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Devotee of Hecate

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34f / poly / witchcraft / pisces
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To all my little gays and bi's who are mystified by the concept of flirting with girls, imma tell you how...

(This is sorta assuming you know that she’s confirmed lez or bi, but even if you don’t know for sure, none of the following will be obtrusive or offensive. If she’s down she’ll realize what’s happening. If not you’ll just come off as nice and “easy to talk to”.)

And I know these are all pretty intuitive, but growing up as a girl in a male-/hetero centric world even today girls are socialized from birth to be passive and not make the first move. This makes dating girls hard because no ones willing to put herself out there. We just keep staring at each other hoping one of us will get up the guts to say something.

So here’s your primer on how to be the one to do that and make something happen with a girl you like

1. The first move: If you just plain don’t know the gal, but you like her look, make some innocuous eye contact. If she responds in any kind of positive way, just go over and introduce yourself. If you already know her just walk up and say hey.

2. Talking: Simple is best for introductions: “Hi, I’m so and so.” Or “I’m so bad so, we have X class together.” Hand shaking is a nice touch. Include some brief eye contact, maybe just a beat longer than normal, and a smile. This works best at an event where there is music, sports, a dog park, something to talk about. E.g. “What’s your dog’s name?” or “This is a great song.”

3. Eye contact: When talking to this lady, make eye contact while you two are talking. Eye contact says “trustworthy” and “good listener.” Try not to look away.

If no one is talking for a few seconds, maintain eye contact but only a beat longer than necessary. This is key. It says “I’m interested.” But don’t let it become a stare or it borders on creepiness.

4. Smile: A smile says friendly, approachable, nice, and it ups the comfort level. Smile when you’re talking and making the above eye contact. You don’t need to smile every second or it might look a little deranged, but make sure you don’t have a resting bitch face or scowl. School your features if necessary.

5. Compliments: These are good conversation starters and/or work them in later. Do not lead with the old “you have beautiful eyes” bullshit. A) it’s unoriginal, and B) it’s easy to sound creepy. In fact, at this stage do not make it about her physical appearance at all. Good things to compliment: t-shirt, bag, jewelry, accessories, hat, maybe hair if it’s an extra cool style, etc.

6. Attentiveness: All of the above combined should say “I’m completely present” and “I’m here with you.” But also consciously try to maintain presence of mind and focus on what *she’s* saying instead of planning a response in your head the whole time. Just respond naturally based on what she’s saying without overthinking it. You just need to be you, not some extra impressive version of yourself.

7. Innocuous touching: Once the conversation is going, and she says something you like or makes you laugh, very brief, light arm or shoulder touching will further show you’re interested. Keep it brief, 1 second or less. If you’re sitting, and things are comfortable, a light knee touch would be okay too. But nothing above the knee. The touches should be a brush or a light pat. Nothing too grabby. Eye contact while touching is a good idea, but again nothing where it’s like staring.

8. Initiating further contact; aka getting her digits: If this is someone you wouldn’t ordinarily see and don’t know when / if you’ll see again, you’ll need her phone number (or other contact info for some social media texting/chatting type app). A good way to initiate this is to say something like, “Hey do you like to text?” Or “Do you do whatsapp?” (Or some other platform). This is a little more suave than going straight to “Can I get your number?”

9. Initiating texting: A simple “what’s up?” Should suffice.

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The great thing about all this simple stuff is that if the girl is straight, it will just come off as friendly, and it won’t seem creepy. You’ll know if she’s responsive in a flirtatious way (at the latest) once you start texting.

If she is gay/bi and has half a clue, she’ll respond in kind if interested and you can start upping the flirt game a little by lengthening the eye contact just a little, more innocuous touching, etc and gauge her response.

The key to gauging her responsiveness is being attentive.

Focus on her, not yourself. Women, all women - regardless of orientation - want to be heard, to be listened to, to have someone *there* with them. Someone truly present. Attention not in a clingy fawning-over kinda way but in a real way. This kind of attention builds trust, creates a comfort level.

What you want is for this young lady to feel good in your presence. That’s what she’ll remember when she’s at home: how good, safe, and listened-to she felt.

