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Meg, 25, She/Her. Self Care//Info Blog. LGBTQIA positive. Ask is always open.
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your name written here in a rose tattoo

His hair was in need of a cut, sprawling wildly with the same fire that had entranced her a lifetime ago. The boyhood stubble that had plagued him with patches, now grown to an evenly trimmed beard. His shoulders had broadened, arms and chest sturdier. And his eyes, eyes as blue as the sea he had fled into, were clouded with grief and the drink.
She held back the urge to cry.
“You’re here?” Robb asked breathlessly. Margaery scowled.
“Of all the pubs to wash up in, you came to the one under my patronage.”
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khangi

With a lot of luck this month, I’m only a little behind on rent this month. I only recently got back to work, and am trying to put everything together.

Rent is due 1/3. Any help is deeply appreciated.

Venmo: KajiW

CashApp: $kajiw

250/$450

Over halfway there!!

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peerieweirdo

the transition in the past two decades from family sitcoms and ‘friends all living together’ sitcoms to workplace comedies signifies a larger shift in how work dominates our lives and leaves no space for traditional family or community raising in this essay i will

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25 things I learned by 25

1. A bad boss can be as devastating to your self esteem as a bad boyfriend.  Do not place your entire self worth in the hands of a flawed manager; there is someone else out there more ready to mentor you. 2. Sometimes you don’t finish a to-do list, keep it anyway.  In a few weeks, you may see that difficult task and be able to cross it off with a smile. 3. If you’re still living with your parents, you may need to reframe some of their drama as if it were coming from roommates your own age.  That is okay. 4. Keep the expired coupons; what’s the harm in trying? 5. Overeating happens sometimes, so does under-eating.  Be mindful, but do not beat yourself up over it. 6. Keep every business card you ever receive.  If you need a job and someone can remember your face, they are more likely to invite you in for an interview. 7. Have one cashmere sweater. 8. Invest in whatever bags you use for work, going out, and the gym.  Gradually stock them with necessities like chapstick or tissues.   9.  Try to keep a pen and a hair tie on you at all times. 10. Life is short; buy the coffee. 11.  Pull anyway once in a while, even if the last straw was something inconsequential, it’s okay. 12.  Get a good water bottle, keep it on your nightstand. 13.  Put your feet up as much as you can. 14.  Find balance between striving to save the world and taking care of yourself. 15.  Say thank you for the smallest favors people do for you.   16.  Don’t hunch over and ruin your neck. 17.  There will still be bad days, but they’ll feel a little lighter than they did before, and sometimes they’ll feel heavier. You can manage it.   18.  Nothing will happen for four months and then everything will happen in two weeks.  Ride the wave and do not be afraid, you were born for the tides.   19.  A clean space and good music do wonders for the soul. 20.  Take a deep breath and expand your mindset beyond the current chaos; there is a wide wide world out there. 21.  Some people are only meant to be with us for certain chapters of our lives. 22.  Work up a routine for taking care of your face, lips, and nails; consistency is more effective than expensive immediate remedies. 23.  Cook your favorite foods, and cook through trial and error.  Practice makes perfect. 24.  No scholastic knowledge can ever be equal to the wisdom that comes through lived experience. 25.  Mistakes can be painful, but they are not a death sentence.

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robotlyra

Don’t confuse my hatred of the hyperwealthy for jealousy over what they have. I don’t want a six figure sports car, or a 40 room mansion, or a gold leaf truffle wagyu steak dinner. I want redistribution of wealth that allows for infrastructural support of all citizens’ basic survival needs.

while i completely agree with this statement, i feel like there’s this disconnect between the common man’s desire to experience what life has to offer and the hyperwealthy’s desire to exploit the masses in order to hoard resources to the active detriment of others.

i want to experience driving a fancy sports car down a big open road, the top down and the wind blowing in my hair. i don’t want a garage of 20 sports cars that i never touch.

i want a nice, comfortable, tastefully decorated house that’s big enough for me, my family, my pets, my hobbies, and any friends i might want to invite over. i don’t want a megmansion with more space than i could ever possibly use, that i only own because i want my house to be bigger than someone else’s house.

i want to experience eating the best steak dinner that the culinary world can offer. i don’t want to eat gold, which has literally no flavor, just because i can.

i want to travel to different cities around the world, see beautiful places, experience different cultures, and meet interesting people. i don’t want to buy up swathes of land and push natives out so i can build my twelfth house in hawaii or greece or somewhere else i’ll barely ever visit.

i want to dress in nice, well-made clothes that represent my style and make me feel good about myself. i don’t want to carry a thirty thousand dollar handbag or rolex watch just because it costs thirty thousand dollars.

i want to be able to give my friends gifts, i want to be able to invest in causes that i believe in, i want to be able to buy myself things like books, art, electronics, theater tickets, and nice food without having to worry about how much it costs. i don’t want to buy elections or shoot myself into space.

the average person’s concept of luxury is so far removed from the hyperwealthy’s everyday life that the distance cannot even be measured in ways that we can comprehend.

so while of course it’s more important that we work towards everyone’s basic needs being met rather than achieving luxury for ourselves, you, an ordinary person, shouldn’t feel guilty just for wanting to experience exciting and comfortable things. life should not be unyielding drudgery.

