out so that we can better plan around those who want to be here!  Also included is a spot for additional feedback or requests.

If you do not enter your scene name, your response will be completely anonymous.

Survey link: https://forms.gle/amYMBEUyCoLGE4D37

To be completely clear: Please only fill this out if you have interest and intent to attend our events, classes, discussions, and/or practice labs.  Thank you for your interest!

Signal boost!

If you follow this account (@carolinashypno) but don’t follow the one being reblogged (@carolinashypnousa), then start!  Tumblr never uncensored this one, so the USA one was made so I’d have a blog everyone can access!  Look for the colorful, gradient, concentric circle type “spiral” in the avatar!

Reblogging for the evening crowd

(crossposted with our FetLife group, to our e-mail distribution list, and in our Discord server)

Hello everyone!  We took a bit of a break for recovery from the 2019 end of year holidays, and decided for our first class/practice session of 2020 to be in early-to-mid February.

We’ve been holding classes on Sunday afternoons for several months, but we’ve found that people often have multiple issues with this time slot.  So we want to hear from you!

We’ve written up a quick survey, if you’re interested in attending classes for erotic hypnosis / hypnokink in Charlotte, then please fill it out so that we can better plan around those who want to be here!  Also included is a spot for additional feedback or requests.

If you do not enter your scene name, your response will be completely anonymous.

Survey link: https://forms.gle/amYMBEUyCoLGE4D37

To be completely clear: Please only fill this out if you have interest and intent to attend our events, classes, discussions, and/or practice labs.  Thank you for your interest!

Signal boost!

If you follow this account (@carolinashypno) but don’t follow the one being reblogged (@carolinashypnousa), then start!  Tumblr never uncensored this one, so the USA one was made so I’d have a blog everyone can access!  Look for the colorful, gradient, concentric circle type “spiral” in the avatar!

Backlash

A few days ago, I posted on Fetlife (and later copied and pasted my edited version on my blog here) about the consent violation at the erotic hypnosis “demo” in my local area. Another thing that has been bothering me a great deal is that one of the owners of the place where the demo occurred contacted me via PM and really read me the riot act for mentioning the place by name in my original post about what happened on Wed. night. He asked me to remove any mention of the place from my post. (I did that.) I’ve copied and pasted from some of his PM below:

“From my perspective, what occurred was common practice for stage hypnosis and the violation was subtle to the point, no one else noticed until after reading your post. Even your own Mistress, who surely knows more about hypnosis than I, and certainly knows you better than I, allowed you to participate. Is it fair to hold me (and my organization) to a higher standard?

I understand that you feel violated and I sympathize with your desire to vent, but I don’t believe our level of involvement warrants having our name dragged through the mud.”

Then he had the gall to ask me if he could include what happened in a BDSM 101 talk about consent. I replied with the following: “If you include this experience in the consent section of a BDSM 101 series, you can also add what not to say when someone reports a consent violation. Telling a victim of a consent violation that 1) it’s not that bad, 2) the victim chose to be there and 3) their Mistress shouldn’t have allowed them to be there, is retraumatizing. It’s the same as telling a vanilla rape victim, “hey, don’t make our fraternity look bad, and BTW it’s really your fault because you chose to come to the party and drink.” You might want to say in your BDSM 101 class that saying these kind of remarks tells subs/ bottoms that when they report consent violations, they’ll be blamed, which erodes safety and trust in BDSM community leaders.“

 My faith in these BDSM community leaders is very shaken. My Mistress and I decided not to go to a play party tonight in our area because we don’t want to deal with any bullshit from defensive people who manage the place or the sponsoring group of the demo. (My local kink community is not that big, considering the size of the city where we live.) . I don’t know if I can ever trust these leaders enough to go to one of their kink events ever again. They’ve shown they do not react well to reports of consent violations, which to me means these events are not safe. I don’t know what to do about this. At this point I’m strongly debating whether or not to step down from any involvement in my local kink community, which breaks my heart, because up to this point I have loved this community.

People always bitch about loss of reputation this and loss of reputation that when anything goes wrong and something/someone is called.  However, as long as you have people defending you, your reputation is fiiiiine.  Meanwhile, people who don’t know what’s wrong about what they did continue to either not know or not care, and bad policy continues to get propogated, all in the name of “reputation.”

For a long time now, at least a year, possibly longer, I’ve been saying “I really have to write something on my view about labels.”  Well, here’s a bit of a venting perspective on my view of labels.

Spoiler: I feel labels are both awesome and they suck.

Reblogging for the morning crowd, my last post of 2019, and Happy New Year of 2020!

