— Ruth Hubbard, “The Political Nature of ‘Human Nature’“ (via gothhabiba)

Yes.

Here, have a study (x) showing that mothers underestimate their daughter’s physical capacity from as young as 11 months old (though in reality it’s identical to that of their son’s at the same age). And if you think that parents acting on those expectations won’t alter their children’s development, then I have a sloped bridge to sell you.

#people always massively underestimate just how good even very young children are at reading social expectations#long before any kind of intellectual understanding has the chance to develop#and so a lot of “oh but you were so normal as a child”-nonsense is like#yeah i was “normal” because i could tell what you expected of me even if i didn’t know why#even small children learn what’s “taboo” for them really fucking early on#but people keep pretending like it’s all nature#but it’s not#there’s so many things i wanted to do as child i never did because i knew on some basal level *weren’t allowed for me*#i never even asked#i knew it wasn’t allowed#something something “playing seal” for those who get the reference#expectations have real physical effects#bias has its own gravity#and most people have a choice between orbiting or crashing#because it’s very hard to leave it altogether

screw it im not leaving this as tags after all

tumblr will never count as social media to me. This shit a secret hideout and we just all happen to see each others thoughts

one of the most infuriating things about becoming an adult is when you realize that it actually is 10x easier to solve problems by making a phone call vs literally any other communication method

rb to make a biological essentialist mad <3

“This collapse is a telltale sign of a problem known as publication bias. Small, early studies which found a significant sex difference were likelier to get published than research finding no male-female brain difference.”

mithrun 🌞

Shoutout to whoever it was who informed me a few weeks ago that some types of Zofran have stevia in them because I got to tell my doctor about it today, and he literally made this face behind his mask because he had no idea, and he is also stevia intolerant:

Me, rocking up for my annual physical and my bucketload of weird health problems: so anyway [drops some new medical lore here]

Dr. Brandon who has been hanging on for dear life to the rollercoaster that's been my health saga since he saved my life in 2019, sweating nervously as he yet again learns something new about himself against his will: exCUSE ME?

Thank you for the warning. I go to my doctor who handles my Zofran prescription next week, so I'll talk to her then.

I have a laundry list of medications I have to take already. The fact I have to specify which generic manufacturers I can use on over half of them is obnoxious.

I feel you. It's a pain in the ass, constantly having to check ingredients. Fwiw, I've got an old (empty) bottle that doesn't list it on the ingredients, but my latest batch from a different manufacturer does.

So, y'know, before anyone panics and throws their meds away, check the ingredients on your bottle. It just never occurred to me to check my new Rx until someone pointed it out, and I had a "mother fucker" moment of realization.

So, for those in the notes wondering how it's possible to have an intolerance or allergy to stevia, I hate to break it to you, but bodies can react to just about anything in weird and unpredictable ways.

However, one of the main reasons people may react badly to Stevia is that it is not artificial, as some people seem to think it is.

Stevia is actually a plant (Stevia Rebaudiana) in the Asteraceae/Compositae plant family, which just so happens to be the same plant family as Ragweed, y'know, that little bastard that makes hayfever season so fucking miserable.

There are other components of stevia that a person may react to, but given how common ragweed allergies are, I'd bet a number of people are also sensitive to stevia due to the overlap.

So there you go. That's your 'fun' little tidbit for the day from your weird Auntie Joy with too many allergies.

Here’s a weird autism thing that I realized this morning—

-If a choir director tells my section to sing louder, I will do so, even if I am already at fortissimo.

-If a teacher criticizes my class for failing to take their work seriously, I will feel guilty, even if I’ve been turning every single assignment in on time.

-If a post calls people in general out for not doing a particular thing and says it’s their fault if a tragedy happens, I will feel stressed, even if I was already relentlessly doing the thing.

I need to be told separately about my personal progress, otherwise I will overcompensate and eventually end up burning myself out. As someone who puts conscious effort in trying to understand social cues, this really messes me up for some reason.

Shout-out to the autistics who crave hugs. Shout-out to the autistics whose love language is touch.

And shout-out to the autistics who were denied a timely diagnosis because a misinformed professional thought you were "too affectionate" to be autistic.

You aren't any less autistic because of how you show affection. And you aren't nearly as rare as pop culture and outdated research would imply.

You were the caretaker for the mythical beasts of the royal family. Yesterday they decided to replace you with some incompetent noble, before kicking you out of the castle. You then spent the night in a nearby forest. However today you were awakened by the beasts who chose to follow you.

I’m not good with people.

I never have been. I’ve tried, but I’ve never been good with people. I’m always saying the wrong thing, and usually I don’t know what the wrong thing was until a lot later, until I’m thinking about what I said. In the town I grew up in, I was known for being simple.

I don’t think I am, but I understand why they think that- I’m not good at making the words in my head match the words I say.

But I am good with animals. Always have been. Lots of people are, I’m not special, or anything. Mam taught me.

Animals speak their own language, and it’s a lot simpler to figure out. They’re not people, they don’t understand us. A lot of people who are bad at animals expect that. They think an animal should understand them perfectly. They think animals have human impulses, human urges, a human understanding of the world.

And they don’t.

Stray cats 🐈

Every contemporary video game RPG wants to give me a party of emotionally dysfunctional weirdos and then bends over backwards to ensure that none of my interpersonal decisions cause any intractable conflicts or have any lasting consequences, which just feels wrong to me – like the latter is actively undermining the former. I want to see an RPG that goes full early 90s dating sim. I want an RPG where organising my party composition is like that logic puzzle about getting a fox and a duck across a river.

I want an RPG where who you leave out of your party is as important as who you bring along because specific NPCs can't be left unsupervised together. Do you understand? I want there to be a non-zero chance of returning to headquarters after a successful mission to discover that certain people have been getting along too well and now the building is on fire.

did you know there's a day-by-day timeline of the plot in the dungeon meshi adventurer's bible and TODAY is when it all kicks off

happy falin gets eaten and the gang eats a monster day :)

full timeline under the cut! spoilers, obvs, and also disclaimer that the tail end (the part from the complete edition) is google-translated (but if you already know what the plot is its fine)

This is actually something I was thinking about is that rent can not exceed 1/3 of monthly minimum wage income.

So let's say state is on federal Minimum wage which is about 1100 a month so in that state no matter what rent on any place could not exceed 370 dollars.

Even if minimum wage was 15 dollars (about 2400 a month) max rent could be 800

So if landlord want more money they would have to fight bosses and state legislature to get it.

Like average Pennsylvania rent is 1400 and in this world if landlord wanted to charge that the would have to get minimum wage raised to 26 dollars an hour.

To bosses and landlords: