Not wanting to share? Sounds like a you problem. *get comfier in the butt groove of the throne*
I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?
HI darling,
I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:
Home
- what the hell is a mortgage?
- first apartment essentials checklist
- how to care for cacti and succulents
- the care and keeping of plants
- Getting an apartment
Money
- earn rewards by taking polls
- how to coupon
- what to do when you can’t pay your bills
- see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill
- how to save money
- How to Balance a Check Book
- How to do Your Own Taxes
Health
- how to take care of yourself when you’re sick
- things to bring to a doctor’s appointment
- how to get free therapy
- what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment
- how to make a doctor’s appointment
- how to pick a health insurance plan
- how to avoid a hangover
- a list of stress relievers
- how to remove a splinter
Emergency
- what to do if you get pulled over by a cop
- a list of hotlines in a crisis
- things to keep in your car in case of an emergency
- how to do the heimlich maneuver
Job
- time management
- create a resume
- find the right career
- how to pick a major
- how to avoid a hangover
- how to interview for a job
- how to stop procrastinating
- How to write cover letters
Travel
- ULTIMATE PACKING LIST
- Traveling for Cheap
- Travel Accessories
- The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase
- How To Read A Map
- How to Apply For A Passport
- How to Make A Travel Budget
Better You
- read the news
- leave your childhood traumas behind
- how to quit smoking
- how to knit
- how to stop biting your nails
- how to stop procrastinating
- how to stop skipping breakfast
- how to stop micromanaging
- how to stop avoiding asking for help
- how to stop swearing constantly
- how to stop being a pushover
- learn another language
- how to improve your self-esteem
- how to sew
- learn how to embroider
- how to love yourself
- 100 tips for life
Apartments/Houses/Moving
- Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)
- Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
- Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)
- Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)
- How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)
Education
- How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)
- How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)
- What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)
- Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)
- How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)
- How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)
Finances
- How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)
- How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)
- Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)
- What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)
- Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)
- Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)
- How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)
Job Hunting
- How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)
- How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)
- How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)
- 10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)
Life Skills
- Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)
- Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)
- What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)
- Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)
- How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)
- How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)
- How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)
Miscellaneous
- What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)
Relationships
- Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)
- How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple and catastrofries)
Travel & Vehicles
- How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)
- How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)
Other Blog Features
Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later
- Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)
- Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)
- Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)
- Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)
- Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)
- Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)
- Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)
- Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)
- Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)
- Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)
- Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)
- Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)
- Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)
Adult Cheat Sheet:
- what to do if your pet gets lost
- removing stains from your carpet
- how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps
- throwing a dinner party
- i’m pregnant, now what?
- first aid tools to keep in your house
- how to keep a clean kitchen
- learning how to become independent from your parents
- job interview tips
- opening your first bank account
- what to do if you lose your wallet
- tips for cheap furniture
- easy ways to cut your spending
- selecting the right tires for your car
- taking out your first loan
- picking out the right credit card
- how to get out of parking tickets
- how to fix a leaky faucet
- get all of your news in one place
- getting rid of mice & rats in your house
- when to go to the e.r.
- buying your first home
- how to buy your first stocks
- guide to brewing coffee
- first apartment essentials checklist
- coping with a job you hate
- 30 books to read before you’re 30
- what’s the deal with retirement?
- difference between insurances
Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:
Reasons to move out of home
You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:
- wishing to live independently
- location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university
- conflict with your parents
- being asked to leave by your parents.
Issues to consider when moving out of home
It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:
- Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
- Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.
- Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.
Your parents may be worried
Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:
- They may worry that you are not ready.
- They may be sad because they will miss you.
- They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
- They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.
Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.
Tips for a successful move
Tips include:
- Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
- Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
- Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.
- Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
- Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
- Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.
If your family home does not provide support
Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.
If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.
If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.
Where to get help
- Your doctor
- Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
- Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
- Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
- Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
- Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
- Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577
Things to remember
- Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
- Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
- Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations.
Keep me updated? xx
Reblogging for myself
reblogging for those that follow me that may be starting to move out
Signal boosting: because who knows who may need this today…? :)
Reblogging for myself too
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Honestly what did I expect from a caption like that
Skin.
Writing with Color has received several asks on this topic.
Everything from “how do I describe my character’s skin tone without being offensive?” and “what’s the problem with comparing my character to chocolate and coffee?”
