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Murder bb
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Murder bb
thank you guys for the boops :') I can't boop back because this is a sideblog but please know I'm smacking the hell out of all of you
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[Image description: the sad guy and happy guy on a bus meme. The sad guy has the straight flag by him and the happy guy has the aromantic flag by him. Both have the text "no one will ever date me" by them and the text has an exclamation point after it for the happy aromantic guy. End image description.]
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Anyone know any stories with aroace protags that are centred around a relationship? In the same way that romance genre stories are driven by the evolving relationship between two characters, but the characters are aroace and the relationship is platonic or queerplatonic. Would be interested to read something like that
I have a few! a lot of these are sff where the main relationship is equal or subplot to the ‘main plot’ rather than the main main thing like in Romance books (because I just mostly read sff), and they don’t all have that full meeting-to-being-qpr/etc development, but maybe still of interest!
There’s a few things in the notes that I’ll second: Koisenu Futari (tv show, so good!) Baker Thief (aro / demi romance-tropes-but-QPR), Common Bonds anthology, The Dragon of Ynys (dragon friendship? not one central relationship but is p good)
and also Archivist Wasp - word of god aroace, no romance at all, centres relationship between MC and the ghost she meets. who is looking for his ghost friend(/platonic soulmate)
by the same author: Firebreak - aroace MC, has a ride or die best friend (established) and a parasocial-friendcrush kind of thing that develops (intense but not necessarily lasting because plot) also.
The Heretic’s Guide to Homecoming (duology) - follows a (word-of-god/lightly coded) grey-aspec MC and centres a complex mentor/friend kind of relationship
Vespertine - again word of god aroace, MC is possessed by a powerful ghost (if you count a relationship between a person and creature as a central relationship)
We Rule The Night - I wouldn’t say canon aroace but one character vaguely mentions not being interested in anyone - and this is dual POV, centres the friendship between two girls in a hate-to-love kind of way, with no romance (there’s a sequel coming that might, idk)
Natural Outlaws and Fractured Soverignity - dual POV between an aroallo girl and nonbinary person, who become a QPR
This Golden Flame - dual POV between aroace girl and automaton who become friends through adventure
Sailing By Carina’s Star trilogy - large spanning with a big cast, but the central characters are two young aroace boys who grow up together and eventually become a QPR, and also two pirates, (one is aroace) who also become partners. it prioritises various familial relationships also, doesn’t necessarily have the one central focus but. is good.
Not Even Bones trilogy - MC and ‘love interest’ are the central relationship and they kiss a couple times in book 2 but then in book 3 are like, wait actually we’re both aroace we don’t have to do that but can still be each other’s person
The Life Giver - also word-of-god aroace only but has no romance, and centres an (established) platonic friendship
The Wolf Among The Wild Hunt - a wolf shifter & knight who become QPRs, both aroace. if I remember correctly it’s nonlinear
We Go Forward - novella (free online) about a friendship between two aroace & bi young women
a couple books that do centre one single platonic relationship but aren’t aroace (but do have no or hardly any romance): Wild & Crooked, Towers Fall Trilogy, City of Nightmares
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[image description: three sets of two lockscreens featuring a design of repeated arrows banded in the colours of various aromantic spectrum pride flags. The left lockscreen features the arrows set against a gradient background matching its respective flag colours; the right features the arrows set against a plain white background. Flags included are: arospike (grey/pink/mint green/pink/grey, no-spike design), nebularomantic (maroon/light maroon-pink/white/dark cyan/blue), romo aro (green/light green/pink/white/pink/grey/black).]
Aro Arrow Lockscreens
Flags: Arospike, Nebularomantic, Romo Aro.
I’ve turned my aro arrows into lockscreens! All backgrounds/wallpapers are available for free personal or non-commercial use.
For flag creator credits, please see @aroflagarchive.
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aro mood of the day: caught between "yes my friends are really really important to me and i want them to be important for the rest of my life" and "don't you dare reduce my aromanticism to "but it still has friends so it can't be a bad person""
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“Some aros feel romantic attraction”
Very true! Let’s not forget about the aros who do feel romantic attraction and still for whatever reason don’t want a romantic relationship
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AUREA and PRIDEnet collaborated on a community listening project. Join us during our ASAW livestream on February 24th as Cassie from PRIDEnet presents findings relevant to the aromantic community!
