if you dont like fat and hairy people i cant help you

My FFS surgeon, Sarah Saxon in Austin, Texas, who is not legally allowed to block patients' phone numbers, blocked my phone number because I had post-surgical complications as a result of her giving me a surgery I didn't even consent to in the first place.

I've already reported her to the Texas state medical board & they basically told me to go fuck myself so the next best thing is to tell as many trans people as possible what she did to me.

If you're a trans person from Texas, avoid her at all costs.

via Reddit:

In 2022, I had FFS with Sarah Saxon. I did not consent to a reduction rhinoplasty, but she gave one to me against my will anyway. I am now experiencing complications that I've been told will only get worse and more visible with time. I have repeatedly asked for her to send me my records (which I need to sue her, along with the recording of our Zoom meeting where I explicitly tell her I do not want the surgery she performed on me) but she has refused to give them to me for almost 2 years, presumably so the statute of limitations will run out and I can no longer sue her.

It's also against Texas state law to refuse to release someone's medical records.

I have reported her to the state medical board for these three violations, but she's still licensed as of now so I wanted to warn people not to trust her. If she makes a grave mistake like she did with me, you will be left out in the cold.

FAT MUTUALS: Keep up the great work 👍

I really appreciate the body neutrality posts that people make about how “even if you can’t love the way your body looks, appreciate the things your body does for you”. And sometimes there are examples. It’s a really great message.

I just want to take a minute to shoutout to my fellow disabled people who feel trapped in their body, or who may feel their body lets them down. Maybe sometimes you’re angry at your body or resent it for the things you can’t do. Maybe sometimes these posts remind you of these things and I just want you to know that you’re valid. Your feelings are valid.

You aren’t failing if body neutrality doesn’t work for you. I know it’s often said to be a good alternative if body positivity isn’t for you but you aren’t failing if you can’t get there.

I just want you to know that your worth doesn’t change, regardless of what your body can and can’t do. You are always worthy.

about to say something mean but i feel like every "male-specific" issue is something that also happens to women its just that a lot of you dont seem to see women as people

women are also feeling lonely and alienated from communities en masse women are also expected to stifle their mental health for the sake of perfomance at work, in relationships, for children ect women are also expected to work extremely hard to maintain a perfect body and perfect health and are punished for being fat/having hair loss/having health issues especially those that affect ones sex life women are also insecure women are also neglected by parents and teachers and authority figures women are also scrutinized for having emotions and punished for not meeting the gendered expectations of our class and expected to climb upwards and overcompensate while being punished for signs of poverty and we get the added bonus on top of, yknow, being women. your emotional issues are not a Crisis Attacking Manhood theyre the way our society is fucking built you just dont see women as people

i think a lot of white queer/trans people need to hear that "breaking gender norms" isnt just wearing a dress while masc or dying your hair. its also unlearning the beauty standards that impose ideals of white beauty and attractiveness on non-white folks. yes you have a nose ring but i just heard you tell your black friend with meticulously cared for natural hair "you'd just look so nice with straight hair is all im saying..." why does your blog fetishizing i mean uh. appreciating trans women only feature skinny white women who pass. when societal gender norms are so inextricably tied to whiteness and emulating whiteness it is not enough to simply change your aesthetic. you need to defy the gender norms in your own head too.

i think a lot of people in their 20s or younger who think it’s too late to transition or start hrt would benefit enormously from taking a long hard look at their internalized transphobia.

yes, you may have gone through puberty already and need to do more work to achieve your goals than someone who got on puberty blockers and started much earlier. and being afraid of never achieving your goals is a valid and incredibly normal fear.

but transition is so much more than just taking hrt and looking the way you want to. it’s about learning who you are and how you want to express yourself. it’s about unlearning shame and finding joy in the forbidden. it’s about the journey. a slow, painstaking, lifelong journey, filled with unexpected turns every step of the way. and it is infinitely more satisfying than living in fear of what may never come.

it is never too late to transition because it is never too late to start loving yourself.

If you’re able to ask the question “what if I have body dysmorphia?” in response to my claim that no one needs to or should call themselves fat in pejorative way when they are not in fact fat, then you’re already acknowledging that you don’t belong to the class of people who are fat and who experience all the attendant abuses and discrimination. You know, at least in this moment, that what you have is a mental disorder, not a fat body. So I’m gonna go out on a limb and suggest that you practice saying “my body dysmorphia is really bad right now” instead of “I’m so fat.” You’ve already proven you can do it—the question is whether you care enough about other people to stop saying that their bodies are your living nightmare

Beth Ditto for ES Magazine, Feb 2024 📸: Tim Walker

very upsetting that as a society thighs and tummies have been demonized. like they are literally just body parts and if they’re a little rounder it’s no big deal. beauty standards = pure embodiment of evil in this world

the people rbing this like tummy’s and thighs are cute and squishy uwu that’s not the point of this post like. i’m saying i want body neutrality…i wish having a tummy and having round thighs was neutral…. like don’t tell me you want to squish my tummy bc it’s sooo cute. that makes me feel like an animal in a petting zoo. i wish we as a society could treat bodies that aren’t model-thin as normal and deserving of respect