me: i love tony!

tony antis: that is…Incorrect! don’t you know that tony stark is the true villai-

me:

tony

I feel like Tony’s ego is the most legendary cryptid in the MCU

Because I heard reports of it for years. The images of it are usually blurred and easily dismissed as something else to anyone with a pair of eyes and it has yet to actually be proven to factually exist.

I think a lot of people believe Tony is arrogant because of his flippant attitude and tongue-in-cheek blustering, but many of his actions (which speak louder than words) demonstrate a remarkable lack of ego.

I mean, time and time again, Tony tries to be a team player, listens to others, and exhibits self-deprecating behavior. When he was dying in Iron Man 2, he went on a destructive binge to force everyone who loved him away so they wouldn’t care when he was gone. I mean… !??!?!? Like, ego? Where!? 

Iron Man is more than a suit of armor. It’s a metaphor for who Tony Stark is as a person: cold and hard on the outside, but warm and soft on the inside. He uses his arrogance as a shield to protect himself–to deceive people into thinking he’s not as vulnerable as he really is. 

It reminds me of this quote: 

It boggles me when that’s lost on some. Like, yeah, Tony’s a messy character, and he’s certainly a hard pill to swallow because he can be downright acrimonious, but he feels so deeply. He’s easily wounded. He’s one of the most emotionally-driven superheroes. That’s why everything he’s done has taken such a toll on him. It’s why he suffers from post-traumatic stress disorder. It’s why he has anxiety attacks. He wants so badly to do good and save the people he loves – even at the cost of his own sanity and comfort. Every time he fails, it destroys more and more of what little self-worth he has.

What kind of selfish egoist does that? 

THIS!! people always mistook tony’s sass as arrogance

im glad this post exist to clear that up

I feel this more and more the more I watch Tony’s character and notice his motivations and actions.

Oh good god it's gotten worse

Okay, so I just saw a tiktok saying "hey, ao3 is not tiktok. Do not censor words, especially in the tags." I stg people are losing brain cells. The tiktoker then proceeded to show an example of the tag they saw which was:

"s..cidal ideation"

I don't know who needs to, once again, hear this, but you are stopping the tagging system, and filtration system from working.

People censor words on platforms like tiktok to stop the algorithm from picking up their video and automatically taking it down or restricting it.

A tagging system works so that other people can easily filter the content they do and don't want to see. So if some had "suicidal ideation" in their filtered tags so that they won't see things containing that subject matter, by censoring the word suicidal, you have now stopped the tagging/filtration system from working and now the individual is going to see content that they had made sure to filter out.

Please stop censoring words and/or phrases. Especially in tags. You are literally stopping the system from working and doing its job. Ao3 (and Tumblr) is not tiktok. The tags are there for a reason. Don't censor them.

Irondad + Time Travel Masterlist

Like You'd Know How It Works (42k) by @mshermia

Other fic writers who’ve written multichaps, if you’re like me, you had no idea just how rare your work is. I had no idea that LT at 187k was one of 0.4% of the archive.

How many AO3 fanworks are novel length or longer? from toastystats:

@hella1975 how does it feel to part of that 0.08%

@mshermia ‘If they all Knew…’ almost as long as War and Peace…!

Hmm... 40K short 🤔🤔

Ukrainian Eurovision commentator broadcasting from a bunker

Imagine trying to explain this to someone who doesn’t live in Europe.

Yet another writing ask

@mshermia 7 and 36

@niniblack 39 and 40!

Yay, thank you for the tag! I haven't done one of these in a long time!

7) Favorite AO3 tag:

That is a good question... I have recently been reading a bit more again instead of writing. For some reason my mind is incapable of doing both at the same time 😅😅

I'd say reading, it's the good old Bio!Son tag (Peter Parker is Tony Stark's Biological Child). I love those stories, it's why I started writing If The Knew in the first place, cause I was craving more of that at a time when there wasn't an abundance of it 😇

8) How do you come up with fic titles? What's the one you're most proud of?

Usually a mix of either song titles or an important line of the story. Not sure I'm particularily good at it (especially since I keep asking @spagbol99 & @tufteatsunglasses for help on those) 😅

I do love alliterations in my titles, which is why Out Of Options is one that I like most. I alsk use a lot of alliterations in my chapter titles!