Date & Time: Sunday, December 8, 2019, 2:00 PM – 5:00 PM Location: private residence in Charlotte, NC: vetted RSVPs will be provided the address

Cost: $10 + snack food or drink to share; OR $10 + suggested $5 donation without shareable item

Dress code: vanilla to door, collars allowed inside, be comfortable

Class Summary Hypnosis is often misrepresented and thus misunderstood. In this class, we’ll be discussing why you may be interested in using hypnosis in your kink play, demystifying a variety of myths from pop culture and media representation, and giving a how-to primer while ensuring you know what risks there are to be aware of, so you can practice in at least in a RACK mindset.

If you will be attending and have any specific questions that you’d like answered privately ahead of time or you’d like covered as part of the class without having to ask publicly, feel free to ask ahead of time via e-mail or any of our social media handles (see below).

Practice Lab  

After the class is done, we will open the floor to allow attendees to freely practice. This is also a time for socializing, we just ask that you do so away from those taking the opportunity to practice for themselves. This is the perfect time to have a mentored session so you can get feedback and advice, as well as just try out new things with people you can discuss the topic with right there with you, so we strongly recommend taking the opportunity to practice so you can go through some of what was taught. The best way to learn is often to just do the thing!

Vetting and RSVP Required

As this is at a private residence, all people must be vetted, and we will not publicly place the address, meaning you need to contact us. For either vetting or event address, please contact us at least 3 days before this class so we can respond accordingly.

Failure to contact us regarding vetting may bar you from being able to attend.  Failing to RSVP will prevent you from being sent the address or any other useful information. NOTE: if already vetted, RSVPing as Going to the event linked here FetLife is all you need!  RSVP as Going on the FetLife event page, and you’ll be PMed the address if you’re already vetted.  We will accept private RSVP via PM/e-mail, but request RSVPing on the FetLife event link if safely reasonable for you.

Contact Methods

To contact us, use any one of the options below:

We are working on adding a wider social media presence to allow for easier contact methods.  We are most immediately responsive on FetLife, but we will review each listed above prior to the event.

Use any of the above contact methods to ask any questions, as well!

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We recognize that not everyone will check social media all the time, and that various people will have different ways of keeping up with various events. In light of that, we will be announcing of events or similar in a variety of ways, one of which will be via e-mail list.

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Subscribing to the e-mail list is completely optional. All information and announcements sent to this e-mail list will also be provided via social media.

Note: If you already provided us your e-mail address for this mailing list, do not worry about filling out the form, and thank you for your support!

Date & Time: Sunday, October 20, 2019, 2:00 PM – 5:00 PM Location: private residence in Charlotte, NC: vetted RSVPs will be provided the address

Cost: $10 + snack food or drink to share; OR $10 + suggested $5 donation without shareable item

Dress code: vanilla to door, collars allowed inside, be comfortable

Discussion Summary Where can hypnosis fit in with other kinks, in scenes, in dynamics, etc.? The better question is “where can it not?” but let’s talk about some more concrete examples. This is intended as a roundtable discussion, so come with a willingness to brainstorm, build ideas up, and even better to come with your own to share. We will have a variety of topics/ideas to start the discussion, but the discussion will be shaped by you!

Practice Lab   After the main class, we’ll open the floor up to practicing giving/receiving simple hypnotic suggestions, as well as discussion of various possible suggestion ideas to potentially feed later practice!  Our initial suggestion examples will be non-sexual in nature to help everyone stay within their comfort zone, although you are free to start discussion on any new ideas that come to your mind while practicing, as long as you and your practice partner are both out of trance for the discussion (respectfully take care of each other first).  

For practice sessions like these, it’s a great idea to bring a partner with you that you’re okay practicing with.  You don’t have to participate in anything

you aren’t comfortable in, and for those without partners, we may do some brief partnering of people together, depending on attendance.

Brand New? No Problem!

We will have a summarized 101 discussion for anyone who shows up at 1:30pm. Note: this is intentionally half an hour before the event time listed, this is not a typo!

Vetting and RSVP Required

As this is at a private residence, all people must be vetted, and we will not publicly place the address, meaning you need to contact us for the address. For either vetting or event address, please contact us via any of the following methods at least 3 days before this workshop so we can respond accordingly (not all of them, we’re not insane, we swear):

Failure to contact us regarding vetting may bar you from being able to attend.  Failing to RSVP will prevent you from being sent the address or any other useful information. NOTE: if already vetted, RSVPing as Going to the event linked here FetLife is all you need!  RSVP as Going on the FetLife event page, and you’ll be PMed the address if you’re already vetted.

We are working on adding a wider social media presence to allow for easier contact methods.  We are most immediately responsive on FetLife, but we will review each listed above prior to the event.

Use any of the above contact methods to ask any questions, as well!