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Rising signs

Aries: These types come across as very confident usually and their most defining physical trait is probably their eyebrows and face, they look very childlike

Taurus: Come across as very laid-back and chill, very calm but also graceful and kinda materialistic, most defining physical trait is most likely their lips, very nice, full plump lips

Gemini: Oh my these types are very restless, very jittery always wanting to do something and they talk a lot, they get bored easily and are very enthusiastic, and intelligent, talk very quickly, probably bony or skinny

Cancer: The face is the most defining trait, they have a cute round face with soft skin, big eyes , plump lips. These kinds are gentle and emotional, and somewhat clingy

Leo: Okay so obviously the most defining physical trait is the hair, it’s sculpted by the gods, these types are charismatic and attractive, very cool to be around and thy carry a gigantic aura of confidence

Virgo: These types are neat freaks and perfectionists. They tend to be very hygienic and don’t look plain per say but very clean and nicely put together. They are also intelligent but critical and analyze everything.

Libra: Oh my so indecisive, these kinds don’t like doing things alone and are very pleasant to be around. They love doing things for others and have a beautiful aura.

Scorpio: The eyes!! Oh my gosh, I’ve seen many Scorpio risings and the one defining physical trait is the eyes I swear, their eyes are very intense and deep and even if it’s the plainest color it comes off as so intense. They are so intense and probing and these types come across as sexy and focused. They always have their guard up and may loners

Sagittarius: okay so these people are so fun honestly, they are so adventurous and bold. It’s fun being with them and their defining trait is most likely the legs.

Capricorn: These types are focused and determined. They may think their accomplishments define them and they are worth much if they haven’t accomplished much. They have very nice features and very good bone structure usually. Beautiful but complicated and kinda cold

Aquarius: So unique in their appearance and very accepting of others. They have a non-conventional type of beauty but are extremely beautiful usually.

Pisces: So dreamy honestly and true chameleons, they seem so fluid and kinda are very suggestible as they kinda morph into whatever their environment is. An ethereal kind of beauty. Usually shy but kind and so compassionate. Could be artistic.

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In first edition Advanced Dungeons and Dragons, the Raise Dead spell was stated explicitly to not work on Elves and Half-Orcs for a…theologically fascinating reason: members of those two races did not have souls. A Wish spell would have to be used to raise them instead.

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thesnadger

Humans: Soul

Elves: Pizazz

Half-Orcs: Chutzpah

Dwarves: A Certain Je Ne Sais Quois

sent this to my boyfriend and he disagrees. Halflings have chutzpah. Half Orcs have MOXIE.

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french-verbz

Well now I can correctly moonwalk away from uncomfortable situations

Because everyone deserves to know how to do a mean moonwalk.

guYS THIS IS IMPORTANT

I definitely reblogged this sitting down not getting up to do the moonwalk at all

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So I was out to eat and this child(maybe 3 years old) in the booth next to us started crying loudly. The mom tried to calm him down but he started to go into tantrum mode and fussed even more. So she picked him up and walked out of the restaurant to a bench outside our window. We could hear her ask him, “look at me, what’s upsetting you?” To which he responded with more crying. So she says, “Well you’re clearly overwhelmed, so we’re going to sit out here and take a break until you can compose yourself and tell me what’s wrong.” Which is exactly what happened after a couple minutes. Anyways I just think it’s so good to speak to your children in a logical, respectful manner instead of shushing them and leaving them to deal with their stress alone.

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layshotchips

this is such a surreal way to calm a child down like is a three year old really going to understand you like that ….

Yes, if it’s what they’re used to. It has to be consistent though, you can’t, like, suddenly start doing it one day and expect them to understand.

It also helps if you kind of narrate your own emotions when you’re upset even just over little things, like ‘oh! I just can’t get this to lay flat, but I really want to! I got mad because I couldn’t get it to work, and that’s frustrating!’

It feels silly at first, but it models it for them and helps them understand how to communicate (and recognize) their own emotions.

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enog

I think I reblogged the original post before, but I love and appreciate the further explanation.  All in all this is a great practice, but some parents either don’t do it consistently, or aren’t taking in other factors (like, can your child process your words right now?  Sometimes they can’t because EMOTIONS!) OR they do this without removing them from the stressor/stressful situation, and then their kid is overwhelmed and has no idea what their parent is saying to them.  You need to look at your kid and make sure they’re taking in your words, and also not expect them to respond like an adult would.

