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memeposting from Yuggera/Turbal Country. sovereignty was never ceded. | [header i.d.: a photo i took of bushland on Dharawal Country. end i.d.] [icon i.d.: a photo of a crow on an outdoor table with a beakful of fries, looking at the camera. end i.d.] | aromantic greysexual | white trans masc enby (they/them) | 30s | Autistic ADHDer | i regularly reblog multiple versions of posts | i'm afraid i can't commit to a tagging scheme, if that's a problem pls unfollow or block with my blessing!

A young boy on my train has entered into an adorable conversation with the man next to him. Imagine a very earnest young English boy about 8 years old, speaking to a 45 year old man in a puffer jacket next to him.

“So, um, where do you work? Microsoft Edge?”

“No - it’s a bit confusing, but I work at the British Library as a photographer.”

“OH! The British Library! Then you must be getting off at St Pancras station!”

“I photograph books, rather than people.”

“Well that’s good. I think you should leave the people, and catwalks, to some other people. Let them do it. And I DON’T UNDERSTAND why people like Taylor Swift.”

“Well, a lot of people like her music and think she’s very pretty.”

“Well I think her music video for 22 is [reminder: extremely enunciated English accent] a bit sus.”

“They downgraded Fortnite to 7+. There’s so much shooting! But no blood. So it’s 7+.”

“You know what’s confusing? I don’t like PE, but I do like gymnastics. I like flipping around.”

“Do you like football?”

“NEVER in my LIFE.”

Man: “It’s been nice talking to you, but this is my stop.”

“I know.”

“I hope you have a good day!”

Boy, dismissively: “Yes, well.”

I genuinely think there was no greater insight into the modern Christian mindset than when the Pope said he very much hoped Hell was empty and he was absolutely hounded by both Catholics and Protestants outraged at the idea of a man who wanted a place of infinite suffering to have nobody in it.

[ID: discord conversation that goes as follows:

[hebrew text I am unable to transcribe]: if you love nuance so much why don’t you marry it

alessa: well i have complex feelings about marriage as an institution

/end ID]

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(grabs you by the shoulders) you have to make room for new experiences in your life. you have to go through the unpleasant work of leaving your comfort zone, even if just for a few minutes at a time. because if you don't, your brain will trick you into stagnation. you will start to believe that the world can barely fit you in it. but that's not true. it's the opposite way around. you can fit the whole word inside of you. your task is only this: to welcome it with open arms

Love the tags!

ah lads not the stagnation i've been tricked again

I was going to put this in the tags but on the off chance someone with as many food restrictions as I have reads this, I wanted to give my 2 cents on how I help avoid the stagnation sometimes. Eating the same thing because you have to is very frustrating and there's not a whole lot you can do to work around it, which I've found has been a DRAIN on my mental health the last 2 years.

- This feels obvious but there may be different ways to combine the ingredients you can eat that flew over your head. Like I wasn't eating egg whites for a while because i got sick of them, but I'm eating sourdough bread on the regular and it took me like. A year and change to realize that I could make french toast just with those two ingredients

- I didn't try spices for a while because everything was causing a flare up and I didn't want to spend the time testing which ones were safe on something with no nutritional value. It's worth it though to try it if you're in a stagnation period just the slightly different flavor worked wonders for me. Same with things like jelly or whatnot.

- Change the way you're eating it. Sometimes I'll eat rice with my hands or rip into a fresh loaf of bread or use toast, or eat something hot or cold that i usually don't. Just changing the experience can make it less mundane

- If you're able to, drinks are a godsend to changing up your flavor palette. I can't do a whole lot because the sugar content is a problem but if that also is an issue for you, you can always dilute it with water in small amounts. It also helps with carbonation

Those are things that help for me, and if you are on a similar boat I wish you the best in getting back to a better diet!!

image description: tags via @twinliches

#i know we are all neurodivergent and executive disfunction and routine disruption is kicking our ass and it's hard. but you have to.
#and i dont even mean like. travel to another country i mean
#take the other bus home
#or buy a different tea brand
#YOUR BRAIN IS A MUSCLE EXERCISE IT.
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There's an open pit in the middle of our office plan that drops down into a bunch of very sharp spikes that kill you instantly. This is bad. People keep falling in there and dying. Someone put a sign up, the other day, all bright yellow so you can't miss it, that says "Beware!!! Spikes!!!"

The office immediately split into two factions over it. One says that if anyone falls in the spike pit it's their own fault for being so stupid and not watching where they're walking, so we should remove the sign. The other says that the sign is an insult, there shouldn't be a spike pit in our office at all, and having the sign up like that is just normalising the existence of the spike pit, so we should remove the sign.

