y’all still beat your meat? lol

what do u beat

evildoers

the predatory lesbian trope is definitely heterosexual in origin so technically there is

youre absolutely right

*Still uses pinky promises as a legitimate foundation of trust*

Polyamorous peeps probably get the least support out of all the orientations. They need more.

getting over your hatred for pink is self-care

OP do you take constructive criticism?

No

Southern Comfort (2001)

A beautiful scene featuring transgender man Robert Eades and his transgender girlfriend Lola.

[TRANSCRIPT:

Robert: – and now she’s coming out, full blown… she is something else.

Lola: Oh, please, stop it.

Robert: What? I’m just telling her how wonderful you are, and how beautiful, and how organised, and…

Lola: Actually, you know, I really should put all of this on tape, you know? For when I’m not feeling so great.

Robert: Sweetheart, it is on tape. 

[BOTH LAUGH]

Robert: Just in the last couple of months now, it’s come on real strong, but she just really blushes! I can get her to blush all the way from head to toe. See? And she can’t deal with it! She’s never blushed like that before!

Lola: [SIGHS]

[BOTH LAUGH]

Robert: All my life, I’ve been looking for the perfect woman… and all this time, she’s been right there in front of me, and I didn’t even realise it, ‘cause I never thought I’d have a chance with her.

Lola: Why? You’re like… completely loveable.

Robert: To be loved by you, that’s… that’s…

Lola: I had no notion, to think that we would have this little fling.

Robert: That’s what I feel - we have this nice friendship, we can’t go out, we have fun together, we got no entanglements and stuff and then - bam! Just… all of a sudden, next thing I know, we’re in love with each other and we can’t stop it.

END TRANSCRIPT]

Thank you so much for providing a transcript, friend! Typing is quite difficult sometimes, so I appreciate it :3 The whole documentary is beautiful and heartbreaking, I really recommend it. 

I need to watch this

May the 10 of Pentacles bless your account with more money than you can spend. 💵✨

10 of Pentz came thruuu

Omg this actually works!!! Thank you 10 of Pentacles!!!

I could seriously use this money right now….

Please give me my refund of 400$ soon…

I feel obligated to reblog this every time it shows up in my dash

No bragging, just 100% floored and grateful. Work hard, maintain a positive attitude, and believe that anything can happen.

So I reblogged this exactly a week ago because I thought it was funny and uh lo and behold, a family friend wrote me a big ol’ check just to help me out of a tough financial spot AND my bank refunded me $32 for fees they’d originally taken out. SO UH YEAH. Reblogging this again in hopes that it brings equally good fortune to my followers.

Sure why not? Jobs bring in money and prosperity…

This will totally work like with every other money post I’ve seen!

The arguments against using queer are wrong.

So sure, Queer is a slur, Gay is a slur, Lesbian is a slur, newsflash, to the straight world WE are slurs. All our words are taken from the slurs they called us, our identities themselves are reclaimed.

So kids, go learn your own history.Don’t listen to people on the internet making arguments in bad faith. Don’t make assumptions about what is and isn’t ancient history, or what is or isn’t settled fact.

To the people who stomp their feet and demand queer never be used when ever given chance: if your argument against using queer is only that it was/is a slur, then you do not have an argument. If what you are trying to argue is instead that queer is too inclusive for your personal preference and that you would like to pick and choose who can be a member of “your” community, then please just say that.

“Did i only make mistakes… yes”

Sally sells #loud by the sea shore.

YOO SALLY’S SELLING WEED AT THE FUCKIN BEACH

Imagine thinking any American news agency is a reliable source of information

The Weather Channel

as though I would trust Big Meteorology

Thank you Tom Ford! Makeup has no gender

i love how this doesn’t even look wired. Often when there are pictures of men with lipstick it’s so unfitting. The colour, the light, the lips pop out in a way they shouldn’t and say “look I’m lipstick on a man” but here I did not even realize on the first sight WHO was wearing lipstick. I just saw nice colours. Then I saw people. 

Fuck yes this is so important.

I will always be 10000% here for dudes wearing makeup. Makeup is for everybody!

they actually look really good

Her tuition so damn high she can wear whatever tf she wants

Spite goals

There’s a better thing to her story. She CONTINUED her thesis in her underwear and afterward her professor said “what would your mother think wearing those kinds of clothes”

And she responded “my mother’s a feminist also a gender and sexuality studies professor. She’s fine with my shorts”

i think the best part is that a majority of the class also stripped with her in solidarity

Just to give a little more perspective after reading the story:

The sequence of events is a little jumbled in the telling above. The actual chastising from the teacher came days before the woman’s thesis, during a practice run of her presentation. This was not a spur-of-the-moment thing where she just whipped off her clothes for the sake of being angry. Chai took the time to think things through before deciding this was the way she wanted to protest. She used critical thinking and level-headedness to decide instead of becoming volatile and aggressive, she would choose non-violent protest. 