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2022

I hope you have an opportunity in 2022 to learn who you actually are.

A moment or opportunity when you have actual power.

And in the cascade of decisions you make, you realize, forever, maybe for the first time, who you actually are as a person.

And thus decide who to be next.

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One of the most important things I learned in my Language and the Law class is that law enforcement will intentionally misinterpret every type of statement asking for a lawyer as not asking for a lawyer. Even directly saying it like this “I will not speak to you without a lawyer” can be taken as a simple statement of fact rather than a request for a lawyer. You literally have to state “I am now invoking my right to a lawyer” and every time they try to proceed with an interrogation you have to answer every question with “I am invoking my right to have a lawyer present”. You can’t just tell them you won’t talk without a lawyer or that you want a lawyer. You have to state that you are invoking your rights. Otherwise they could just say “well they just said they wouldn’t speak without a lawyer present. That’s not invoking their rights to a lawyer. It’s just stating a fact.” even just stating your right to a lawyer doesn’t count!

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penrosesun

PLEASE share this addition. I am a lawyer who works in criminal defense, and this is one of the most avoidable things that people consistently get wrong about the Miranda rights.

Here are some more “ambiguous” phrases which courts have found DO NOT invoke your right to a lawyer:

“Maybe I should speak to my lawyer first.”

“I might like a lawyer.”

“I think I should have a lawyer present for this.”

“Could I speak to my lawyer first?”

“How long until my lawyer gets here?”

And perhaps most egregiously – “Get me a lawyer, dawg – ‘cause this is not what’s up.”

Here are the magic phrases which you need to know if you want to invoke your Miranda rights:

1) “Am I free to leave?”

It’s worth asking this even if the answer is obvious. Even if the officer does not let you leave, by forcing them to admit that you are not free to leave, you are creating a record which your attorney can use to prove that you were in custody. Miranda rights only apply if the interrogation is custodial, meaning that police officers will frequently claim that their suspects were “not in custody” to get around their Miranda rights.

2) “I am invoking my right to remain silent.”

Simply staying silent will not invoke your right to remain silent. As absurd as this is, you must explicitly say that you are invoking your right to remain silent in order to invoke that right.

3) “I am invoking my right to an attorney.”

As stated above, you must be not only clear and unambiguous, but clear and legally unambiguous. Don’t get cute. Don’t get sassy. And on the flip side, don’t get intimidated and use verbal ticks to minimize your request. Say the line with those words exactly – say it clearly, and say it once, and then say nothing else.

Because even after you’ve done all this, the police can still try to get you to talk. They’re not supposed to interrogate you, but they’re allowed to make casual conversation, and if that conversation just happens to circle back around to the thing they wanted to question you about, well, that’s really your fault for talking after you said you wouldn’t, isn’t it? Can’t possibly fault the poor officers when you initiated – if you really wanted to have your rights respected, you wouldn’t have talked to them in the first place.

The police know this, and they will mercilessly exploit this loophole. So, once you’ve successfully invoked your Miranda rights, any and all conversation you have with police officers will put those rights back into jeopardy. 

Putting it all together:

Ask: “Am I free to leave?”

If they say no, say: “I am invoking my right to remain silent and I am invoking my right to an attorney.”

And then shut up and do not say a single thing to them for any reason whatsoever until you have actually spoken to an attorney. Yes, even if it takes hours. Yes, even if they start talking to you about something else.

Finally, a very important disclaimer:

I may be a lawyer, but I’m not your lawyer, and I cannot guarantee that what I’ve just laid out here will always work for every situation. We didn’t get to this bizarre and absurd place overnight – we built this ridiculous system piecemeal, by deciding on a case-by-case basis that certain phrases were “too ambiguous” or certain types of questioning weren’t actually questioning at all. The law is still in flux, and is still fundamentally out to get you, and willing to bend plain meaning beyond all recognition to do it. Even if you invoke your rights perfectly, exactly as I have specified above, there’s a chance that your invocation of rights will be disqualified on some new technicality that no one’s even thought of yet – and that’s precisely the problem.

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lemonsharks

Watch this video: “Don’t Talk To The Police”

I am begging my followers to please watch this video from start to finish. I know it’s long, but it is incredibly valuable information that everyone needs to know, especially if you’re involved in any form of activism.

Every single cop lies. Every single cop lies and manipulates and twists the situation around to get a confession. Even when they know that the person is innocent, even when they know that what they have isn’t enough to convict someone, even when they know that that confession has been made under duress or manipulation. All they care about is getting anything to put someone behind bars.

It doesn’t matter how eloquent or innocent or experienced you are. Do not talk to cops.

I will forever reblog this. You should too!

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