We ended up removing the sign. Probably for the better. Still... for a while there it looked like it might have worked...

Nobody has ever been capable of writing a scathingly harsh and well formulated satire about the perils of modern capitalism, that doesn't just get immediately one-upped by some random food service worker talking about their actual week.

[ID: Tags by @carefulchaotic reading "this actually kinda happened to me when i was a teenager working at dunkin' donuts #a hole rotted into the floor between the register and milk dispenser and it lead to a 12ft concrete basement #the franchise owner just threw a floor mat down and called it a day #one of the baristas stepped on it during rush and one leg went all the way through and we had to pull her out #we then had a 'suprise' health inspection and i pulled the inspector aside to tell her about the hole #and she was like 'oh i know you are the fourth person to pull me aside since i walked in' #we thought they would close the store while the construction crew fixed it but nope we had to make coffee and work around the construction #and they had to make the hole bigger to fix it #so the was less than a foot of space on each side of it so we were always shuffling around the fucking chasm while being yelled at #bc we were being too slow (you know so we didn't fall to our deaths while dispensing the cream in your coffee) #sorry to rant it's just mind blowing that this isn't even satire to me #i had to worry about falling into the workplace pit for months" /End ID]

so strange to me that some people aren't bisexual

i can understand having strong preferences one way or another, but not experiencing even mild passing attraction or sexual curiosity in regards to the strange wide range of human gender? bitch im borderline asexual and even i get it

also women and men? basically the same thing??? there's so much overlap!!! u all look like relatively hairless ape-adjacent bipeds to me. i have to squint to see it

like, not even just a little bisexual? even just in your head, as a concept to play around with? out of mild curiosity? to amuse yourself on a rainy day?

loving the people in the notes with "I'm only attracted to one gender and honestly it confuses the heck out of me also." i think i get it now. arbitrary human condition is arbitrary. go kiss your lovers in the rain

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Us, arriving to Austria to a tiny family hotel owned by an elderly lady

Us: speak only limited German

Lady: barely speaks English

Us:

Lady:

Lady: Czech? Slovak?

Us: Czech

Lady, to herself: Czech, that's a Slavic language right

Lady: understand Yugoslavian?

Us:

Us: yeah that works

Shit like this can really only happen in Europe. Reminds me of the time I took my best shot at ordering at a restaurant in Spain in spanish. The closest language to spanish that I actually speak is latin.

Waiter: Germany?

Me: No, Czechia.

Waiter, in a heavily accented but intelligible Czech: Why didn’t you say so before! We get you guys here all the time!

Já v roce 2019 na Ukrajině: OK, takže když použiju tohle staročeský slovo, přidám polský sloveso, své chabé znalosti záhoráčtiny a řeknu to s ruskym přízvukem, tak to projde.

[Me in 2019 in Ukraine: ok so if i use this Old Czech word, add a Polish verb, my poor knowledge of the Záhorie dialect of Slovak and say it with a Russian accent, it might pass]

Reminds me of the time when we were in Poland and I tried to order a burger using a truly unholy mix of Slovak, Russian and Ostrava dialect (which in itself is like an unholy mix of Czech and Polish).

I did get the burger

[#my grandpa called this "Slavic Esperanto"]

I know Ukrainians who can do this on purpose and masterfully, and it was mind-blowing to hear a speech as immediately understandable to an audience of native speakers of three different native Slavic languages, not just two languages as is common

During one student exchange I (a Pole) got acquainted with two students from Czechia and Russia. At first we talked in English or German, but after a while we’ve noticed, that we could understand each other’s native languages just fine. And if some word was unknown in one language, another one had the right synonym.

*Each of us talking in their mother tongue*

Me: Bla bla bla.

Russian: I don’t know this “bla”.

Czech: Oh, we have “bla”! We also call it “that”!

Russian: Oh I know “that”! It’s a very old version of “this”.

Me: Oh, we have “this” too, but it means something slightly different.

German acquaintance: Was für nen Scheiß zieht ihr da ab? o_O

the reason there aren't slavic people in the bible is that they wouldn't have been surprised or awed to hear the disciples speak in tongues and be understood by people of many nations at once

Slavs walked away from the Tower of Babel mildly inconvenienced.

Okay, I'll add a couple of stories.

I am a kid. My parents and I are travelling on vacation. We are looking for a place to spend the night in a small town in Slovakia. Local people don't speak English. We quickly learn that "szukać" means something completely different in Slovak. After that, communication becomes easy.

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I am in high school. I've been asked to read a certain short story by a Russian author. I ask my mom if she has it on her bookshelf. She does, but only in Russian. i can't read cyrilic writing. Mom reads the story to me. I laugh at a couple of puns and get a decent grade on my report.

