I'm a curious person but damn I'm not that curious where I wanna know everything about his personal life 😭 fan culture is scary and very concerning
mhmm. as someone who is very obsessed with Hayden and has loved him and his work since I was like 8, I am really fine with him having a private personal life that I don’t have access to 😂
when I was like 12 I was convinced that I was going to meet and get to date Nick Jonas. and if you’re also 12, I think that’s developmentally appropriate 😂 but if you’re an adult, pls grow up and leave him alone lol
The asks you getting are honestly scary to me, especially that Hayden is very private, he doesn't go around talking, he doesn't talk about his life and in interviews he literally replies to questions with the most minimum information he could give if it's related to his personal life which is almost rare, I think the last interview that got personal was during kenobi when he got asked about Briar, he's not open about his life so to find people knowing that he could be moving around and on what date which picture was taken is downright stalking behaviour.
It's the same with those who leaked his number during a con, people are pushing him back to solitude with this creepy behaviour.
yeah I do feel like sometimes people can get really deep into the culture of being online and using social media and they kind of forget certain real life boundaries? like writing fanfic about a character and imagining being with them is so fun but it’s complex, there’s a real person behind that actor who deserves autonomy and boundaries and respect…and we love them so much it can be difficult to remember that
but yes, I absolutely do not support leaking his personal info, taking/sharing photos of Briar, etc. Be happy with what he gives us! and leave him alone. and again, fantasizing about celebrities is fun and totally fine, but unless you’re 13 and delusional, it’s really not okay to consider that as anything other than fantasy
bro why do people use you as an inside source to hayden’s life 😭😭😭 40% of ur asks are dating speculations im crying
idk y’all HOW WOULD I KNOW lol I’m just a fan who happens to be good at writing fanfic
and it’s a little creepy!! like I get why people are curious, I do, but just be at peace with what we get from him and leave him alone for the rest haha
wait wait… to that last anon, i actually am curious though because isn’t chris evens (captain america in marvel) married to some normal 26 year old and isn’t he hayden’s age?
I’m going to be honest, this is the kind of fan discourse that makes me kind of uncomfortable. Because being a fan of someone is so fun, we get to enjoy their work etc. but to me we as fans don’t get access (and shouldn’t get access) to that person’s personal life. like yes they date people but it feels a little stalkery to consider dating a celeb as anything other than fantasy.
would hayden ever return to his ex after them being broken up since 2017? like i know they co-parent and stuff… but like, the last recent photo we got (4/20/2024) was of him and some guy from a moving company in LA… would he actually move in with her again? just for briar? or would that risk confusing her considering they’ve always lived in separate homes for so many years? — i’d like to know that too as we have that pic of him and the moving dude!
I don’t think Hayden is moving in with Rachel and I don’t think they’re back together. I mean, there is no way of knowing, but that’s my opinion, they could have just been moving in new furniture or something. It seems unlikely to me that they are back together.
You are not damaged goods. You are a wonderful creative person who has a lot to offer. If anyone in your life is making you feel like you aren’t good enough to have what you want, then cut them out and make better friends. Get a dating app and go on some dates. There are people out there even for nerds like us (in fact, there are plenty of other nerds who also want a relationship haha). // that didn’t really answer the main question i was asking, but thanks anyways…
in a way, say it was possible… would hayden ever go for someone as, complicated as me?
hey sorry I guess I didn’t know the primary question you were asking…I mean it’s just not possible for most of us to date celebrities, so no, I don’t think it’s possible for any of us to date Hayden.
do I think it’s possible that someone very cool and hot and creative and awesome would go for you? absolutely, 100% ❤️
would hayden ever return to his ex after them being broken up since 2017? like i know they co-parent and stuff… but like, the last recent photo we got (4/20/2024) was of him and some guy from a moving company in LA… would he actually move in with her again? just for briar? or would that risk confusing her considering they’ve always lived in separate homes for so many years?
this is genuinely coming from someone that is delusional enough to think they’d ever have a chance with him, when i know he’d never take a second glance at me. given that i’m a victim of childhood trauma/neglect and am “damaged goods”and well i have nothing to offer or attached to my name, i’m not rich or famous. i’ve been a loner most of my life and never even been with anyone before… yet for someone like hayden, my heart for some reason stays. no matter how painful it is. it’s like that song by taylor swift: “i look in people’s windows”
it’ll always be the “if only” for me… i’m currently in therapy by the way and have adamantly spoken about all this with my therapist as weird as this whole message is. i’m just lost, in this crazy world — knowing for a fact i will die alone. no kids of my own, no one at the wake. just me and my ghost.
