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snaxle

btw if a trans man decides that they want to get pregnant and you're not normal about this and start spewing a bunch of transphobic shit i show up at your house and beat you to death with a baseball bat

this has been bothering me for awhile now but few weeks ago i saw a tweet that was from a supposed ally that said some shit like "if you wanna be treated like a man then don't get pregnant" and it's like. whatever happened to letting people do whatever they want with their own bodies. im trans masc, i would like to have children when im older and will probably get pregnant in the future. i will still consider myself a man. if your support for people like me ends if we so much as even do Anything you consider Too Womanly and not man enough, then you're a fucking cunt

it's always "support trans men!" until they do something you personally dont like, and then you're standing side by side with conservatives who would rather see us dead than let us live our lives happily.

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teaboot

You know being transmasc after a life of growing up as the sole "girl" in male-dominated areas gives you a weird and complicated relationship with gender identity.

Like... being told straight to your face, "you're naturally bad at this cause you're a girl", "you're naturally weaker cause you're a girl", "you can act tough but you'll always just be a girl", "stop acting like you can keep up with the men", and even the well-intentioned, "Yeah women are like that, but you don't count, you're basically one of the boys"...

It leads you to this weird space where it's like. "Fuck you, women kick ass," and then busting yourself up to prove that you, a woman, *can* keep up, and not only keep up but do it better than anyone else, and taking pride in your femininity because it's not a fucking weakness, but at the same time knowing that... You're not a woman.

You're not a woman. You're not a girl. People just see tits and curves and decide that nature made you delicate, and then all of a sudden it's your responsibility to prove that you're not fucking weak, women aren't weak, while also saying, "I'm not a woman, though."

It's... bizarre.

I'm not a girl. But so long as I'm interpreted as one, I'm still gonna be held back by the same stereotypes. But if I ever stop being interpreted as one, then all the hard fucking work I put in to excel in my field is going to go down the toilet as "just something you can do because you're a man".

And fuck that. That's stupid, too. Guys shouldn't have their effort taken for granted like that, and it stings extra hard because you remember people just naturally assuming you suck and earning respect only to lose it immediately the second you step over to the "man" side. Because you've worked your whole life for something that as a man you'd just be expected to have naturally.

You SEE that shit staring you in the face, and worst of all people still walk around you in plain view and still talk about how women can't do shit and conveniently forget that you've BEEN ONE. "Because you were a man all along" or "because you overcompensate to prove yourself", whatever they think of to justify the cognitive dissonance that keeps their narrative going.

Nobody seems to consider that I'm not really different from women OR men, because those differences don't exist.

I'm not "naturally better" than women because I don't identify as one, and I'm not "worse than" men because I wasn't assigned the title by a third party. I'm just a person. We're all just people.

I'm just tired, man.

It's like you need a t-shirt printed out to say "Not masculine because feminine is shameful, but masculine because masculine is comfortable"

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Isabel Allende, The House of The Spirits // Anne Carson, Red Doc> // F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Short Stories // Ocean Vuong, On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous // 肉包不吃肉, The Husky and His White Cat Shizun // Bernhard Schlink, The Reader (trans. Carol Brown Janeway) // Heart Like Yours— Willamette Stone
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Some of y'all take "do stuff, it'll improve your health" as ableist because you've been stuck in a pattern of self harming behaviours so long that you consider your mental illness to be what defines you completely, and you see anyone attempting to help you with mental illness as someone attacking you. It's not healthy, you need a change of mindset and attitude, smell some flowers, get some rest, bake a cake, get a hobby or brush your teeth. Just find anything that isn't unhealthy that you enjoy doing. It will help, I swear.

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WHILE MY FRIENDS WERE GETTIN’ HIGH AND CHASIN’ GIRLS DOWN PARKWAY LINES I WAS LOSIN’ MY MIND BECAUSE THELOVETHELOVETHELOVETHELOVETHELOVE THAT I GAVE…WASTED ON A NICE FACE. IN A BLAZE OF FEAR I PUT A HELMET ON A HELMET COUNTIN’ SECONDS THROUGH THE NIGHT AND GOT CARRIED AWAYYYY, SO NOW I’M STANDING ON THE OVERPASS SCREAMING AT THE CARS HEYYYY! I! WANNA!! GET!!! BETTER!!!!

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orteil42

english flower names are so evocative. snapdragon. wolfsbane. even as loanwords they're still pretty; dandelion traces back to old french for "lion's tooth". meanwhile the actual french word for dandelion means piss-the-bed

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i must not get takeout. takeout is the wallet-killer. takeout is the little-death that brings total obliteration. i will face the kitchen, fridge, and pantry. i will make choices about what to cook and then execute them. when hunger is gone there will be nothing. only i will remain.

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