For information about the livestream, go to: https://youtube.com/live/HeYrCBUi3-s
[Image Description: A white text box that reads "ASAW 2024 Livestream. PRIDEnet Community Listening Session. PRIDEnet (Stanford University), is a national network of LGBTQIA+ advocates. In collaboration with AUREA, we conducted three community listening sessions in May and June 2023, focused on the aromatic community discussing their health concerns, potential solutions, attitudes towards health research, and experiences related to community building. I'll discuss the findings, key recommendations, and PRIDEnet's future steps. Speaker: Cassie Armea-Warren (all pronouns) - LGBTQIA+ Midwest Community Engagement Coordinator." Underneath the text are the logos for AUREA and PRIDEnet. Bordering the text box is a squiggly version of the aromantic flag.]
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aroallo flag coloured cat stack >:D
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Aro beam is good but I think we need more aromantic attacks. Aro projectile. Aro groundslam. Aro shockwave. Arosplosion.
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I dislike how being single and not searching for partner is seen as socially acceptable only if it's temporary state and justifiable (had messy break up, too busy, had death in family etc.). Whenever I tell someone I'm single they're like 'yes take rest from dating, I support you', but when I add I'm not intrested in dating at all their tone changes drastically. They're no longer supportive, to say the least.
Obviously this is hurtful to acespec and arospec folks, but it's not just them. It's hurtful to everyone because society's norms (amatonormativity in this case) are pushing people to do things or act in way in order to 'not be weird'. They don't want to be perceived as 'damaged goods', because society implicitly labels them as such. If someone wants to date person after another, that's valid. But choosing to stay single for months, years, decades or even a lifetime is just as valid
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Anonymous asked:
can you elaborate on what you mean by romance being a social construct? just trying to understand here, because by that logic to be aromantic is to be against the social construct of romance or what most people view as romance
What does "romance" or "romantic" mean? Most people when answering that question will list specific signifiers or feelings that we commonly associate with romance or romantic feelings, but these things don't have to be romantic. They're 'coded' as romantic because we associate them with romance as a byproduct of our culture. Simple example: Kissing on the lips. Pretty safe to say this action is frequently cited as a romantic gesture. But is it objectively a romantic gesture? No. There are plenty of cultures, currently and throughout history, where kissing on the lips is not romantic. Hell, kissing in some cultures isn't a thing at all/considered unsanitary! Therefore, kissing on the lips is not objectively romantic or some universal phenomenon. It's socially constructed.
The same thing can apply to romantic feelings. First: Feelings of sexuality that often (but not always!) go toe to toe with romance are not inherently romantic. You can be attracted to someone, or be intimate with someone, and not feel romantic feelings. So we need to separate sexuality from romance. What does that leave us with? Great care for someone? A feeling of closeness? A desire to never be parted with someone? Are these feelings romantic? Yes, but they aren't always. Stripped of any other pretenses, you could easily apply those feelings to your friends or family members. What makes them romantic is socially contextual, and subjectively determined. Therefore: Romance is a social construct.
People who identify as aromantic will have different reasons for subscribing to the label. Some may be aromantic because the feelings typically associated with romance just don't happen with them, and sometimes (but not always!!!) asexuality plays a part here as well. But for other aro folk, it's not always that consistent. Maybe they do feel those feelings, but only under some circumstances. Or maybe they feel some of those feelings, but not all of them, or inconsistently, or don't really think of those feelings as romantic at all or in the moment. Romance, like sexuality, is more fluid than we tend to realize, but romance as a specific, socially determined construct can be suffocating for those who don't quite fit in the box. Especially once you start throwing in the other social expectations that romance is typically associated with: Living together, marriage, having kids, permanence, etc. In those instances, some folks may gravitate toward the aromantic label simply because they oppose the rigidness of the construct.
Ultimately, our purpose with our arospec characters (Keagan, Robin, and Daonna) is to explore these variations.
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ace, aro, aroace, quoi & apl lockscreens
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Anonymous asked:
"my boyfriend and i saw you from across the room" well your alloromantic bitch asses can stay on the other side of the room
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ID: a petfinder listing for a black and white cat named Aro. He is from Springfield, Missouri and is listed as a young, medium-sized domestic short hair mix. The picture of him is taken from above, and he is looking up at the camera. He is mostly black with a white chest and white paws. /end ID
Source: petfinder.com
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as a small reminder aro week 2024 is february 18th through the 24th