You don’t have to be perfect, or some arbitrary definition of “hot,” or anything else other than yourself to make this happen.

And if she’s not into you, so what? What have you really lost? Nothing. What have you risked? Nothing. Consider it practice for meeting the next lady who interests you.

Good luck, my little friends.

If I get a lot of response/reblog on this I’ll write one about asking girls out.

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i love when gordon yells really funny things really seriously like he just got so mad about beef sliders and was like WHERE ARE THE SLIDERS FOR FUCKS SAKE OH MY GOD THE SLIDERS and he just grabbed both sides of his face in disbelief

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I kind of wish fellow polytheists could have actual discussions about gods/where they come from/syncretism/upg/ negative experiences/etc without people getting immediately defensive because somebody has different views on gods than they do

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Wine in Witchcraft!

I saw this post by @cosmic-witch and realized… I don’t think I’ve ever seen correspondences written up for types of wine before! So I spent some time and put some together based on their flavors/aromas/etc. Enjoy, wine-loving witches!

Wine in general is associated with happiness, success, love, relationships, and offerings.

Red Wine

In General

Element: Earth Season: Winter Associations: Love, warmth, contemplation, happiness, success, money, passion, health, lust

Cabernet Sauvignon

Tastes Like: Full-bodied, bell pepper, olives, herbs, black cherry, tannic/rough Element: Earth Associations: Grounding, protection, banishing, strength, energy, lust, fertility, ancestors, written magic such as sigils

Merlot

Tastes Like: Soft/round, blackberry, cherry, plum, herbal notes Element: Water, fire Associations: Unity, love, passion, self-care, protection, healing, prosperity, sexuality, sea witchcraft, water magic

Pinot Noir

Tastes Like: Delicate and fresh, fruity, tea leaf, worn leather, tomato leaf, pale cherry, beet root, strawberry, blackberry, earthy Element: Earth, air Associations: Prosperity, protection, wealth, success, beauty, passion, glamours

Shiraz

Tastes Like: Hearty, spicy, black pepper, black currant, clove, blackberry, plum, leather, tar Element: Fire, earth Associations: Wealth, banishing, divination, tech witchcraft, comfort, mystery, secrets, endings

Zinfandel

Tastes Like: Rich, zesty, raspberry, raisin, black cherry, blackberry, pepper Element: Earth Associations: Growth, wealth, plant magic, vigor, stamina, happiness, love, healing, versatility

White Wine

In General

Element: Air Season: Summer Associations: Joy, happiness, love, relationships, friendships, endings, success, energy, purification

Chardonnay

Tastes Like: Wider-bodied, light, velvety, apricot, mango, green apple, citrus, melon, vanilla Element: Water Associations: Peace, emotions, safety, success, happiness, balance, polarity, purification, mental power/abilities

Muscat

Tastes Like: Sweet, acidic, fruity, grapefruit, musk, citrus, apricot, rose, caramel Element: Air Associations: Love, mystery, lust, relationships, fertility, purity, cleansing, healing, love magic

Pinot Grigio

Tastes Like: Crisp, dry, fruity, peach, pear, acidic Element: Air Associations: Rebirth, endings, new beginnings, happiness, reality, creativity, longevity, divination (especially open-ended, like tarot)

Riesling

Tastes Like: Steely, crisp, fresh, slightly sweet, pear, apple, peach, petrol, honey Element: Fire, water Associations: Energy, movement, growth, rebirth, love, friendship, attraction, activity such as dance, preparation, cleansing

Sauvignon Blanc

Tastes Like: Herbal, grass, bell pepper, green apple, lime, gooseberry, jalapeno, melon, mango, black currant, passionfruit, peach Element: Air, earth Associations: Love, peace, friendship, companionship, arts, healing, happiness, joy, spirit work

Rosé Wine

In General

Element: Air Season: Spring Associations: Beginnings, happiness, excitement, friendship, new romance, love, passion, playfulness, relaxation, luck

Sparkling Wine

In General

Element: Fire Season: Summer Associations: Success, completion, celebration, wealth, opportunity, setting things in motion, prosperity, space witchcraft, weather magic, adding a “spark”

Feel free to use these however you’d like and add your favorite wines!

