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Lex Malla Lex Nulla

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Hello! My name is Jea [pronounced like “G”] (although some of you may know me by JJ). I’m 21, I use she/they, and I’m aroace

My fandoms that I post most about are tsc, grishaverse, shatter me, and ninth house

I love interacting with people on here so always feel welcome to message me, send me asks, tag me in things, or anything!

You can also find me on Twitter and tiktok

I make content sometimes! Check it out if you want

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why does this have 32k notes? it’s just a picture of a knife in a ranch bottle, is there some unspoken joke that 32 thousand people share? what is going on here, i dont get it. it’s just a fucking picture of a knife in a ranch bottle. is there some spiritual connection people have to this picture? is there some ominous and mystical reasoning that this has 32 thousand notes? do people reblog this because it makes them look like some indie blogger? or is there just something funny to this? someone please explain

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diggly

no one tell him

Scheduling this to post on March 15 because it needs to happen.

March 15 again and here we go…

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ckret2

More How To Manage ADHD

“I never remember to take out the trash until my trash can is full, at which point the trash bag is really heavy and the stuff at the bottom has been rotting a while, and it’s awful!”

Small brain: “Try to train yourself to take out the trash on certain days at certain times.”

Large brain: “Buy a tiny trash can. Now you HAVE to empty it.”

That’s genius!

I just put it in front of my door when it’s full so I am physically unable to leave unless I pick it up.

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feamir

The best advice I’ve ever received about managing my depression/anxiety/adhd is that disability exists in the context of the environment. Accommodations are not about changing yourself to work in your environment — it’s about changing your environment to better work for you.

So yeah, get a tiny trash can and put it by your door. Store your towels in your bathroom so you can immediately change them when they smell funny. Hang a basket by your door for your gloves and earbuds. Leave a box of cliff bars by your door so you never leave without breakfast. Change your environment and change your life!

“Change your environment and change your life”

I learned a long time ago that if I have to remember to pack a fork *every day* for lunch, I end up at work with no fork about 30% of the time.

But if I take an entire 50 count box of forks and put the entire thing in my lunch box? I *always have a fork.*

And I have extra forks for coworkers who forgot to pack a fork, and then I seem SUPER responsible. Lol.

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alarajrogers

Back in 2011 I attended an event called BMoreFail which was a business seminar on business failure, taught by guest speakers who had all failed at something, and I had a revelation.

If your system would work fine if people Just Would, but it does not work because people Don’t, and you feel very strongly that it works but people are not using it right and if only they Just Would everything would be fine… your system is a failure. Because if people were capable of Just Doing, they would be doing. The fact that people Don’t is an indication that they, in fact, cannot Just Would.

I was thinking of this in terms of workflow systems in business, but it’s just as meaningful in the systems you create for yourself that would work if you Just Would. Because if you Could, then you already Would. The fact that you Don’t even though it would work if you Just Would means that you in fact Can’t and you need to redesign the system.

That doesn’t always make it easier to figure out a system that will work, but it does tell you something about how to deal with the repeated failure of the system. Change it. The system is always what’s broken, not the people in it. Systems exist to serve people; if they cannot serve people because people can’t use them, they are wrong and must be changed.

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roach-works

if your Correct System sucks to use the Right Way, it isn’t correct and that isn’t the right way. redesign it.

i would say it’s more true for systems you make for yourself, since you inherently have a vested interest in getting yourself to do the thing or you wouldn’t be making a system about it.

sometimes a system is ‘not working’ not because of its internal structure, but because its goal is something the ‘users’ don’t particularly want, and they are choosing not to engage with it as much as possible. that requires different problem-solving.

like, my mother works in database support for a government regulatory agency, and she is constantly tearing her hair out that the people she works for want to change the database to facilitate the workflow of the people who use it

because sometimes that means ‘change the compliance database to allow them to flout the regulations we’re supposed to be ensuring they follow.’

that system isn’t broken! it’s just trying to get people to do something they don’t want to do. because the thing they want to do is illegal. because it fucks over disabled children. but it’s much more convenient!

should the entire system of ensuring disabled kids’ education access be rebuilt from the ground up? probably! but in the meantime the issue does not actually lie in the fact that the recordkeeping infrastructure pressures school districts to follow the set procedures.

I keep my stamps and social security card in with my coffee cups.

Does it sound silly? Sure. But you notice I know exactly where they are.

Now, where’s YOUR social security card?

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fieldbears

tattoo this on my flesh

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systlin

I literally had a friend say this the other day while having dinner with him and his husband. 

“Listen.” He said. “I served in the military. 10 years in the army, and had to keep my mouth shut and pretend. I had to pretend to everyone, until I just got sick of it and decided fuck you all. I haven’t been nice in years. Everyone saying I should shut up can kiss my ass.” 

If people wanted nice gay people they should have been nicer to them. 

IF PEOPLE WANTED NICE GAY PEOPLE THEY SHOULD HAVE BEEN NICER TO THEM

IF PEOPLE WANTED

NICE GAY PEOPLE THEY SHOULD HAVE

BEEN NICER TO THEM

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

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nihildyke

Insane that being in your 20s counts as adulthood. Being in your 20s just feels like the sequel to being a teenager

No exactly you get it you get it

being in your 20s is exactly like being a teen except now you have the freedom to do everything you were told no to as a teen and the consequences (good or bad) are entirely yours to suffer

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“Average American throws away 60lbs of clothing a year” “most people only wash an item of clothing ten times before it falls apart” ok how much of this is unsold clothing getting tossed throwing off the statistics? And if it’s not, What are you guys doing to your clothes. I still wear $13 shirts I bought in 2013.

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my mom didn't believe in lying to children so when I first asked about santa claus as a small child she was like "oh santa claus is another name for a man named saint nicholas who lived a long time ago. he was a very kind and generous man and he loved giving people presents and he would do things like put presents in people's stockings when they were hung up to dry by the fire, so they would find them and be surprised. so now when we give presents at christmas it's fun to pretend saint nicholas or 'santa claus' brings them. and we hang up stockings by the fire and when we get up in the morning there are presents in them, just like if saint nicholas was still alive to bring them!"

so that thanksgiving one of my uncles said jovially "so mac, are you being good for santa claus?" and little (not quite three year old) mac looked up and raised an eyebrow and said witheringly "he's dead."

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zodarii-dae

headcannon that one time when alec was at cirenworth to talk to jem or smth, he gave kit his number "for emergencies"

and kit, being a herondale, texts him regularly. what does he text, you ask? selfies. what kind of selfies? ones where he is breaking the law.

alec gets pictures of him getting a flu shot every year. and he's so frustrated b/c several people would be really pissed at him for arresting kit, and he did worse anyways.

just... kit interacting w/ the tmi squad brings me much joy

(and ofc jessa told kit the demon pox story, and alec is saved in his phone as 'consul lightworm')

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