i’m sorry oli for this submission… i’m keeping myself anonymous for reasons, but my mind has been spinning like the wash cycle on a washing machine. going round and round and i don’t have anyone to talk to about this. i’m not in a parasocial relationship at all… just someone that’s delusional to ever be considered as someone to ever have someone as extraordinary and loving as hayden.
i hope you’re doing well, love your page immensely and i mean no harm or anything with this submission… i’m just praying you’ll post it with an honest answer about all of this.
hi, first of all, I’m so sorry you’re struggling right now, it sounds like you are not in a good headspace, and I would absolutely encourage you to a) talk through all of this with your therapist (even stuff about Hayden!!) and b) please talk to some friends or family about how you’re feeling
second of all, there is absolutely nothing wrong with fantasizing about a celebrity! it’s fun, and can be a good coping mechanism. crushes on celebrities are great. everyone on Tumblr here thinks so.
it sounds like, from my perspective, you’re kinda dissociating from your real life and living in fantasy land to make things easier. and as I said, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, as long as you don’t do it for too long. giving yourself a month or two of just fantasizing to get through is totally fine. but it sounds like you kind of want to be living more in reality, so I would say—
get busy!! fill your time with offline, real life hobbies
try to make some new friends or talk to some new people!! get to know people at work or school that you haven’t talked to much
get outside and off your phone (literally always helps me)
You are not damaged goods. You are a wonderful creative person who has a lot to offer. If anyone in your life is making you feel like you aren’t good enough to have what you want, then cut them out and make better friends. Get a dating app and go on some dates. There are people out there even for nerds like us (in fact, there are plenty of other nerds who also want a relationship haha).
I have totally been in a place before of having obsession cycles about celebrities or books or whatever. and it is true, none of us are ever going to date Hayden, but that’s okay!! getting back into reality a bit will help you feel better. and liking celebrities is just a nice and fun hobby—only do it when it’s fun.
Sorry to hear you are going through it Oli!! 😭💔 Solidarity sister I recently had a crush on someone who literally lives in my building (university) and I had to walk past his door like everyday and he has a gf so I would just like imagine them in there and yeah…it hurted
I would say my advice depends on why you can’t be with the person you like. Is it because they have a gf/bf? Are they not attracted to girls? Distance? Is there an actual reason?
If there’s not a real reason, then GO FOR IT. Tell this person you like them bc WHY NOT, what do you have to lose, shoot your shot!! Tell them you like them!!
If there is a real reason you can’t be with them, then…what helped me was trying to fancy other people so that I could forget him. I also tried to think of all his rubbish qualities (his degree is business management…ew?) The last thing I would say is get some ice cream or pudding and eat it all and cry and eventually after doing that enough times you’ll feel better 😘 😂 and you could also write more My Very Soul, that would make you feel better…(I’m kidding! I am not manipulating your heartbreak for my own person gain!! but….)
Much love Oli, anyone who doesn’t want to be with you has got to be a stupid prick ❤️
this is so sweet, thank you 💙 solidarity yes it sounds like a vaguely similar situation and yes there is an actual reason I can’t be with them (otherwise I promise I would tell them 😢) they are not a prick sadly it would probably be easier if they were
it is sad but I’ve just been like listening to sad songs and I still have homework before my semester ends it’s just been hard to focus on it hahahahaha can’t wait to self destruct soon
I’m kidding, it’ll be fine, I’m just sad rn 💔 but I love you thank you for saying this
helloooo if youre comfortable sharing do u know when u plan to update my very soul? i hope ur doing good im obsessed i just finished reading the latest chapter! hope ur having a good night/day <3 ᕕ( ՞ ᗜ ՞ )ᕗ
hi I have been seeing these comments and I promise I am not ignoring you, in fact I am deeply in love with you, and everyone who read/reads My Very Soul.
I love love love that story and I loved sharing it with all of you. I had no intention of stopping but it turns out the reality of grad school has made me feel super burnt out and overworked and there hasn’t been time for fanfic as a hobby 😭
I do hope to go back to it at some point (maybe I’ll have time over the summer?) but at this point I’m not sure when that will be. I’m sorry I don’t have a better answer for you. I wish we could all be unemployed and just play with stories all day!!! and thank you so much for caring about the story, truly, it still means the world. I’m sorry I can’t give you more right now.
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