PSA for people that somehow forget:

1. When you go on AO3 there may be works you don’t like. You might click on a story after reading the summary and tags and think ‘huh this sounds good,’ but after reading the first part, it’s not what you expect. More so, you hate it. That’s okay. Stories aren’t for everyone. What is not okay is leaving negative comments and harassing authors for work they share for free. Let me repeat that. We do this for FREE.

If you don’t like a story, click off it. I don’t care how much you dislike it and how opinionated you feel. Click off it. Don’t like. Don’t read. And definitely do not comment. Us writers do not share our work for hate. We share it because we want others to enjoy our work and get a confidence boost in the form of kudos and comments. POSITIVE COMMENTS.

If this still baffles you, here’s some tips:

1. You can filter out tags you don’t like on AO3.

2. If you go on a work that you believe is incorrectly tagged, click off it. You might think it’s incorrectly tagged after 1 chapter of (?), but that is you jumping to conclusions.

3. Even if it is incorrectly tagged, click off it. It is never okay to leave hate.

Life is short. Be kind. Treat others how you’d like to be treated. Don’t be a dick.

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Highly hope OP doesnt reblog this because im too tired to fight, but i felt this to be a good pushing off point to talk about this

Theres people calling the violent and un-necessary and while yes i believe it was, it was one slap yall, and it didnt even leave a bruise

This is kind of ridiculous not going to lie. im not big on hitting people, but if you made a joke about my husbands illness, especially one hes expressed discomfort about, i would hit you too. that is not cool.

We saw a grown man hit another grown man. we saw a grown man stand up for his wife against another grown man who made in inappropriate joke. yall are acting like he pulled a knife out and stabbed him. He had a very human reaction. Ive been slapped before. There was no drama, she just didnt get a smore that day. ive slapped somebody before. we were seperated and that was that.

Its not like he goes around hitting people 24/7. i dont like using this term often, but some of yall really need to grow a pair. And dont even get me started on that racist ass punishment- he should face some repercussion but yeesh they needa wake up and smell the real world

You saw a grown man displaying toxic masculinity and excusing it by "love" live in front of a million people audience.

Any way you want to argue this away, like the joke was in bad taste or Chris Rock should have known about every audience members' medical history, is frankly cringeworthy.

He didn't have a "human" moment. I feel sorry for the people who think this is "normal" behaviour in today's society. I shudder to think what kind of people you all hang out with.

I wonder, do you also tell your girlfriends that when their husband or boyfriend hits them because they made a hurtful joke that they shouldn't act like it was a serious offence, like he didn't pull out a knife, did he? Or is hitting people only okay between men, cause they "can take it"?

Seriously. Sad.

You do have some good points but Chris Rock and Will Smith aren't dating- if Will Smith hit his wife on stage that would be a completely different issue because you're never supposed to hurt your partner, but it wasn't his wife on stage, It was Chris.

Yes, it was a bad action that Will Smith did in a spurt of anger but if someone said anything bad about my wife I don't think a slap would be the worst thing they've got coming and of course, it'd be wrong but he loves his wife just as much as I love my own so I do understand where he's coming from.

I don't think it's toxic masculinity at all (although fighting is more normalized between men so I do get where you're coming from), personally, I think it's a form of protecting his loved one. Again the protector role is what society frames as a 'man's job' but everyone is protective over someone they love so trying to say that this is just a form of toxic masculinity is avoiding the complex mixture of human emotions.

I'm not condoning violence in any way I simply just feel that there's a lot more than good/bad when it comes to this situation.

“I think it’s a form of protecting his loved one.“  Well, yeah, protecting his loved one by physically assaulting another man. The fact that this is a sterotype doesn’t mean it’s not toxic. Social standards can be tocix no matter how normalized they are. 

And when it comes to toxic masculinity, it doesn’t just include how men act towards women, it’s also about the behaviour that is “expected” of men so they can display themselves “manly”. That punching someone to “protect” a loved one means they are “strong”. That is in fact the toxic part. That man are expected to act a certain way to be masculine which is of course ridiculous because it puts forward a radical narrow stereotyp of what is masculine when - like you say - there is a lot more compleyxity to it.

Yes, emotions are complex too. But like I said before, no man I know has had to display his complex emotions by assaulting someone else. Honestly, I’d find it insulting for men that people seem to think that they are incapable to control their own behaviour and asking them not act out agressively is just too much to ask. 

