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“I’m happy to hear that anon! At least you have an actual job to get back to, I too miss my job from time to time...”

“It’s okay to feel that way, just try to not focus a lot on it and remember that soon enough you’ll get used to the old routine again- please stay safe and remember that very soon everything will be alright anon! You’ll do well, I’m sure of it~”

-Totty 💖

I’m glad!! 🥺👉🏻👈🏻💞💞💞 i hope you’re doing well, anon!! 🥺💗💗💗 talk soon if you wanna!!

(I don’t think our Kara is active anymore, but Mod Choro will be your Kara!!)

“✨Hmph~ My dear rose~ 🌹 It would be unjustifiably wrong if I were to yell at you for something you merely cannot control, so instead, I’ll give you my love~”

“My dear Karamatsu lover~ I’m so very sorry you have been feeling anxious lately, it is unfair that the world must torture such a beautiful rose with these feelings, but that is no reason that you shouldn’t be able to engage in normal everyday activities~!”

“Anxiety is hard to deal with, but it is never unbeatable! I invite you to relax, my love~ Take a few deep breaths, maybe catch the afternoon breeze, listen to some music that calms you - personally, classical jazz is my go-to relaxant~” 

“It is important that you eat, my honey! It may be hard for you to gain an appetite at the current time, but don’t let that bring you down~ I believe this anxiety shall pass over soon, my beautiful rose~”

“I hope you’re doing well and I wish you the best of luck for the road ahead of you, my....Karamatsu lover~ 😎💙”

- 𝓚𝓪𝓻𝓪𝓶𝓪𝓽𝓼𝓾 🌹✨

(Mod Choro! hahah sorry i love getting into character)

At the moment? We do not 👀 pls talk to me, am here for u!!

- Mod churro

Oh? As far as I'm concerned I don’t think we’re off-duty ever, whichever Mod that has the time to answer will always do! Even if it’s a bit late since we are not that active here or in the fandom, but I wouldn’t consider it us coming back either >.> 

You can drop your ask if you want to and we’ll get back to you when we can!

-Mod Totty

(Oh lawd it’s been a while since i’ve answered one of these, this place either needs some dusting or be handed to active people in the fandom, idk únu)

It happens to a lot of people, that I know! It’s a good thing that even if you feel that way, you still love your parents and don’t actively hate on them; my advice is that you talk to them seriously about the way you feel whenever they say things that are harmful to your mental health, be honest and don’t hold back when you give yourselves this time to discuss.

You can always ask them what is it that they want you to do and work on your behavior if something bad pops up (like a bad habit, or a bad thing you did, or something they consider as bad). If that were the case, don’t change your whole self, just work on whatever bad stuff they see and either explain to them how it isn’t bad or come to an agreement!

You must also discuss your insecurities to your mom and express that it’s something you are working on, but can’t really do when she’s not helping, it’s no excuse for her to diminish you either! You should at last put that in nicer words, the least you can do,,

I really hope this helps you and you do better in the future! I believe in you anon, you’re amazing!!

-Mod Totty

Hi there, Moon! 

First off, it’s okay to be upset when your friends can’t spend time with you. That doesn’t make you a bad person, and it doesn’t mean you think they’re bad people, either. It just means you enjoy spending time with them, and miss when you can’t. 

I’m not qualified to diagnose anyone, but I would recommend seeing a therapist, or if you trust your parent(s) or some other adult, going to them about this. It won’t be a burden to do so, and you are not, you are never, a burden because you’re hurting. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve to lean on others so you can get to a place where you’re happy. 

And please, please know how wonderful you make this world! You’re bright as your namesake, okay? It’s not just that people would be sad if you left; they’re happy you’re here. 

Happy Holidays, and I hope this helps;

Mod Ichi

I’m so sorry this is so late. But, I don’t think that you’re being too pushy, not at all. if you’re still getting enough to eat, then I wouldn’t listen to her. While the input of our parents is important, it isn’t always right! However, if it becomes serious, I would suggest seeing a doctor? But genuinely not being able to keep down food doesn’t mean you don’t like it, or are being pushy! 

I hope this helps! ~Mod Ichi

M-Man! It’s been quite some time since i revistsed Motivationmatsu.. I-I’m sorry!! I’m still alive!!

Anyway... I’m really happy to hear from you, Noctis! It’s been a while, i hope you’re travelling well! I’m really really really REALLY glad you’re alive and well and absolutely our pleasure to help you out! I’m really proud of you and how far you’ve come and it’s magnificent to hear from you again!

Talk soon! 💚

- Mod Fappymatsu

(2/2) It got gradually more draining and I don't even know what to tell them anymore because it doesn't seem like any advice is working, be it to take a break or look into professional help on those thoughts. They felt better eventually, but they returned and been going off with pessimism without me saying a thing. I still don't know them well and I'm just so tired, I don't want to tell them to go away but like I've been telling them I'm not the person for all of this. I sound so rude I'm sorry

Hi, anon! First off, you’re not being rude at all. While it’s important to be able to talk to someone about your problems, people also need to be careful of who they’re talking to. 

It’s okay if you need to ask them to stop contacting you, if they’re not willing to stop coming to you about these things. So long as you don’t say they can’t talk to anyone about these things- which from what I’ve seen you certainly are not doing- I see nothing wrong with telling them to stop talking to you about them, or to be careful who they do talk to them about (telling them to seek professional help was a good idea, as well.)

All in all, it’s all right for you to tell them to go away if they’re not willing to stop venting to you, so to speak. You’re not obligated to try and help when it’s hurting you emotionally, as well. ^^ 

I wish you the best, and I hope this helps, anon! ~ Mod Ichi

(2/3)My friend says that it was only excuses and stuff and that they were foreign to me,but their parents let them go on hangouts. I dont know,is it really an excuse? Sometimes I’m too afraid to ask my parents because I KNOW they’re gonna say no and then I’ll get yelled at,which scares me. But I know that my friend would count that as an excuses and she’s done with excuses at this point. I don’t know,is she right?“

I feel like she doesn’t really want to understand why the fact my family is asian makes stuff different(the society,the views).My other friends might probably feel the same,only one of my friends are in a similar situation. I don’t know what to do,I don’t want to lose my friendship but I’ve already deleted the messaging app because I’m too coward to see their responses. I don’t know,I’m probably making excuses now and I don’t know it.”

I don’t think you’re making excuses, anon. Different families have different rules- if your family doesn’t want you to go, then I think your friend should be willing to respect that. Her family is a lot more flexible with this kinda stuff, and there’s nothing wrong with that, but that doesn’t mean she can call your family’s rules on this kind of thing excuses.

In short, I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong, anon,and while I’m not the best on friendship advice, I do believe she should respect those rules. 

I hope this helps! ~Mod Ichi 

You thought you’ve seen the last of us? Binches-

(We are all doing fine!! I guess,,I haven’t heard from Mod Kara in ever and her tumblr is kinda dead,, and I lost access to my account in Discord lmao but the rest of us are ace!! Hope Mod Oso is ok too!!)

Ah well, about your problem now- I know many peers who have the same problem as you, and needless to say that it’s completely normal! Sometimes parents compare us not to do any harm to their children but maybe to show them how much better they can be, you agree?

Even if they yell sometimes, well..you said you know they mean well, so that is something!! You are aware of it and you don’t let it take over you, so the best way to handle it is just ignoring it, distracting yourself; Try a little harder to get straight A’s or B’s or whatever! Y’know, one effective way to deal with it is talking to them about how it makes you feel!!“That seems scary!”Yes, it does, but just try to be as honest as possible, if they are caring they will make up for it or just apologize, smth between those lines~

Good luck!!