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I want to make a phonecall from a hotel in Slovakia. The receptionist says, in a very polite tone, something that, to me, a Polish speaker, sounds like "The telephones are fucked". She did get the point across, though. By this time I know that Polish, Czech and Slovak might not be completely mutually intelligible, but mutually funny is close enough.

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On another vacation we find ourselves at a community center in a small village in Slovenia. There are people from several countries present. A man speaks in the local language and I have only a vague idea of what he's saying. Suddenly something changes. The man's speech still sounds exactly the same to me, but now I understand almost everything. Apparently, he's switched to speaking Czech.

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I am travelling alone. I befriend an American at a hostel in Zagreb and we spend some time walking around the city together. My friend needs to buy something, but the shopkeeper doesn't know English. I say a few words, trying a bunch of synonyms, hoping to find one that works. The shopkeeper says a few words and hands us the thing we came for.

"I didn't know you spoke Croatian," says the American.

"I don't."

The next day I manage to buy a kilogram of pears at a market without the seller noticing I don't speak his language.

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I am at a conference in Japan. I'm the only Polish speaker in the building and not expecting to be spoken to in any language other than English. Suddenly I hear a voice behind me. It is not any language that I can speak, but somehow I understand it. It's giving me a headache. I turn around. Yep. It's the one Czech guy. Switching my brain to thinking in Polish helps.

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It's the spring of 2022. I am spending Easter at my parents' place. A group of Ukrainians have recently moved in next door. We knock on their door to wish them a happy Easter and they invite us in. We speak in an odd mixture of Polish, Russian and Ukrainian. i am only fluent in one of these languages, but one is enough. The new neighbors come from different parts of the country. Some of them came here to work, others escaped when the war broke out. Some prefer to speak Ukrainian, others speak Russian as a first language. Some are Catholic and others are Orthodox, so they're celebrating Easter twice this year. They invite us to another Easter breakfast next week. I bring a homemade cake.

The one thing men in the 1700s did right was have long hair they tie back into a low ponytail with a little ribbon and also have a few stray strands at the front. Almost everything else they did that century was inexcusable though

yesterday when working with my case manager, she went through a long checklist of my comprehensive needs to refresh our treatment plan. as a part of the questions she was asking me, she asked for various areas of my financial struggles, including if i was able to afford social activities such as hanging out with friends, going to the movies, etc. as part of my necessary purchases. the question was specifically phrased as "Do you have enough money every month to be able to afford social activities?"

this was not proposed as a "luxury". the question was not phrased as "Do you have enough money every month to afford luxuries/luxury purchases?" this was listed with the necessities like food, housing, medical needs, transportation, bills, and clothing. this made me burst into tears when i realized it was considered a necessary part of everyone's mental and well being. my case manager told me that not a singular person on this planet deserves to have to "earn" the right to socialize, interact with leisure activities, or to do things that bring you personal fulfillment. your money does not, and should not entirely go toward survival and practicality. it will ruin your mental health.

to any poor person who has ever been told that they don't "need" or "deserve" social or leisure activities or that your money "needs" to go 100% toward survival: they are straight up lying to you. it is a fundamental part of your mental health. don't fucking listen to them.

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its important to me that all y'all know that mannertee has an arch nemesis

his name is Ikanzame and he's a shark with bad driving etiquette!!

would y'all happen to know of any databases/collections of photos or art references of people with facial differences? maybe in the vein of FatPhotoRef (a website with self-submitted pose references with fat models)?

I'm a learning visual artist and I've found one of the best ways for me to hone some aspect of drawing is to do timed sketches from photo references. I'm going to focus on facial expression soonish and want to cover people with various facial differences as well as the typically non-facial-difference-having models on mainstream reference sites. Any resources would be appreciated--even just non-art-focused websites with lots of neutral/positive photos of people with facial differences that I can sketch!

Thanks for all the work you do!

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Hello!

The closest one to what you describe is probably Positive Exposure, which aims to photograph and portray all kinds of disabled people (not just visibly disabled) in a less medicalized/dehumanizing way. If you know which conditions cause facial differences then you can go through their albums and pick some of them out - there's a ton of them. The one I linked goes to their ichthyosis shoot.

Here are some other photo resources I do know of, but just be aware they might be underwhelming for what you're looking for;

These are video resources, obviously less convenient, but you can try screenshotting and redrawing a shot that you like;

Outside these you can always try looking for models/actors with facial differences. Some you can look up include Adam Pearson, Catrin Pugh, Austin Halls, Justin Stewart, Alison Midstokke, Loide Ndemueda, or Turia Pitt.

I hope this helps! Good luck drawing

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