your “bi women can/do exploit their sexualities for attention” is never gonna be a woke take, whether it’s about some girl from high school, a celebrity, or even just some mythical bisexual predator you made up in your head lol
outfits: grace choi (black lightning, season 2)
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i feel like cis people assume if you’re trans you’re either gay or straight and that’s why you barely ever see positivity posts for trans bi people so here’s your daily reminder that we’re here and we’re great! bi trans women? amazing. bi trans men? amazing. nonbinary bi people? you guessed it, amazing!
the amount of thanks i’ve gotten in the tags for this simple post just further proves my point… support bi trans people!!!
An analysis of the GSS data by the sociologists D’Lane Compton and Tristan Bridges shows that the change has been almost entirely due to an increase in the number of bisexual women—the population of men who identify as bisexual has barely budged. Even more specifically, they find that the upswing in bisexuality among women has been concentrated among young women of color, specifically black women. Compton and Bridges note that the GSS data mirrors findings from a Gallup survey that found that “women, college-educated people, people of color, and those who are not religious” accounted for the steepest rise in LGB self-identification, in the period between 2012 and 2016.
no relationship you enter will ever erase your bisexuality or your connection to women
I don’t plan to stop drinking. But… I don’t wanna forget. I can’t turn away anymore. So, if I’m gonna die, well, it might as well be driving my sword through the heart of that murderous hag.
It doesn’t surprise me that these studies show that bisexual women report higher levels of mental illness and stress or anxiety related disorders after coming out or disclosing their sexuality. Bisexual women are hated by virtually everyone and every group, and are socially isolated, so rather than increasing ties to the LGBT community or expanding their social network and increasing their confidence in bisexuality, bisexual women are treated differentially after they come out, which worsens their mental health.
If there are any materially meaningful differences between lesbians and bi women, it’s in things like lesbians having poorer mental health when closeted and bi women having poorer mental health when out. And yet, funnily enough, they experience similar rates of poor mental health; it’s just the circumstances of when they’re particularly likely to experience this may differ.
If even a little more than 0.023% of the people on this website were smart, compassionate, nuanced, and capable of empathy, it would be such a great task to understand how the different psychic or subjective experiences of lesbians and bi women contribute to them 1) manifesting similar rates of disparities on given measures (such as mental health) in 2) different or similar ways. We could thus identify the similarities and differences across the broader range of similar rates of issues that impact both groups, which has important implications for implementing inclusive, high-quality, and effective interventions for both groups. However most of the people on this website are dumbasses so alas, that won’t be possible in my time left on here. Quite sad.
“An eating disorder history also demonstrated a relationship to being out. Out bisexuals were more likely to have an eating disorder than heterosexual women. It is unclear why this association would be found. Regardless of degree of outness, bisexual women were twice as likely to have had an eating disorder than lesbians. There is no other existing data on bisexual women and eating disorders. Despite the differing rates of eating disorder histories, the B.M.I.s and current self-perceptions of weight were equal among the lesbian, bisexual and heterosexual women subgroups. The findings of this study with respect to the bisexual population and the influence of outness and eating disorders highlight the need for further research in this area”
— Koh & Ross (2006), Mental Health Issues: A Comparison of Lesbian, Bisexual and Heterosexual Women
Actually want to take a second to send so much love towards bi women who’ve only been with men or who’re scared to be with women or who are with men and closeted or who don’t know if they’ll ever date women because of biphobia and pressures and life as a bi woman. You are all so amazing and important and valued. Your bisexuality is beautiful. You’re so loved here.
It’s Bisexuality day so I made this thing both as a project and also because I wanted to so here, celebrate yourself (or others) with a little defiance.
This is a message for all my muslim wlw, you’re gonna marry the person of your dreams one day. InshAllah, you’re gonna find an imam and witnesses to be there on your big day. You’re gonna match on Eid, gonna have Ramadan together, y'all are gonna grow old, have cats, and raise kids if you wish. You’re gonna watch your favorite movies together, you’re gonna have the love you always wanted. InshAllah.
-Mod K
i don’t think people who aren’t bi realize what kind of body dysmorphia and depersonalization bi women go through every single day knowing that men think that we have no sexual boundaries, that violence is essential, natural, logical, and justifiable because we are bi, that we are inherently “available” to them. you don’t think we know how men think about us? we do. we think about it constantly because it’s a reality we have to confront often. it is a persistent trauma, an ugly shadow that follows us around no matter who we’re with or how happy and confident we feel or who we’re dating. no matter our sexual or romantic experience, or the particulars of our bisexuality, or how we express and perform gender, or what our erotic desires are. we know what men think of us, how they look at us, what they associate us with, what they want from us. no matter how many times you repackage male objectification of bi women using feminist language (e.g. “bi women are less subversive than lesbians because bi women are sexually available to men”), you will never understand that the damage is already done. to be a bi woman under patriarchy is to know that men think of you as a ripe forbidden fruit ready to be plucked and discarded at leisure, and that the rest of the world thinks you are a hedonistic, immoral stain upon humanity that cannot be cleansed.