You can also easily simplify the language, to something like “Hey what’s going on?” or “let’s get some space”/”I’m going to give you space” or “let’s take a break and take some deep breaths”

I’ve seen parents who just totally take this and start speaking to their children in ways that their child legitimately cannot understand, not necessarily because of their age, but because they have no context, or are too overwhelmed by outside factors, OR because their parents are expecting them to process words they’re not used to (consistency and modeling are key) and then demanding an adult response.  That’s stressful.  Using this kind of language with kids is GREAT to get your kids more in touch with their emotions and actions, but it’s important that you’re doing it correctly, paying attention to how your child responds, and providing them with a model in your own actions and interactions.

I work in education and how that parent in the first post helped their child calm down is exactly what we do when I work in preK through 1st grade classrooms.

I also do this with my own children and it ‘s incredibly helpful. Small children are able to tell you what’s wrong and tell you how they feel if they’re given the tools to do so.

Common mistakes parents make:

-Assuming this will work right away. It won’t. It takes time for kids to get used to this. Parents/families need to use this frequently, consistently, and using language children can understand.

-By not staying calm themselves. This will not work if you let your own emotions/frustrations get in the way. When this happens frustrated parents want the kids to ‘hurry up and tell them what’s wrong’. Kids can tell you’re upset/frustrated/impatient. This can make things worse. You as a parent/caregiver need to remain calm as well.

-Use language that the child doesn’t understand (as Enog mentioned above).  Use language that your child CAN understand. A big thing you need to do even when your child isn’t upset is to identify feelings. Do this all the time. When a child can’t identify emotions, they have a hard time dealing with them. Use accessible language and model identifying as well as healthy ways to deal with various emotions.

-Failing to remove the child from a stressful situation. This is a VERY COMMON mistake parents and caregivers make. Young children in particular have a hard time focusing/calming down when overwhelmed. Some parents/caregivers expect the child to calm down while overwhelmed get frustrated with the child when this method doesn’t work.  Be sure to remove your child from the stressful situation or stimulus before asking them to tell you what is wrong.

Many people won’t get it right the first time. Recognizing the frequent mistakes above will help parents/caregivers from making these errors.

My mom was also taught in my brothers daycare that you can start communicating with kids under 4 to get them used to communicating and to try and make the world seem less chaotic. They would tell the kids if they were going to stop playing in 10 minutes or change their diapers or eat or whatever. And as strange as it sounds that toddlers actually became less fussy and it really made the parents start paying attention to their kids and making sure that they were communicating. I’ve seen so many young kids have a tantrum because their parent just picks them up from playing and takes them instead of giving them a five or ten minute warning that might have made it so there was no problem at all. I’m sure it would set them up for everything mentioned in this post. I hate people that act like you shouldn’t communicate with kids or try and help them understand what’s going on around them, I just always think of how overwhelming and scary being a kid, and especially a very young child, can be.

Omg it’s so important to talk to kids about what’s going on even if they’re newborns and you think they can’t understand, at some point (long before they can talk themselves) they do and they learn that their feelings, needs and boundaries matter, that they’re people not objects to be moved about and acted upon

Research shows babies understand the gist of what parents are saying as early as six months. Explaining things to babies and toddlers like they’re real people who can understand you (which they are) is incredibly powerful and good for their brain and social development! For example, I was recently hanging out with parents who are really good at this. The one year old was fussing as my friend tried to get him to eat, and so she communicated everything she was doing with him. “I see that you don’t want the apple sauce right now. Is your tummy full? Let’s try the noodles. No, I can see you’re making a face, so I don’t think you want those. How about your bottle?” Etc. This starts an early precedent of clear communication and showing that you care and understand a child’s needs. Even when I was saying goodbye to the family, that kiddo clearly had no idea what was going on, and mom still made a point to say, “Sequoia is going home now, so we say goodbye. Bye Sequoia!” instead of saying bye without involving him.

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aidn

sorry to get romantic on main but i want to go to an art museum and hold hands with someone i care about

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