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KAT’ S Krack Ships And Other Favorite Things!

@tiernanka

I am basically a LaxLu and Zutara loving “soccer mom” type who also loves anime, cosplay, and especially my gay kiddo! I always hope I am the cool mom type, but blaring Metalica in the school parking lot negates that!
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oh gods it was parents evening again tonight..

other parents: how did you do that?
Me:do what?
Other parents: your teenager is eating a salad..
Me:i never forced him eat, now he will pretty much eat anything…except chicken casserole which we both agree is gross
Other parents:we don’t get it.
Me: our only rules are bed at eleven on a school night and don’t hack any important government agencies.
Other parents: you don’t restrict screen time?
Me: you know 95% of kids will self regulate, given the chance?
Other parents: thats not true
Me: have you tried it?
other parents:…but, now he’s reading 1984
Me: he has had a university reading level since he was 12, what am i going to do censor his reading material?
other Parents: what if he reads something you don’t approve of..
Me: i fail to see your reasoning…
Me: you know he cooks too..it’s our mother/son time, we talk about his friends…
other Parents: he talks??

That “he talks??” bit gets me

Yeah, kids talk. If your kid doesn’t talk to you, it’s because of one of two reasons:

  1. You’ve created such a hostile/unwelcoming home environment that they don’t feel comfortable enough to talk
  2. You have signaled to them somehow, some way, that you don’t care about what they have to say. That what they have to say isn’t important.

Kids are not stupid, not at any age level. They pick up on shit and they remember and then when they grow to be teenagers, they know who they can talk to about stuff and who they can’t.

My 13 year old nephew is not particularly affectionate with his mother and he rarely talks to her about anything important, but there are times I can’t get that kid to stop hanging off me and he has those serious conversations with me, like when we discussed his friends coming out to him as bisexual.

It’s not even that hard to make a kid feel loved and welcome. I don’t even know what my nephew is talking about half the time with his games, but they’re important to him, so I let him talk and I make appropriate noises of shock and sympathy when they are needed.

He watches a lot of YT channels, so we’ve discussed the importance of regulating your media, because I don’t want motherfuckers like PewDiePie shaping his world view.

He reads anything from Stephen King to manga and he does that because I’ve been reading him books since he was a baby. I do it with all of my nieces and nephews; when they get school-aged and old enough to read on their own, our “us” time is going to the bookstore and letting them pick out a drink and a book.

Because reading is important to me and I want it to be important to them, too. Now, it’s not something I suggest, it’s something that my nephew asks for.

“I finished my book, Aunt [Dessie], when can we go to the bookstore again?”

And when I tell him a date, I make sure to keep it.

Saying, “You can talk to me about anything” and “you can rely on me” is all well and good, but words are just words. You have to mean it and you have to show them that you mean it.

Otherwise, when it gets to those important moments in their life, they’re gonna shut you out rather than let you in.

Seriously though, you guys. Like.

Here is a secret:

Children and adolescents are actually fucking desperate for adult attention and approval. They really are. Even the ones that have in fact kinda got fucked up so far and have learned that The Only Kind Of Attention They’ll Get Is Bad and so act like shitheads, or the ones that have learned to be inhibited (and it might not even be you who inhibited them, it mighta been their peers or some teacher somewhere, which sucks!) and learned that by showing need they’ll just end up humiliated, or whatever?

Yeah them too.

Kids want to make you happy.

They’re often TERRIBLE AT IT. They’re kids. Their brains don’t work right, their bodies are weird, they have terrible impulse control, horrible deferred satisfaction, they’re shitty at projecting future consequences, and especially if they HAVEN’T been taught they’re probably bad at showing you positive emotions!

They’re BAD AT IT. And they often don’t want anyone to know it. And they’re embarrassed about it.

But they desperately want to. So much.

So one of the most crucial things is:

a) make sure they know how to make you happy. Don’t assume they can figure it out! They probably can’t!

b) make sure that’s something that is literally possible for them to do.

c) make sure, when they do it, that you SHOW THEM YOU’RE HAPPY WITH IT.

It is absolutely ASTONISHING HOW FAST this can create a self-sustaining cycle with the SMALLEST of starts.

I love talking to my mom about stuff cause she’s always so interested in what I have to say! @tiernanka and I are so open to each other about everything because I actually trust her with stuff!

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tiernanka

@felicitytheflyingcat, I feel the same way about you!!! I cherish every second I get to spend with you, and love talking about our days. I know I space out sometimes, but I think we all do at some point. Love you my kiddo!!!