Isn’t that the same excuse they use when women get raped because they wore a short skirt? That you can’t expect men not to react when they see some skin?

It’s just not acceptable behaviour, no matter how you look at it and I just think it’s sad to use the “boys will be boys” excuse for assaulting someone live on stage in front of a million people audience. 🤷🏻‍♀️

And honestly, I’m glad that there were consequences. Behaving like that should not be tolerated.

'And honestly, I’m glad that there were consequences. Behaving like that should not be tolerated.' -you

I can't be bothered fighting you and if I did I'd just copy and paste what iI said before but what I do need you to know is that the punishment wasn't fair.

Why do I say this you may ask? well it stems from the fact that non of the white actors who have been accused multiple times (and I mean some of these people have been accused by 5 or more people) of sexual assault - yeah they didn't just hit an asshole on live television (which was fun to watch) they sexually assaulted someone

and no actions were taken against them even with many of the people having evidence to support their claims.

It can't be a good fucking consequence if it's built upon racism

“no actions were taken against them”

First of all, not true. 

Second, you’re comparing behaviour that’s criminal and needs to be decided with the available evidence by a court with something that happened at the Academy’s own event on live TV for millions of people to see. 

Third, what’s the alternative? We never ask for consequences for unacceptable behavior because other people didn’t have to suffer consequences in the past? The board of the Academy changed. The code of conduct changed. You’re comparing apples and oranges. Like I have already pointed out in the original post: Yes, there was a lot of behaviour by rich assholes that have not had (sufficient) consequences in the past. Getting better means, not letting things slide anymore. 

If you think, that people would have been fine with Ryan Goslin getting up on stage and assaulting Ricky Gervais instead, I honestly don’t know what to tell you, because I just think that’s not true.

But you know what wouldn’t have happened? Will Smith wouldn’t have done this to Ricky Gervais. If anything, the one suffering from society’s racism here is Chris Rock, not Will Smith.

Will Smith has been blessed with ridiculous rich people privilege. Any “regular” person behaving like this would have been immediately escorted out of the building if not arrested. 

Ah yes comparing criminal behaviour to something that happened at the academy awards I do wonder who's done that before

btw the sexual assaulters are still allowed to attend the academy awards and even win awards- so yeah I do want them to start handing out punishments but I think they should have started with the criminals instead of a guy who lightly tapped someone on the face.

Also, Ricky Gervais is an asshole I never thought I'd support Ryan Goslin in anything but here we are- I would thank the dude if he hit Ricky Gervais

And also he's white so...yeah probably would have been sued (again Ricky Gervais is a dick) but the academy would have looked at him and went- 'yeah that's fine come back next year' or some other stupid shit that they always do.

Of course any non-rich person would get kicked out THAT'S WHY WE SAY EAT THE RICH! and also why watching rich people fight is 20x funnier then the watching the everyday working-class person fight

Dude. You seem to have lost the thread on this.

If you think what you saw is someone "lightly tap someone else's face" I shudder to think what kind of aggression you have normalized for yourself.

We seem to agree that we both would have liked it if people who have displayed criminal behaviour in the past would have suffered consequences for it but you seem to be confused as to why it's different when this behaviour was displayed live on stage in front of a million people audience at an Academy event or, you know, not.

Where we're at an impass is, that you seem to want for that pattern of "no consequences for rich assholes" to continue into the future while I like that somene who assaulted someone else live on stage should experiences the consequences of their actions.

Seems like our moral codes will not align on this.

Don’t respond to this I can’t be bothered with this anymore let’s go with the moral code thing but let’s get one thing straight

I want all rich people to suffer in hell as we ravage through their homes and defeat the patriarchy- I don’t want rich people to exist because as long as they do our justice system will be flawed and malleable

That’s why I like to say ‘eat the rich’ instead of throwing them in jail where they can make bail 1000x over and higher a sketchy lawyer to make it all go away

We’re all against the rich here we just have different views

(Also yeah I went to a British secondary school so aggression is majorly part of my childhood- although it was also the same in my American middle and high school so I guess blame the school systems)

I just love the energy of someone saying "don't respond to this, I can't be bothered with it" and then they proceed to write several paragraphs.

Just big LOL.

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