it’s more than just the generic “male gaze” that all women face. a unique feeling that bisexual women have is knowing that their very body, their identity, their desires, are all viewed by men in a specifically dehumanizing way that makes it humiliating and embarrassing to even exist as a bisexual woman, to admit that you’re bisexual, to utter the word bisexual without cringing or hating yourself. it’s to know that men think of you as the woman who is incapable of facing violence because women who are always “begging for it” and are “up for anything” couldn’t possibly be impacted by violence, right? it’s to know that men will see you as dirty and lusty no matter what you do, that they will either punish you or exploit you for an expectation they have coercively imposed on you from the start, even before you’ve met them.
people who aren’t bi don’t get this and they will not get this and because they don’t get this, people will keep scratching their heads over the astronomical rates of abuse and rape bi women face.
and please understand: i’m not saying that other groups of women don’t face these things. they absolutely do. what i’m saying is that bisexual women have a unique trauma around this that often goes unaddressed. this trauma is at the center of bi women’s PTSD, depression, suicidality, anxiety, depersonalization and dissociation, addiction and alcoholism, unhealthy lifestyle behaviors, self harm behaviors, sexual risk-taking, and more. it’s a vital health issue for bi women that is tied to our psychosocial development, self-image, self-construal, body image, and body esteem, and it all goes back to how we are viewed under patriarchy.
people seem to think that straight people and homophobes look at bi women and think “ah she’s also attracted to men and that makes it better”. they do not.
[Image Description: a bi pride flag with a symbol for a person using a sight cane and two hands using ASL on the pink, the words “we are here” on the purple, and a symbol with a person showing gears in their head and a person in a wheelchair on the blue of the flag] (description source)
Reminder for Bi Health Month: bi disabled people exist! 💖💜💙
I feel like a lot of bisexuals have somewhat complex feelings on/relationships with monogamy that are informed by our bisexuality and there’s a lot of pressure to be bisexual in the most palatable way (aka silently absorbing an assumed identity based on our current monogamous partners) lest we be examples of the slutty cheating down for anything bi stereotype connected to so much of our ill treatment.
so a reminder that we like literally everyone else deserve space to explore our desires and what sorts of relationships work best for us and we do not owe it to anyone to be a palatable, toned down, quieter version of ourselves (whether we happen to be into threesomes or not lol) and you’re not a bad bisexual or reinforcing negative stereotypes if you do end up not being into monogamy! just as much as you’re not a bad or fake bisexual if you end up in a committed monogamous relationship and we deserve to be loved and treated well regardless.
i dont see much positivity for gnc bisexual women and nonbinary bisexual sapphics, and i dont want to derail anyones post, so here goes!
to bisexual women and nonbinary bisexuals who use he/him or they/them–youre absolutely allowed to use those pronouns. it doesnt make you a man, or take away your connection to womanhood in any way. 💛
to gnc bisexual women–you are amazing, strong, and handsome. i automatically feel safe and secure around you. you show bisexual women and other sapphics around you that there is more than one way to be a woman. 💚
to bisexuals who identify as stags or tomcats–youre great and it doesnt matter if people think the labels are too new, or if people think theyre “cringy”. you wear the labels with pride and you inspire me every day. 💙
to nonbinary bisexuals who feel a connection to womanhood, but dont necessarily want to call themselves women–simply by loving women (romantically or just in general) you have an inherent connection to them. you belong in sapphic spaces as much as anyone else. 💜
to gnc bi trans and nb sapphics–your identity is completely valid and real, and you have no obligation to perform gender in the way that is expected of you, even though it may feel as if that obligation weighs heavier on you than most. youre amazing. you are connected to womanhood, and to women, you belong with us. ❤
to gnc and nonbinary bisexuals who aren’t out and/or are unable to present how they want to–thats okay!!! your identity is also completely valid and real. the person you are in your heart and mind is the truest and purest form of yourself. nobody can take that away from you. 💘
to people who are questioning if they might be gnc or nonbinary and bisexual– take your time, theres no rush. you will figure yourself out eventually and in the meantime the community will welcome you with open arms, so theres no need to worry about being an outsider, and even if you arent, thats okay too 💖
to anyone else out there who might be feeling insecure or invalidated about their bisexuality and gender/gender presentation–STAY STRONG!!! you have a community behind you and we will support you every step of the way. 💝
gnc bisexual women, nonbinary bisexuals–
💞💞💞i love you all. SO. MUCH. 💞💞💞
(signed the sweetest anon ive gotten and cosigned by me!!!!)
