c'mon delusions of grandeur do your thing

Sometimes I think empathy makes people more selfish in prioritizing their own comfort, but then I worry that's an unkind thing to think about people who are having problems regulating emotions they can't control. Functionally, though, empathy seems to give people their own feelings about someone else's situation and that doesn't seem ideal for centering the person who has actually been harmed.

This reminds me of a quote by Devon Price:

And sometimes the simulation is good but other times, a person's own feelings get in the way of addressing the actual situation at hand.

“One of your alters doesn’t like me!”

My dude some of my alters don’t like ME. You ain’t special.

Uh oh! Wrong move! This narcs highs come from conflict, and you have made a great misstep

you ever feel like you were born with something rotten inside you and if people get close enough they’re gonna find out

Pro tip: if you know a narcissist who tends to oscillate between “I’m upset, why the hell isn’t everyone rushing to my side?” and “I don’t want to talk to you, I’m upset” a good solution to this is to talk to us, but as if we’re not upset.

Ignoring us while in a fragile state is narc language for “look how much fun I’m having while you’re busy crying. Look at me being so not concerned about you at all. You don’t even affect your surroundings, because if you did the world would stop until you felt better, but you’re basically nothing and everything is moving on without you.”

Trying to help or comfort us is narc language for “I think I understand what’s going on better than you do, and I’m making it your problem. My advice is to stop being upset immediately and do whatever I think you should. I’m now going to explain things you already know about the situation as if you’ve never known a damn thing in your life.”

So please for the love of god, just come over and talk to us like you wanna hang out. Don’t ignore us. Don’t attempt to solve or even acknowledge our emotions. Just say hi and ask if we want to hear a song or something. Make a joke or a compliment. Talk to us like everything’s going normally, and we’ll more than likely start to go along until we feel fine.

Nine times out of ten, what we actually need is just some basic company and supply.

Hey, you! You who suspect you might have PTSD, DID or another trauma disorder, but you think you didn't experience trauma "bad enough" to have developed a mental disorder from it? Let me suggest looking at it differently:

"If there's smoke, there's fire"

Do you experience symptoms of PTSD, such as hypervigilance, trouble sleeping, flashbacks, memory problems, dissociation, ect? Then yes, it was "bad enough". Maybe you don't remember anything "really bad" happening or you don't "feel like" it affects you, but listen to your body. The body remembers and the body doesn't care if you think it is "stupid" or "weak" to have a panic attack when someone touches you or that you still have nightmares about that thing you saw when you were 4 years old

Trauma isn't what happened. Trauma is the reaction to what happened. So what I'm trying to say is that if the reason you think you can't have PTSD/DID/OSDD/ect is because you didn't go through anything horrific enough for that, then maybe forget about what happened to you for a moment and just look at the evidence your body and mind are showing. And then, most importantly, be compassionate with yourself. You're going through a lot and it's gonna be okay in the end. Take it easy, okay? <3

"I wouldn't wish that upon my worst enemy" well I fucking would

"my blog is a safe space for people with bad disorders" ok well mine isn't. stay the fuck away from me Empathetic Personality Disorder havers.

they hate me for my narcissistic traits that they would love me for if i was a fictional character

totally forgot to post this

what if I decide to let the joy slowly creep into my life the same way dread does…… what then