the reason none of us can ever leave tumblr is because we've already evolved to having this be our only suitable habitat. we're the devils hole pupfish of people.

me and my mutuals

Your fave is problematic: OC edition

Ask me about one of my OCs and I’ll list out why they’re problematic.

in all seriousness it's very alienating knowing theres Something Wrong With You. like seeing your mental illness come through in your behaviour and thought processes and knowing it's irrational and unhealthy, knowing other people are reading you as weird or stupid, and not being able to do anything about it is such a lonely experience

“Don’t you dare have fun without me.”

The way you change your immediate reactions to things is that you catch yourself having an uncharitable/bigoted/overly judgmental thought and you catch it and replace it and then you do that a hundred times a day for your whole life and eventually one day like five years later you realize that you think differently now and you’ll always be working on something but that’s how life goes and that’s fine.

Say you have a bad habit of thinking all other people are stupider than you and want to respect other people’s intelligence more.

So you start paying attention to your immediate first reactions to things. You notice that when other people around you are struggling with a math problem and ask you for help you default to seeing them as annoying and stupid.

Instead of chastising yourself for having that thought, interrogate it. Replace it. Think, why do I assume people with different strengths are dumber than I am? I need help sometimes too. I’m glad they’re comfortable enough with me to ask me for help. I’m glad I’ve got a reputation of being the math guy and can help people with that.

And the first time, perhaps the first few dozen times, it’ll feel disingenuous. The cynicism in your brain will fight it. But in time it’ll become as easy as breathing. First thought, replace thought.

And then one day you don’t need to replace that thought. That might be a month from now or twenty years from now. And it’s annoying to get there. But you do get there.

reblog to BOOP the person you reblogged from :3

So I just saw a post by a random personal blog that said “don’t follow me if we never even had a conversation before” and?????? Not to be rude but literally what the fuck??????????

I’ve had people (non-pornbots) try to strike conversation out of nowhere in my DMs recently, and now I’m wondering if they were doing that because they wanted to follow me and thought they needed to interact first. I feel compelled to say, just in case, that it’s totally okay to follow this blog (or my side blog, for that matter) even if we’ve never talked before.

Also, I’m legit confused. Is this how follow culture works right now? It was worded like it’s common sense but is that really a thing?

Saw a sharp increase in my follower count after posting this. The legitimacy of it is driving me nuts so I also feel the need to say that you can follow anyone on here regardless of whether you’ve interacted with them or not. People like the above mentioned blog are exceptions. Perhaps they themselves think they aren’t and therefore will act like they aren’t, but they are, trust me.

Just follow anyone you wanna follow. The worst thing that can happen is maybe getting soft-blocked by the other person, but if they do soft-block you, then they were never that worth following in the first place.

wow. really hope this isn't actually a norm taking hold with new users! this isn't facebook, you don't need to know people before following them

this is the '10 year mutuals you've never spoken to once' site

this may or may not be a fantasy writing exercise for me. please reblog

this may or may not be a fantasy writing exercise for me. please reblog

Hiei you dog

I don't want Shepard alive for the sake of the next mass effect protagonist. I want Shepard alive because they've earned retirement. Because their love interests have earned the right to love them without war.

Neil Banged out his tunes today, on a train you have the comfort and relaxation to bang out your own tunes

No

A Statistics Canada study in 2023 has found that Indigenous women in Canada are killed at a rate 6x higher than non-Indigenous women, and yet police charged 1st degree murder half as often, typically recommending manslaughter or 2nd degree.

Non-exhaustive estimates have suggested that over 4,000 indigenous women and girls (along with 600 men and boys) in Canada have gone missing between 1956 and 2016.

Further reading under the Read More:

I’m gnashing my teeth like a child of Cain

If this is a prison I’m willing to bite my own chain

A voice calls to me…It says, “Search for Paradise.” 🌙

Inktober Day 7 - “Exhausted”