Omg this is amazing

@sylvaetria this one?

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Build-a-spell Basics

So you want to cast a spell to do a certain thing but the Google overlords are letting you down with being unable to find something that fits your exact needs? Well may I suggest weaving your very own spell together to do the thing? 

It can be daunting to make your own spell, especially if your new or have some idea that everything must follow strict rules. 

This list can be adapted to fit any type of ‘Crafting a person might practice. This are not hard rules, bend them in whatever direction you need them to go in order to fit into your situation. 

  1. What do you want to happen? In your spell book, or online doc, write down what you want this spell to accomplish.
  2. Pick the method of casting to best achieve results. Sigils are great for slow release spells, jars and satchels are best for area of effect spells, jewelry for enchantments, etc. 
  3. Research. Look online for similar spells, what do others use for theirs? What do you want to change? 
  4. Decide what you need for your spell. If you’re making a jar spell, gather ingredients that you already have to use in the spell. This means researching different meanings and uses of objects. Raid your spice cabinet, most of what’s in there fills out a large list of spell types. 
  5. Keep it simple. Don’t over complicate things, the more items you add to a spell the more ways it has of going wrong. And the universe is kinda a dick so there will be things that go wrong. 
  6. Don’t be afraid to ask an object if it’ll loan you it’s energy to your spell. If you’ve got a glass jellyfish and you’re casting an stinging curse it’s okay to ask it to help you. 
  7. Create the energy key. You know those words people make you chant 3 times over a glass of whatever? That’s an energy key. It’s focusing your intent + energy and pushing it into the universe path to make it pay attention. Key’s don’t have to be long and complex. If all you want is ‘The best mac and cheese’ make that your key. If haiku’s are more your thing use that. Once the key is made you can use it again and again later because you’re inserting it’s blueprint into the universe at this moment. Sigils are the picture version of an energy key. 
  8. Craft the object for the spell. Mix your ingredients, draw the sigil, stuff the jars. The ingredients should compliment the energy key’s purpose in life.
  9. Weave, draw, whisper, or however else your energy key onto the object from step 7. 
  10. Congrats! You’ve made a spell! 
  11. Make more, write notes, test results, experiment. And most importantly don’t force yourself to fit in a square if you happen to be more octagonal shaped. Meaning, do what feels right not what the internet says is best. 
  12. Oh, and clean between ‘crafting. Types of energy can be stick and you don’t want that curse goo messing with luck enchantments. 
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Finding Your Center with the Wheel of Fortune

We all know the Wheel of Fortune, and often look at it from a point of pure optimism. Things will get better, the Wheel is going to turn in your favor. And sometimes, that optimism, that faith that luck will be with you is all you need!

But sometimes … that way of reading it feels empty to me. I can’t make myself believe that the universe will turn in my favor or that maybe it’s just going to slow for me. Sometimes forcing myself to smile and say that the sun will come out tomorrow just doesn’t feel like I’m allowing myself to truly feel and experience where life has me NOW.

That has really changed how I look at The Wheel when it comes up. When you think about a wheel - the edge goes round and round, setting sitting on the edge will ride all of the ups and downs. But, at the center of every wheel, there is a point of stillness, and that’s been my focus when I see The Wheel. I know my life will bring me up and down and high and low as I move forward, but when I’m in the lows, I’m not craving the highs and when I’m high, I’m not reminiscing the lows. Within myself, I can find that stillness, that presence and it becomes less about looking to the future for the change to come and more about knowing that where I am is always where I’m meant to be. If it’s unpleasant, there’s a lesson for me, and if it’s fantastic it’s because I deserve joy.

It can seem counterintuitive when I’m hurt to dive deeper into it, but if I do the work when I’m feeling it, I can better find the root cause and heal it from the source. And of course, when I’m happy, allowing myself to feel into it fully allows me to know where my Soul wants to take me. From any point of the wheel, falling into my center brings me to the same place, of wholeness and healing.

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