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Trinity: Throughout the Ages

  • [Action Comics Vol. 1 #1000 (Kings Comics Exclusive Variant) (April 18, 2018)]
  • [Detective Comics Vol. 1 #1000 (Kings Comics Exclusive Variant) (March 27, 2019)]
  • [FCBD 2019 Sensation Comics #1000 Kings Comics “just for fun” lineup prints]

Artist by: Nicola Scott and Annette Kwok

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sumetal

Reach INTO your local blankey and you will find…

A friend and a girl

Reblog the Cookie of Warm Snuggles for a good snooze tonight…

I believe in Cookie

Cookie believes in YOU.

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cadenboy456

I believe in Cookie.

Cookie believes in YOU!!!!

I don’t believe in cookie.

Saddened by your hurtful words, she places a single paw on u to let u know- “though it pains me to meow this, understand and I respect ur decision.”

Stay strong, Cookie.

She has been revitalized (and elongated) by ur kind words and gentle belief in her

Cookie I’ve had a rough day can I have some comfort?

Who me

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the first five emotes on your recently used emojis describe you as a person ready set go

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Yes

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That’s fair.

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basically

💙📘😂😅💖 yep

🐍✉👌👆👈 I mean fair

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…..idk. Kinda acurate ngl

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Accurate.

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When did I use the anger cat?

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This works

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tiernanka

😹🤦🏻‍♀️🍀🥺🐰

Yup. That ‘bout sums it up...

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in case you guys wanna know what modern high school dances are like, at mine despacito came on and everyone t-posed around this one kid as he fortnite danced like his life depended on it

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little-klng

to be fair, at a school dance when i was in school, a kid i knew had completely memorized the choreography to the gangnam style music video and the rest of us yell-sang what does the fox say noises at her while she did it.. so like, not much different. same soil different pot

if cotton eye’d joe came on everyone would make the neatest fuckign lines and do the dance in sync. it was like a cult. but hell yeah it was fun as shit

Freeze!

Everybody clap your hands!!!

we really are the product of our generations

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tiernanka

Hey Macarena!

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spasserine

it’s 2019. i’m 22 and still Zutara trash.

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tiernanka

42, sitting in the corner yelling “YOU CAN PRY ZUTARA OUT OF COLD DEAD FINGERS!!!”

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tv shows with time travel organizations/bureaus/police/agencies/whatever should have a department with instead of a tech genius eating candy, it’s a harried seamstress or fashion designer who is like

“1450 italy? does it look like I have the time to dye you wool? nO. YOU’RE GOING TO THE 1980s”

and throws shoulder pads at the hapless time agent

“I literally made three- THREE- 18th century corsets last week. You can wait until one of them gets back, or you can go sometime post-1920s, because if I have to sew one more god damn channel I will literally lose my mind.”

“Upper middle class?!?!? You told me upper class! FUCK YEAH THERE’S A DIFFERENCE!!!

“How about kimoNO.”

“Look me in the eyes. I do not care what you want. This is the 1500s. You absolutely cannot wear trousers.”

“Another court gown?? Here’s a novel idea: go as a peasant for once in your life. Why do you do this to me? You’re fucking sadists that’s why.”

“Don’t mind me, I’ll just be up all night hand painting silk.”

“THE POLICY IS ONE MONTH’S ADVANCE NOTICE ON PRE-1900s WOMEN’S FASHION FOR A REASON, DEBRA.”

Allow me to recommend The Chronicles of St Mary’s books by Jodi Taylor, in which the costumes department frequently gets snippy.

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hyratel

@dovewithscales as a SCADIAN and the son of a costumer, with exposure to the approachable elite of that profession… ACCURATE, all of this

Yeah I used to hang with the SCA folks. I finagled my way into a free booth at the ren faire and did tarot there for a while. I was also tight with the Pensacola Costumer’s Guild, about equal parts cause I was SCA and cause I was also a furry.

And damn some of the costumes are impressive. 

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sumrsgirl

Since I’m not seeing her name nearly enough on the press, let’s give the attention Katie Bouman deserves. Thanks to her, we are now possible to see the first ever image of a black hole, something that people talked 200 years ago for the first time. It’s no longer a myth. We are girls and we can be whatever we want to be. Einstein would be proud of you, Katie. Thank you!

Here you can see a huge stack of hard drives she used for Messier 87’s black hole image data.

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in case you guys wanna know what modern high school dances are like, at mine despacito came on and everyone t-posed around this one kid as he fortnite danced like his life depended on it

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little-klng

to be fair, at a school dance when i was in school, a kid i knew had completely memorized the choreography to the gangnam style music video and the rest of us yell-sang what does the fox say noises at her while she did it.. so like, not much different. same soil different pot

if cotton eye’d joe came on everyone would make the neatest fuckign lines and do the dance in sync. it was like a cult. but hell yeah it was fun as shit

Freeze!

Everybody clap your hands!!!

we really are the product of our generations

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tiernanka

And this was mine...

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