I’m hoping to address all these and likewise questions in this guide on describing POCs’ skin color, from light, dark and all that’s in between.
The Food Thing: So what’s the big deal?
So exactly what is the problem with comparing a POC’s skin tone to cocoa, coffee, caramel, brown sugar and other sweets and goods? Well, there’s several potential problems you come across when you pull out the old Hershey’s bar comparison for your dark-skinned character, even if offense is not your intention.
What’s the Real Lesson?
Here’s something that happens to ADHD children a lot: Getting pushed beyond their limits by accident. Here’s how it works and why it’s so bad.
Child says, “I can’t do this.”
Adult (teacher or parent) does not believe it, because Adult has seen Child do things that Adult considers more difficult, and Child is too young to properly articulate why the task is difficult.
Adult decides that the problem is something other than true inability, like laziness, lack of self-confidence, stubbornness, or lack of motivation.
Adult applies motivation in the form of harsher and harsher scoldings and punishments. Child becomes horribly distressed by these punishments. Finally, the negative emotions produce a wave of adrenaline that temporarily repairs the neurotransmitter deficits caused by ADHD, and Child manages to do the task, nearly dropping from relief when it’s finally done.
The lesson Adult takes away is that Child was able to do it all along, the task was quite reasonable, and Child just wasn’t trying hard enough. Now, surely Child has mastered the task and learned the value of simply following instructions the first time.
The lessons Child takes away? Well, it varies, but it might be:
-How to do the task while in a state of extreme panic, which does NOT easily translate into doing the task when calm.
-Using emergency fight-or-flight overdrive to deal with normal daily problems is reasonable and even expected.
-It’s not acceptable to refuse tasks, no matter how difficult or potentially harmful.
-Asking for help does not result in getting useful help.
I’m now in my 30’s, trying to overcome chronic depression, and one major barrier is that, thanks to the constant unreasonable demands placed on me as a child, I never had the chance to develop actual healthy techniques for getting stuff done. At 19, I finally learned to write without panic, but I still need to rely on my adrenaline addiction for simple things like making phone calls, tidying the house, and paying bills. Sometimes, I do mean things to myself to generate the adrenaline rush, because there’s no one else around to punish me.
But hey, at least I didn’t get those terrible drugs, right? That might have had nasty side effects.
Sisters, All Hallow’s Eve has become a night of frolic, where children wear costumes and run amok! Hocus Pocus (1993)
wonder who the culprit is
oh my god..a bread boy
a crime of passion
Help this guy if you can!!
“It has been a very tough year. I lost my home and near everything I own. I've been battling many health problems. I'm diabetic with neuropathy in my legs which makes walking very painful. I just had a stent put in my heart valve. I also have IBS and a few other issues I'm trying to handle”- John
whoever said scooby doo isn’t intellectual: explain this then
People keep asking who is behind this account, SO. My name is James I am 18 and I live in England.
*Goes back to drawing board*
I love tumblr, because I can tell everyone I find him incredibly attractive and it will probably never get back to him.
it got back to me
“find him incredibly attractive”?? bitch where??
This also got back to me
I can also say that he got nice glasses, and that really wont get back because I have maybe 100 followers (most of which are porn blogs)
But it did
I can ask why he looks so sad without it getting back to me.
Depression and crippling self doubt
Your a dedicated dude to get back to everyone even months after the original post
Years, I am 22 now
He’s super cute wtf
Bruh can we get an update? You still sad bro???
I got some help and I am a lot better. Started and finished university with first class honours and have a full time job. Although I just quit it to go travelling for a while. My family also got a dog and she is the love of my life.
Look basically the same though.
isn’t there a goddess out here willing to turn me into medusa so men can’t look at me without immediately suffering the consequences
Stop being lazy and relying on gods. Quick dry cement exists. Be your own Medusa
“If you don’t have any goddess-bestowed cement powers, store bought is fine”
Men still didn’t leave medusa alone even when she was living in a fucking cave so I think store bought is the better way to go
women be downloading pdfs
And men….don’t….?…?
no men can’t read
jake calling amy “ames” ↳ requested by anonymous
#having allergies be like
Checkup
Why does he look like cookie dough ice cream
thats what hes made of
He is what he is
follow @the-future-now
wow!
disabled women of color are capable and deserve to be recognized and respected
The Migration of Tea Along The Silk Road ( Circa 1700 AD)