I just don’t like the way the story’s being told by others because it makes her come across as “overly-emotional” and “erratic” (as women often do in the media, because it’s easier to attribute extreme action to “hysteria”), whereas in actual news reports, she had time to think about her decision and choose the best way to handle what happened to her. 

Sources: 

God, the full narrative is so much more powerful honestly. There’s so many levels. And even hearing what supposedly happened from other people’s perspectives and that the professor is a woman, I’m still honestly disgusted by how the professor handled the situation.

As someone who has been tutored in how to dress professionally in a number of situations, some of which I’ve been told I need to dress conservatively (to the point of pantyhose were necessary), I have had a variety of experiences. Most of them were positive, where I was reinforced that ultimately I shouldn’t let others define what I as a woman was comfortable in.

I had one authority figure once criticize me on what I was wearing (post high school). The way she approached it didnt have to do with the male gaze, though I’ve gotten that critique from a number of sources in my life. However, it was still wholly inappropriate, as a simple “something else will do” would have been fine, but instead she laid into me about professionalism. Never mind that what I was wearing was based on what I wore daily and suggestions made by other people who while not as high up as her, still had authority to give me advice.

Giving advice on what women who are in a power structure below you should be handled carefully at all points. As someone training to be a professor, I find it abhorrent how this professor handled the situation, even from the perspective of the students who were defending her.

So, if you’re a teacher or a person in a position of power where it might be appropriate to guide women and men to understand what society may seem appropriate to wear for professional setting here are some tips:

1. You NEVER discuss an individual’s students outfit in front of the class. Give lectures on common rules or easy rules to follow to assure you meet the traditional standards of modesty. Discuss different cultures and being aware more or less modesty (as a woman) may be necessary. Reassert that you should feel free to use your dress as a test to weed out workplace environments you would not like if you have that ability. But always discuss these things impersonally.

If I was giving a lecture, I would explain first off that I do not condone these restrictions and that professional wear is arbitrary, made by conservative rich people who have the funds to buy the expensive well fitting professional wear. I would then go on to explain to my students what others might expect from them and to be cognizant that just because its dumb doesnt mean people wont deny them jobs. Sometimes when you need a paycheck, you have to play it safe.

Then I would go into broad rules. For people with tattoos:hide them. For women, dresses/skirts that hit the knee or pants until you see what other women are wearing. Pantyhose dont hurt for that added safety. Likely pantyhose are unnecessary and I would never wear them at this point, but again, you gotta make that decision yourself. Heels should be one, tops two, inches. Flats/dress shoes, no tennis shoes(this goes for men too). Women should cover their shoulders and their cleavage to keep with weird modesty standards. I would likely wear and example of what I would wear in an attempt to be modest, but I’d never expect it of a student.

2. If you’re REALLY THAT concerned about what a student is wearing(say you work in a sexist environment where you are worried your colleagues are going to punish a student in ways you cant prove otherwise-academia has a lot of old white men in a lot of fields), bring it up with them personally. Do it gently, reassert that what they are wearing is not inherently bad, but that they should be aware that some people will never get their heads out of their asses. Reassert that you’ll support them whatever they wear but sometimes people do things that can be proven to link between clothes and misogyny.

3. Even outside the clothing discussion, if a student ever leaves your classroom upset, you should absolutely fucking go after them. Excuse yourself from the room and try to catch them. Make sure they are okay. If they aren’t, tell them they are excused from class and that you hope they’ll come talk it through with you after class. Tell them to email you if they have another obligation. Maybe you cant sit and talk it out at that moment but you should be a goddamn human and make sure the student is fine. Especially in a conversation like that. If you have to, go back to the room and continue class.

4. Apologies dont mean shit if you dont say it to the person. Evenmore so, if you embarass a student in front of a class, especially if you wrongly do it, you should apologize in front of the class. It doesn’t undermine your authority, it builds it, because it shows your students can trust you to own up when you make a mistake. They all said she apologized multiple times but we get no context for when and how she did so.

5. Let me just reiterate one more time: no discussion ever. Should be had about what an individual student is wearing or should wear. Unless the student directly asks “what should I wear to this presentation” and even then, it’s a simple answer, not something that should be discussed in a classroom setting, especially one with men.

It does suck, because female professors run up against too many obstacles as it is. I want to just say, leave her alone. But professors that act like that are toxic. They are toxic to female students who could want to go into the field, they contribute toxins to the already toxic environment. Women in academia should absolutely stand by each other, and discussions in class about a womans clothing does nothing but harm.

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