The Fangirl Life

@fangirllifebook-blog / fangirllifebook-blog.tumblr.com

It's Kathleen! I'm author of the book The Fangirl Life, published by Penguin in 2016! I also run the advice blog FangirlTherapy.com. I'm here for lady BAMFs, middle-aged OTPs, and hairporn.
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Secret Jetsetter

Jennifer writes,
Came across this book and site recently and have a fangirl question. I wouldn’t say I’m an obsessive fan, but when I fan over something I love it intensely and deeply and blog about it all day. When they’re celebrities and there’s a fan meet, I feel a real need to meet them. For the last 3 years, about once a year, I’ve been buying tickets overseas to attend fan meets in secret…
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Be My Friend

Jolie writes,
Hey Kathleen!
I want to start by letting you know that I’m really happy about The Fangirl Life. Recently I’ve been uncovering my creative side outside of my obsessions so I feel like your book would be a huge help to me. Unfortunately right now I’m going on holiday overseas really soon and I’ve gotta save, but I will definitely get onto buying ASAP :)
Now, here’s the thing – I’m…
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Misogyny in Fandom

Julia writes,
I can’t deal with (internalized) misogyny in fandom anymore. I’m so tired of fandom making everything about dudes. I pretty much exclusively watch shows with a female point of view and several amazing, well-written, complex female characters, but somehow the fandoms of these shows are still all about the male characters. It’s so frustrating that after episodes full of great…
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Clintasha Troubles

A reader writes,
I am in the Marvel fandom. Arguably two of the biggest ships in the MCU fandom (or at least the Avengers) are Clintasha (Black Widow X Hawkeye) and Stucky (Steve X Bucky). While I ship Stucky HARD, I don’t ship Clintasha. In fact, it’s my NOTP.
It’s gotten to the point where I can’t watch a Marvel movie without getting annoyed at all the subtext Clintasha shippers could…
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Finally collecting data for my dissertation! See info/link below, and feel free to pass the link along to your friends! Help me graduate! 

Want to participate in a research survey about cell phone use and dependence? Your participation will require approximately 20 minutes and is completed online. Benefits may include gaining more insight into how and when you think about and use your cell phone.

To participate in this study you must:

1) Be 18 years of age or older 2) Own a cell phone 3) Read and understand English

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She's the Worst

Erica writes,
Do you ever feel like you’re not sure if you hate a character or not? Because there used to be a character I liked when I watched a certain popular movie. Like, I thought she was all badass and cool and stuff. But then I saw people online calling her a Mary Sue and since I’m an aspiring writer, I thought, ‘Why on Earth would I love a character who’s so poorly written?’
So I started…
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Finally collecting data for my dissertation! See info/link below, and feel free to pass the link along to your friends! Help me graduate! 

Want to participate in a research survey about cell phone use and dependence? Your participation will require approximately 20 minutes and is completed online. Benefits may include gaining more insight into how and when you think about and use your cell phone.

To participate in this study you must:

1) Be 18 years of age or older 2) Own a cell phone 3) Read and understand English

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Done With Dude

Sophie writes,
Hi Kathleen!
I’m currently going through some MAJOR fangirl problems…. For the past seven years I’ve been a seriously dedicated fangirl to a certain celebrity. I was there from the start of his career, through his world tours, when he went to jail, when he went on break, all the way up until now – the comeback era. I’ve seen him a total of seven times live, I’ve run fan accounts…
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Am I Done Fangirling?

Michelle writes,
I’ve been finding myself not as into my usual obsessions lately.  My IRL collections are starting to bug me because they take up space, I’m not as passionate about things as I used to be, and I’m not really enjoying myself anymore when I hang out with my friends (I’m actually been getting annoyed because all they talk about are their fandoms).
I used to be hardcore about my…
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My Code

So I’m in the middle of reading a fabulous book called The Fangirl Life by Kathleen Smith, a must read for anyone who is interested in the intricacies of fandom and the effects it can have on real life. In it, Smith suggests that we use common characteristics from our favorite lady loves to develop a personal code for ourselves. I thought that I would share mine.

THIS IS SO COOL! What a great code. 

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My friends all know that I obsess over things easily. That I will travel hundreds of miles to see my favorite bands, watch episodes of shows over and over, and spend hours on the internet just looking at gifs of my favorite actors. What they (well, most of them) don’t know is what it’s truly like to be a Fangirl. This book was more than I ever could have hoped for. I couldn’t have read it at a better time, either. Thanks so much for putting this out into the world @fangirllifebook!! #fangirltherapy #fangirllifebook #fangirlalmighty (at New York, New York)

THANK YOU! 

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The best fictional relationships on television, the Ben Wyatts and Leslie Knopes, happen when people can be vulnerable without sacrificing by their uniqueness. When people are committed to working on themselves as much as their partner is committed to loving them.

Kathleen Smith, The Fangirl Life (via erinwert)

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Fangirl vs. Studygirl

  Elise writes,
Hello there, I’ve been fangirling for awhile now, and recently I miraculously somehow managed to get into a school that has high standards for grades.  I’m actually worried that my fangirling will get in the way of my studies ( I do not want to get kicked out), but I also do not want to give up my fangirling. What do you think I should do? 
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