A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their loverβs once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life. Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.
this fucks me up every single time
I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds Iβve written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class.
After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, βis love a feeling? Or is it a choice?β We were all a bunch of teenagers. Naturally we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, weβd never have a lasting relationship of any sort.
She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice.
Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the βfeeling of loveβ had vanished or faded and they werenβt happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation.
The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with.
The divorced ones said they chose to walk away.
Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. Iβve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. Iβve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.
I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again.
This is so fucking important and I think itβs something I needed right now
Hello and welcome to Deep Space Nine. We are a space station, not a starship, so youβll be spending a lot of time with all these delightful side characters like: bisexual fashion lizard. hologram of Frank Sinatra. goblins. goblin comes in 3 varieties: bartender, nephew, and idiot. our doctor is a twink, our commander is antifa and the captain talks to the gods sometimes. our policeman is sometimes a liquid and the science lady is part worm. we have many fine storylines, such as: Goblin Does A Crime, Watch The Irishman Suffer, or The Horrors Of War. As you stroll along our promenade enjoying a raktajino or delicious jumja stick, watch out for our nefarious villains: Pope Karen. clones of Jeffrey Combs. and a horny bastard reptile man who seems convinced this is actually his show. we suspect he may be possessed by demons. Have fun!
Deep Space Nine: now with Worfβ’!
do yall think about how easy it would be for gideon to pick up and carry harrow around like Entirely Too Much or is it just me. it's rent free in my head. harrow throwing her entire body at gideon when they're in their bodies again. gideon catching her easily, holding her tight. harrow hissing at gideon like a feral little cat as gideon picks her up and carries her away from her desk when she's been working late into the night. gideon scooping harrow up just cause she feels like it and her tiny necromancer is suffering from a lack of kisses. harrow not only allowing it but begrudgingly liking it. what's a cav for if not to hold you with their big muscles??
βGriddle?β
βHarrow?β
βIs this real?β
βYes, Harrow. This is real.β
βOh.β
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βIs this real?β
βYes.β
βPromise?β
βYeah. Yeah, I promise.β
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βHow do you know?β
βHow do I know what?β
βThat itβs not a hallucination.β
βFeel that?β
β... Yes.β
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βMaybe Iβm imagining this. And you.β
βHey. Harrow. Cβmere.β
βGideon...β
βThere. No way youβre imagining that. Your brain canβt comprehend it.β
βYouβre insufferable.β
βYouβre still here, arenβt you?β
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βGideon?β
βYes, oh mistress of mandibles?β
βStop that. I need to ask you something.β
βAsk away, my twilight princessβhey, ouch, no pinching!β
βIβm serious!β
βSo am I, Harrow. Iβm always serious about you.β
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βGideon.β
βHmm?β
βKiss me again.β
*shows up to the harrow nova bbq a week late, sweating, w/one hand clutching my side & the other holding a potato salad that NONE of you should eat because it has GONE BAD*
Sauron, Utumno Edition
One Flesh, One End
Bruh Gideon the ninth has left a cut in my heart so incredibly deep I fear I may never heal.
More midnight NavNova for the lesbians
Pigeon
I. Love. Them.